Marijuana & Sex: Confessions of a Periodic Pot Head

Tue, 05/31/2011 - 16:08
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Thousands of years before the time of Christ, the cannabis hemp plant was Earth's largest agricultural crop that produced the majority of fiber, fabric, lighting oil, paper, incense and medicines. Hemp was also the primary source of essential food, oil and protein for humans and animals.

From 1776 until 1937, hemp was a major American crop that supplied textiles, paper and medicines. This hardy plant grows 6 to 8 feet tall in one season and sends oxygen into our atmosphere. Using hemp could slow down deforestation that also provides our atmosphere with oxygen along with all the other material goods. So we might wonder why America would declare war on such a beneficial plant.

Like most Americans, I grew up drinking alcohol, a socially acceptable drug. I knew nothing about marijuana. My first time smoking pot wasn’t until I was about to turn forty. It was right before my second art exhibition in 1970 of masturbating nudes that followed my 1968 show of erotic art: The Love Picture Exhibition.

A week before the show, I took a night off to spend an evening with my old friend, Joe Rubin, a big, good natured guy everyone liked. We'd gone to a couple of sex parties together and Joe always got stoned and spent most of the evening on his back with an impressive erection pointed toward the ceiling. When I arrived at his apartment, Joe always asked if I wanted to share a joint and I always said "No thanks." However, this time I hesitated a moment. That’s when he reminded me that pot had become a middle-class high. Abby Hoffman lit a joint and smoked it on national TV. He said I owed it to myself to try it at least once. While it was true I’d been thinking about it, after ten years of not drinking alcohol, I liked being clear headed. Then suddenly I surprised both of us by saying yes.

Joe rolled two joints. He said it was difficult to tell what being "high" felt like for a first-timer but after we’d finished the second joint, indescribable sensations began to travel the length of my body. First my face felt like it was cracking apart. I had to look in a mirror to see if I was okay. Joe said it was my muscles relaxing. Next I stretched out on the bed and begin laughing at everything he said. When he slipped earphones over my ears, suddenly The Moody Blues were inside my head with sound in every cell of my body. I became the music. I climbed on top of Joe’s sturdy cock, and closed my eyes as I imagined fucking the entire group. My body easily followed the musical composition as I moved in time with the beat, riding his hardon, pressing into his body and rubbing my clit with wet fingers. I was form following function. I came when the music came and as I floated in the afterglow, the universe echoed our stoned libretto.

I had experienced an eternity of pleasure, traveled endless realms of delight, but when I looked at the clock, only twenty minutes had passed! I told Joe his clock had stopped, but he laughed and said my brain had just gone on vacation. It was called being “spaced out.” Then he left the bedroom and returned with two frozen Powerhouse candy bars wrapped in paper napkins. With a big grin, he announced, "Dinner is served." Side by side, we lay in bed listening to the Moody Blues album, savoring the texture and sweetness of the candy bars made more exquisite by the high. The magic herb had allowed every one of my senses of touch, sound, sex and taste to receive maximum pleasure. No wonder marijuana was illegal. If the entire country got stoned, it would put an end to capitalism! The next day I felt wonderful. No hangover, only a feeling of being rested with a lovely memory of euphoria.

Marijuana was even better than I’d expected. At first I was only comfortable getting high in a safe environment preferably at home. I enjoyed exploring my orgasms alone or with a lover while pot slowed down my brain waves and enhanced my senses. I never got high when I organized a party because there was too much to keep track of. The same was true when I ran a workshop. Although I supported the use of marijuana and spoke of its benefits with women in the groups, I had also learned that some people got paranoid once they felt a loss of control. When that happened, they needed a baby sitter until the high wore off which took several hours. Besides, I believed that learning something new is always better with a clear mind. This is still true to this day. It’s unfortunate that kids start smoking pot so young. It seems to me that it’s the perfect middle-aged drug to help adults escape their nagging mental processes and get back into their bodies and senses.

Throughout the decade of the 70’s I was an ageing hippy enjoying weekend highs with the Magic Herb. When I learned Mother had glaucoma, I taught her how to smoke pot using a bong. It greatly helped with her pain management. After that trip, I would mail her rolled joints in a box of cigarillos whenever she ran out. Mother was so impressed with this healing herb that she made several donations to NORML. Marijuana has been available throughout the bogus war on drugs. Talk about a ridiculous law! If pot and prostitution were made legal and the rich paid taxes, the US deficit would quickly disappear.

When I turned fifty in 1980, I particularly appreciated marijuana at the beginning of menopause. But the following year when I began to write a sexual memoir, I stopped getting high to keep my short term memory sharp. I was dedicated to documenting my sex life as a sex positive feminist. After discovering I couldn’t sell the memoir, I began producing videos as we entered the 1990’s. Toward the end of that decade, I again embraced marijuana to help with pain management as I suffered degenerating hip joints with bone grinding on bone with every step. After I had bilateral hip replacement at the age of sixty-seven, I was a born again hedonist.

So why did the American government declare war on a plant? Will it surprise you if I said it was about corporations, money and lying politicians? After prohibition ended, the US government had a lot of federal officers who were out of job. So the Federal Bureau of Narcotics (FBN) was created to put an end to the use of marijuana. The four main players that wrote and passed this absurd 1937 law was Senator Henry Anslinger, who was up for re-election, and the money men were William Randolph Hearst, Andrew Mellon and the DuPont family.

The decision of Congress to pass the Marijuana Tax Act of 1937 was based on hearings held behind closed doors. In 1936 the Federal Bureau of Narcotics (FBN) drafted a legislative plan for Congress, seeking a new law. The head of the FBN, Henry Anslinger, ran a campaign against marijuana seeking re-election. His buddy, William Randolph Hearst’s newspaper empire (much like Rupert Murdock today) published articles that demonized the cannabis plant. They claimed that smoking marijuana led to violent crimes, insanity, women having sex with Negroes, and a general decline in morals. The obvious goal was to destroy the hemp industry. Today we all laugh at the popular movie back then called “Reefer Madness.”

With the invention of the decorticator, a machine much like the cotton gin, hemp was a cheap substitute for paper pulp used in the newspaper industry. Hearst knew it was a threat to his extensive timber holdings. Andrew Melon, who was then Secretary of the Treasury and the wealthiest man in America, was also heavily invested in DuPont’s new synthetic fiber nylon that would replace the traditional resource of cloth from hemp. Thanks to the combined efforts of Hearst, Mellon and DuPont, the “good ole boys” succeeded in getting what they wanted by denying the American people access to the truth. Sound familiar?

Today we now have medical marijuana in some states. With a doctor’s prescription, a person can legally purchase a high grade of marijuana for whatever ails them. Anyone interested in this incredible plant can Google "The Great Marijuana Conspiracy." The use of marijuana has been considered sacred in many cultures with a long history of benefiting spiritual practices. Even as recent as the 1920’s here in the USA, cannabis was used as a medicine for many ills. One popular recommendation was for women with painful periods or a menopause that was difficult. Today Medical Marijuana has proven to be a miracle herb for many ills but we remain controlled by our out-dated war on drugs. It seems that American politicians only know how to declare war not to make peace or make any progress. Congress needs to smoke some weed, chill out and enjoy some stoned sex. What a difference that would make!

In my opinion, of all the recreational drugs, marijuana is the sweetest and most beneficial one. The dangerous drugs are pharmaceuticals and they are sold legally. I can barely believe my ears when I hear a prescription drug advertised on television followed by announcing possible negative side affects, albeit very fast. Good grief, it’s enough to scare any thinking person. The people who go for these drugs must believe the warnings don’t apply to them or that they’ll beat the odds. Big corporations have nothing but profit in mind and we don’t stand a chance unless we come back to our senses— actually! Now more than ever before, we need a healthy population to stand up to a government that is of, by and for the multi-national corporations.

America’s war on marijuana smokers has been successful in creating an atmosphere of self-censorship quite similar to censoring sexual and religious diversity. Speaking out about the cannabis plant in any positive way continues to be considered taboo. Since I’ve spent the second half of my life speaking out about another taboo subject— masturbation, I’ve often gone public and shared the benefits I’ve experienced with marijuana. Once a person becomes an octogenarian, the amount of freedom some of us feel makes growing old worthwhile. Besides, I doubt the US government will bust a well-known Ph.D. sexologist like me— if they do, just remember, you can’t buy that kind of publicity!

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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WHY couldn't you sell the

Marias Chaos's picture
Tue, 05/31/2011 - 16:41
Marias Chaos

WHY couldn't you sell the memoir????

A interesting and good

Tue, 05/31/2011 - 20:07
Lau and Vin (not verified)

A interesting and good article about Marijuana. A pleasure to read as many of the blogs on this site. Thanks for spreading your thoughts on this Betty.

Good Words on Weed

Tue, 05/31/2011 - 23:23

Thanks for the excellent cannabis piece.  Maybe most of the people coming to this website are already familiar with pot and its virtues; still the history is worth telling.  Also, I like the rational observation that it's the perfect middle-age drug;  children really can't benefit from sensory enhancement or time-warping.  Nor do they need so much sugar or any alcohol for that matter. Really, chocolate should be enough for kids.
I think marijuana won't be legalized at the federal level anytime soon.  Like the post-Prohibition Feds looking for a reason to exist, the present-day, enormous DEA bureacracy must structure a very large part of their budget on stamping out the evil weed. That's a lot of paychecks and some powerful people maintaining their empire. They are working the game pretty well for themselves.  By keeping pot illicit they can insure much of the traffic will be handled by hard drug dealers and when they say marijuana is a "gateway" drug they can make a convincing case.
Let's keep hoping;  gradually sex is becoming less terrifying to America,  maybe someday we can both pull and smoke a joint without fear of arrest.

playing pretend

Kid For Today's picture
Fri, 06/03/2011 - 19:52
Kid For Today

Why is there always such a lack of balance and objectiveness with these types of pro-cannabis articles? Why is it so hard to accept for some people that cannabis, like every other drug, has both good and bad qualities and should be used with caution? Cannabis is not some miracle plant from heaven that magically makes everything better, and it's not some perfectly safe hobby wherein inhaling large quantities of smoke into your lungs while chemically altering your brain's composure is somehow not potentially harmful.

Where is mention of the adverse short-medium term effects it can have on your memory and learning abilities? The links to schizophrenia and other psychological disorders? That despite it not being physically addictive, it is still very much mentally addictive and hence potentially destructive in the same way addictions to sex, pornography, and gambling can be? The greatly increased risk of respiratory illness and overall deterioration of the immune system, similar to smoking cigarettes? The inconclusiveness on its links to various cancers?

Until the pro-cannabis crowd can acknowledge these scientifically backed truths about their precious drug, no one who isn't already a mindless liberal or a pothead will ever take them seriously, in which case it will continue to be nothing but a giant circle-jerk (okay, maybe that’s a bad example considering who I’m talking to lol).

My point is that marijuana use should be legalized, but not because it's safe and harmless; this myth needs to go away. People need to be PROPERLY EDUCATED so that they can make responsible decisions. Just like how we properly educate people on alcohol and cigarette usage. This article is not educating; it's romanticizing and glorifying. I mean hell, even the corrupt prescription-drug industry informs you of the possible side-effects.

not educating= romanticizing ,glorifying

Marias Chaos's picture
Sat, 06/04/2011 - 02:04
Marias Chaos

I disagree...

It is a personal informational piece that has provoked conversation..It's all good!

Dialog is wonderful and thought provoking.

Angry Kid

Sat, 06/04/2011 - 02:22

Gosh, that's a lot of anger there over marijuana.  You surely know this site attracts a writhing mass of mindless liberals, sexually and pornographically addicted, gambling with their mental and physical health all the time.  I won't even mention the incessant circle-jerking.

What are the chances of any of them being PROPERLY EDUCATED Right... just about zero. Still, part of the problem comes when you go looking for real data establishing the "scientifically backed truths."  DEA spokesman (read expert) opinion is all over the place; real data not so much.  Nobody can keep some fragment of the population from abusing any substance you can think of.  When I get depressed over stuff like this I have a pull on my pipe.

J, I'm referring to

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Sat, 06/04/2011 - 05:48
Kid For Today

J, I'm referring to scientific, peer reviewed studies. Not the bullshit your government prints on anti-drug panthlets.

(Wikipedia)Cannabis use has been assessed by several studies to be correlated with the development of anxiety, psychosis, and depression. [...]

Dr Stanley Zammit of Bristol and Cardiff universities (in the Daily Express newspaper of 27 July 2007) reported, "Even if cannabis did increase the risk of psychosis, most people using the drug would not get ill" But he added: "Nevertheless, we would still advise people to avoid or limit their use of this drug, especially if they start to develop any mental health symptoms or if they have relatives with psychotic illnesses." A 2007 study of studies published in the Lancet concluded that cannabis users are 40% more likely to be sufferers of a psychotic illness than non-users.

The BEACH study (Bettering the Evaluation and Care of Health) conducted by the Australian General Practice Statistics and Classification Centre, based at the University of Sydney, found that "cannabis smokers are more likely to suffer depression, anxiety and psychosis". The report continues that of the number of patients who mentioned cannabis use to their GP, 48% had a psychological problem, including 19% with depression, 9% with psychosis and 6% had anxiety. [... ] Much of the evidence for a short-lived cannabis psychosis is largely based on case reports where heavy cannabis use has preceded the onset of a psychotic episode, which then remits on abstinence.

A large, unselected population-based study, published in British Journal of Psychiatry (2008), examined cannabis use and prodromal symptoms of psychosis at age 15–16 years and concluded that cannabis use was associated with prodromal symptoms of psychosis in adolescence.

In a recent study at the Institute of Psychiatry at King's College London, scientists have confirmed a link between potent cannabis use ("skunk" cannabis, which accounts for 80 per cent of street seizures of the drug in the UK) and transient psychotic symptoms in healthy people. After testing 22 healthy males in their late 20s by injecting them with THC, with a control dummy injection administered to a percentage of the sample group, a link was found between the chemical and psychosis, "in which hallucinations leave sufferers unable to know what is real and what is imagined". Dr Paul Morrison, who led the team, concluded, "these findings confirm that THC can induce a transient acute psychological reaction in psychiatrically well individuals".

The largest longitudinal study examining the link between cannabis and psychosis was undertaken by Andreasson and colleagues and followed 45,570 male Swedish Army conscripts for 15 years. After controlling for other factors such as parental mental illness or a pre-existing psychotic illnes at conscription, the study found that the odds of developing schizophrenia later in life were "1.5 times higher for those who had used cannabis 1-10 times and 2.3 times more likely for those who had used cannabis 10 times or more".


(BBC) Using cannabis as a teenager or young adult increases the risk of psychosis, a report suggests. The study published in the medical journal BMJ involved tracking 1,900 people over a period of 10 years. Although the link between cannabis and psychosis is well established, it had been unclear whether cannabis triggered the disorder. This research strongly suggests that cannabis use comes first, rather than people taking it for their symptoms. It found that cannabis use "significantly" increased the risk of psychotic symptoms, even when other factors such as socio-economic status, use of different drugs and other psychiatric conditions were taken into account. Sir Robin Murray, professor of psychiatric research at the Institute of Psychiatry, said the study added "a further brick to the wall of evidence" showing that use of traditional cannabis is a contributory cause of psychoses like schizophrenia. He said it was one of 10 prospective studies all pointing in this same direction.

As someone who's seen marijuana use destroy the life of both a family member and a best friend (and believe it or not still thinks it should be legal, just as alcohol and tobacco are despite being potentially destructive), it really does boil my blood to see people equating cannabis useage to things that truly are harmless and natural like masturbation. Maybe it's different up here in Canada, but talking about pot isn't taboo at all. This sort of glorification of pot is rampant in pop-culture and society (which is full of mindless liberals and potheads). Nobody seems to give a shit about this important and widely available information. They ignore it or call it a conspiracy and embrace ignorance, just as most people reading this will continue to do (or perhaps they've stopped reading already).

Who's the expert, the researcher who never tried it?

Sun, 06/05/2011 - 05:38
ToppHogg (not verified)

Setting aside the "educated" debate, as a former smoker I miss very much the experience of having sex while high. The intensity of the experience is far more relaxing and beneficial than any Soma the drug industry wants to push, and with far fewer side effects.

Dear "Kid for Today" with the

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Sun, 06/05/2011 - 13:05
Betty Dodson

Dear "Kid for Today" with the tag line "My body is ready!" While that might be true, I'd suggest your mind needs some work. What ever happened to live and let live? You managed to sound like a top cop for the prohibition of ingesting pot. Speak for yourself young man and don't be so quick to condemn an eighty year old woman/healer who gets pain relief from the cannabis hemp plant! 

Still More Pot Talk

Mon, 06/06/2011 - 00:35

Looking over the statements you've quoted from selected institute publications and journals I must make a few comments.  With one exception (the King's College study) these studies were not controlled experiments.  They are findings of correlation between behavioral factors (marijuana use among others) and psychotic episodes/illnesses in the records of their selected population. Data mining, in other words. And with the right algorithms in place data mining will produce real correlations. Moving from correlation to causation is not so easy however.
It's best undertaken by scientists who can devise experiments that establish that the factor in question really causes the phenomenon under study.  Does pot make a psychotic personality experience even stranger episodes?  Probably yes.  But that's not really saying all that much.  Did the pot make the person psychotic? That's not proved by any of the stuff you've quoted.  Is it likely that a person with psychotic tendencies (or history) will be a heavier, more indiscriminant user of cannabis than the average person?  I could very well make that conclusion from the quoted material, if allowed to find causes where I want them to be. Is it dangerous for some people? Darn right; everything is.  Some people die from eating peanuts.
So why the big flare-up over Betty's original piece? By far most people have some version of her pleasant experience.
Pleased that you establish your liberal (but not mindless liberal) credentials with assurances you favor legalization. Good stuff.  Not so good is using so much boldface and occasional all-caps shouting in your posts.  Lots of people think "young kid" when they see that. Best to limit yourself to italics when the emotions rush. Also, you could then tag yourself "Grown-up for Today".
Thanks for mostly good spelling and grammar.

Live and let Live!...

Mon, 06/06/2011 - 17:16
dolfun (not verified)

once again fear! and let live, yeah I am wondering about that too! I think a Beatles song right about now..

"Live and Let Die"
When You Were Young And Your Heart Was An Open Book
You Used To Say Live And Let Live
(You Know You Did, You Know You Did, You Know You Did)
But In This Ever Changing World In Which We Live In
Makes You Give In And Cry
Say Live And Let Die
Live And Let Die
Live And Let Die
Live And Let Die

What Does It Matter To Ya
When You Got A Job To Do
You Gotta Do It Well
You Gotta Give The Other Fellow Hell

When You Were Young And Your Heart Was An Open Book
You Used To Say Live And Let Live
(You Know You Did, You Know You Did, You Know You Did)
But In This Ever Changing World In Which We Live In
Makes You Give In And Cry
Say Live And Let Die
Live And Let Die
Live And Let Die
Live And Let Die


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Tue, 06/07/2011 - 01:22
Kid For Today

Betty, is it common where you're from for cops in favour of prohibition to advocate the legalization of pot? That's one hell of a paradox.

Moreover I wasn't condemning you or anyone else for using pot. I believe people have the right to put whatever they want into their bodies as long as they're not harming others. You completely missed my point.

J: It would serve you well to actually read the material before responding. The BBC article I linked to is precisely about proving that pot is what triggers the psychoses, not merely a coincidental correlation, an argument that was grasping at straws to begin with: "[...]it was one of 10 prospective studies all pointing in this same direction."


Sat, 10/20/2012 - 16:54

Are there any long term effects with the pot? I am 28 and have ADD meaning I already have memory trouble. I glare when my husband says " remind me to..." he thinks its funny. Anyway we have thought of trying pot with sex. I have never used illegal drugs. Will effect my daily medications?

I have amazing orgasms after

Mon, 09/15/2014 - 16:10
turtle girl

I have amazing orgasms after smoking or taking pot.  Both through masturbation and sex with my boyfriend, the results are mind blowing.  I was always totally against pot because I thought it would make me out of control but the effects are amazing, I can totally understand Betty's description of listening to music when stoned.  Try making love to music and you'll understand

Marijuana and Sex.

Thu, 11/17/2016 - 01:48
Marielena (not verified)

Proving that Marijuana "is" what triggers Psychosis? Rather a blanketed statement isn't it? I'm just a person with a degree in Communication, but like we're taught when writing a research, essay or any college level paper, one is supposed to be objective in verbage that does not take a hard fast one-sided approach to any issue. That is why we use words like "one could say," (not I or you) or "may be" a significant leading factor in...". "Could be a leading cause to." It is improper, and well, WRONG to say that Marijuana IS WHAT TRIGGERS PSYCHOSIS? I assure you. As obviously intelligent as you are, even a seasoned researcher cannot say that Marijuana is the reason for psychosis. Believe me!!! There are many other factors that lead to Psychosis! I'll agree with a factor leading to, but I'm sorry, I think your (narrow minded) argument proves more an emotional plea to acquiesce to your opinion that sounds much like the person you're arguing against? (i.e...accusing one of not having an objectivity, enough information or (already made your conclusion) not open to other ideas.

marijuana psychosis? Yea, I had one of 'dem experiences

Mon, 11/21/2016 - 21:52
bila kolbe

Dear Kid for Today et al, Okay, peer-reviewed scientific studies link marijuana usage to psychotic illness, psychotic episodes, transient acute psychological reactions, and even schizophrenia when taking into account factors such as socio-economic status, use of other drugs, and other pre-existing psychiatric conditions. The latter two factors make sense in both correlational and causal terms- yea, chronic marijuana use/abuse for these 2 subgroups feasibly can further detrimentally scramble their precompromised perceptions, cognitions, and behavior. No question. This is a quid pro quo, wouldn't you say? I would appreciate that you unpack the socio-economic status and marijuana psychosis correlation revealed in the study you cited.
But all heavy medical, scientific, and statistical analysis jargon aside, I did have a 'mind-blowing' (euphemism for psychotic) experience when I was in my early 20's starting a 2 year tenure with the Peace Corps on a remote island in the Kingdom of Tonga. I, basically a marijuana virgin, puffed on some potent weed grown in super rich volcanic soil. Space and time contorted to such a degree that I believed I had crossed over into an inescapable otherworldly dimension. Needless to say I went ballistic, anxious if I would ever return to 'normal', profoundly distraught, senses about to redline and crash, downright psychotic. Had I been discovered by some authority figure, I probably would have been straightjacketed and remanded to a mental institution. No, socio-economic status wasn't a factor being in Tonga's communal society. I wasn't a drug user. I didn't have a pre-existing psychiatric condition. I attribute my experience to being a stranger in a strange land smoking a strange plant that amplified the strangeness of it all. 
Now that  legalization of recreational marijuana is becoming more prevalant in the USA, might the present toxic political environment be considered as a viable correlational/causal factor inducing psychosis in marijuana users? Or maybe marijuana might be a homeopathic analgesic relieving the distress and anxiety of our politically polarized society.


Sat, 05/20/2017 - 09:11

I think the key word we are looking for is dosage. Most of marijuana bad press has to do with dosage, just like any other medication.  Big pharma or no, most of the genuine benefits come from proper dosage. The brain is not a cheap chemistry set.