Goop https://www.dodsonandross.com/ en Bodysex Certification https://www.dodsonandross.com/bodysexcertification <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--title--blog.html.twig x field--node--title.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--title.html.twig * field--string.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--title.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-title field--type-string field--label-hidden">Bodysex Certification</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--title.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--uid--blog.html.twig x field--node--uid.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--uid.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--uid.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-uid field--type-entity-reference field--label-hidden"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'username' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> <span lang="" about="/user/106" typeof="schema:Person" property="schema:name" datatype="">Carlin Ross</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> </span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--uid.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--created--blog.html.twig x field--node--created.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--created.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-created field--type-created field--label-hidden"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'time' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/time.html.twig' --> <time datetime="2022-08-03T13:29:17+00:00" title="Wednesday, August 3, 2022 - 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live and virtual. There is an active community of "Bodysex Leaders", monthly facilitator meetings, book clubs and social media groups to support your journey.&nbsp;</p> <p><a href="https://dodsonandross.com/leaders/laurabogush">Laura Bogush</a>, Rosa Maria, and <a href="https://dodsonandross.com/leaders/celine-manon">Celine Manon</a> serve on the Betty Dodson Foundation Board of directors and run the certification program.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p>You're required to take one workshop, a second workshop with other women seeking certification, and then write a thesis you'll defend.&nbsp; Your thesis statement will describe your own sex history, how your family dealt with masturbation, what you believe is wrong with how the culture handles sexuality and what you would do to change it.&nbsp;</p> <p><strong>COVID&nbsp;UPDATE.&nbsp; </strong>All our live workshops are on hold until 2022.&nbsp; Our virtual Bodysex program counts as your first workshop.&nbsp; For your second workshop, you will be paired with another woman seeking certification with online sessions together with Carlin where you take each other through the rituals: education, genital show and tell, and the Rock n Roll orgasm technique.<br> <br> <strong>The total fee for certification is $4,000 - two virtual Bodysex session&nbsp;fees of $500.00 plus one last donation of $3,000.00. </strong></p> <p><strong>Mission:</strong><br> <br> Our goal is to certify women to hold their own Bodysex workshops so that the Betty Dodson method of self-love and sisterhood continues and expands to every country around the world.<br> <br> When Betty and I first got together, we had this vision of a world map with red lights being illuminated every time someone clicked on D&amp;R. Now we feel that those red lights represent women certified in the Betty Dodson method as each woman holds her own Bodysex workshops.<br> <br> We will train, certify, and support each woman as she holds these workshops. There will be a learning curve and we will be available for your questions and to give you our feedback. It will take time to build a name for yourself. We want you to be successful and to honor the Betty Dodson brand.<br> <br> The certification process will take one year to complete if you take a workshop in the Spring and a certification workshop in the Fall (or vice versa) and complete/present your thesis in a timely manner. It’s really up to you how long the process takes.<br> <br> <strong>Benefits:</strong><br> <br> Betty Dodson Brand: All certified members will be granted a license to use the “Betty Dodson” brand in marketing their workshops. Your workshops can be marketed as an official “Betty Dodson Bodysex Workshop”. You will also receive the vulva flower logo that is displayed here on the site for your own use.&nbsp;&nbsp;<br> <br> Advertising: All certified members will be granted advertising space on D&amp;R.com to promote their workshops under “Bodysex”. Your ad will include a description/bio/pic of you and the upcoming dates of your workshop listed by region.<br> <br> Direct Communication: Carlin will be available by email and zoom with any questions you have during the roll out of your workshops.&nbsp;&nbsp;<br> <br> Diploma: All certified members will receive a diploma signed by Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross.<br> <br> <strong>Requirements:</strong><br> <strong>&nbsp;</strong><br> <strong>I.&nbsp; Participation in two Bodysex Workshops or two virtual Bodysex programs</strong>. You must attend one regular Bodysex workshop and one workshop assembled for women seeking certification. Our virtual Bodysex program fulfills your workshop requirements.&nbsp;&nbsp;<br> <br> Several women have asked what qualifies as a financial hardship. Please email Carlin admin@dodsonandross.com with a description of your hardship but know that the following count:<br> <br> - being a single mom<br> - serving in the military<br> - raising a family living on one income<br> <br> <strong>There will be a final payment of $3,000 payable by installments if needed.</strong><br> <br> <strong>II.&nbsp; Sex Essay.</strong> You must submit a sex essay describing the following:<br> <br> • Your parent’s attitude towards sex<br> • Your religious upbringing<br> • Your first memory of masturbation<br> • Your first partner sex<br> • Your current sex life<br> <br> <strong>III. Interview</strong>.&nbsp; Once you submit your sex essay, you’ll have your first interview with us (in person or via skype).<br> <br> <strong>IV.&nbsp; Completion of Curriculum</strong>. You must read/listen/watch the following course materials:<br> <br> <strong>-All of Betty's articles on orgasm</strong>:</p> <p><a href="https://dodsonandross.com/sexfeature/first-time-orgasm">First Time Orgasm</a></p> <p><a href="https://dodsonandross.com/blogs/betty-dodson/2011/12/awakening-clitoris">Awakening the Clitoris</a></p> <p><a href="https://dodsonandross.com/blogs/carlin-ross/2013/02/bettys-rock-n-roll-orgasm-technique">Betty's Rock n Roll Orgasm Technique</a></p> <p><a href="https://dodsonandross.com/blogs/betty-dodson/2010/05/learn-new-orgasm-how-upgrade-your-masturbation-technique">Upgrading Your Masturbation Technique</a></p> <p><a href="https://dodsonandross.com/sexfeature/penetrating-your-vagina-first-time">Penetrating Your Vagina For the First Time</a></p> <p><a href="https://dodsonandross.com/blogs/betty-dodson/2014/10/womans-erection-needs-20-30-minutes-adequate-clitoral-stimulation">A Woman's Erection Needs 20-30 Minutes of Adequate Clitoral Stimulation</a></p> <p><a href="https://dodsonandross.com/articles/best-use-your-vibrator">How to Best Use Your Vibrator</a></p> <p><a href="https://dodsonandross.com/sexfeature/myth-vaginal-orgasm-anne-koedt">The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm</a></p> <p><strong>-Betty’s memoir <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Design-Betty-Dodson-Story-ebook/dp/B003MQNAQU">"Sex By Design"</a>&nbsp;</strong></p> <p><strong>-All audio/video <a href="https://dodsonandross.com/podcast">podcasts</a> on Bodysex.</strong><br> <br> <strong>-And the following books because we love them:</strong></p> <p><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Sex-One-Selfloving-Betty-Dodson-ebook/dp/B0064127LE">Sex for One</a><br> <br> <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Practical-Relationships-Adventures/dp/1587613379/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1446121266&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=The+ethical+slut">The Ethical Slut</a><br> <br> <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships/dp/0061707813/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1446121302&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=Sex+at+Dawn">Sex at Dawn</a><br> <br> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buzz-Stimulating-History-Sex-Toy/dp/1681775433/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_14_t_0?_encoding=UTF8&amp;psc=1&amp;refRID=6CMNPM2HA4V3A0XHEXFP">Buzz: The Stimulating History of the Sex Toy</a><br> <br> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295X">Opening Up</a></p> <p><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090">Come As You Are</a></p> <p><a href="https://wheelofconsentbook.com/">The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent</a></p> <p><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Betty-Dodson-Bodysex-Basics-Carlin/dp/0578190729">Bodysex Basics</a></p> <p><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Function-Orgasm-Sex-Economic-Biological-Discovery/dp/0374502048/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1446121376&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=The+Function+of+Orgasm">The Function of Orgasm</a> - this is a hard read...it's more about knowing about Reich's beliefs surrounding orgasm because he is the only man who influenced Betty's work.<br> <br> <strong>V. Thesis statement</strong> (it's just a long essay).&nbsp; You must study these materials and write your thesis that will be published online with your consent.&nbsp; You can write your thesis OR record your voice answering the questions if writing is an obstacle.<br> <br> Part 1 of your thesis will describe your process of becoming orgasmic and the consequences of sexual repression, more specifically, how the repression of childhood masturbation blocks orgasm.<br> <br> Part 2 of your thesis will describe your vision for healing human sexuality and how you would end sexual repression.<br> <br> This is a first person statement that should be roughly 10-15 pages in length. We’re not looking for you to cite research or third party sources (although you can use them as a compass for your work). We’re looking for you to share your own personal experience - what it’s like living in a sexually repressed culture and how you plan to change the world.<br> <br> You will defend your thesis (in person or via zoom). Think of this more as a conversation than an official presentation. We want to know about your world perspective and your goals.<br> <br> <strong>VI. Donation of $3,000 to the Betty Dodson Foundation.</strong></p> <p>We will conduct one final exit interview (in person or via zoom). You must be sex positive and have an understanding of group dynamics – we have to believe that you can lead a workshop.&nbsp; Then you will receive your diploma signed by Betty and Carlin and you can start running groups.<br> <br> <strong>Post-Certification:</strong> Upon receiving your certification, we’ll post your contact information on D&amp;R listing you as a workshop resource. For your first several groups, you’ll have your attendees send us an email describing their experience. This will help us better understand your skill level and what you need to work on.<br> <br> You will make mistakes and that’s OK. We live in a sexually repressed culture and realize you may experience some negative reviews. We understand. We will support you&nbsp;during this&nbsp;process of becoming a Bodysex facilitator.</p> <p>Some legalese:<br> <br> <strong>Revocation of Certification.</strong> We reserve the right to revoke your certification for the following reasons:<br> <br> • Inability to connect with other people<br> • Anger management issues<br> • Sex negativity<br> • Unclean space<br> • Not adhering to the Betty Dodson method and principles<br> • Antisocial behavior<br> • Multiple complaints from attendees<br> <br> You will receive notice in writing that your certification is under review. Then, you’ll submit your written response and we will issue our final determination. In the event your certification is revoked, you will cease advertising your services, we will delete your ad from D&amp;R, and you will return all certification materials.</p> <p><strong><span>Creating a Bodysex Space:</span></strong></p> <p>Your workshop space must be safe, warm, clean, and beautiful. You are creating a temple for female sexual expression. Here are the absolutes:</p> <p>You need to choose an assistant. It’s nearly impossible to run a workshop by yourself. Pick someone who’s sex positive (they love sex) and are organized.</p> <p>The floor must be carpeted. You can’t have women sitting naked on a hard wood floor. And laying down towels or yoga mats isn’t enough. There must be wall-to-wall carpeting or a large area rug so that every woman has carpet beneath her.</p> <p>Temperature: We use little space heaters in the winter months to warm up the room before a workshop. It can’t be too warm on Day 1. Make sure there aren’t any drafts in your space and the place is nice and toasty.</p> <p>NO MEN IN THE CIRCLE: You’ll get a ton of requests from men and husbands who want to join the circle. As soon as a man is present, everything changes. Women stop being honest and begin performing. Only women can take a Bodysex workshop.</p> <p>NO CAMERAS: Cameras always affect our spontaneity. Even if women agree to photos don’t take them. This is an intense emotional experience and consent can’t be freely given.</p> <p>All women entering the circle must be nude. Answer the door naked and ask them to remove their clothes right away. Don’t let them keep their bras on or wear a robe. It will break down the equality of the circle.</p> <p>All the barbells and vibrators used in the circle must be sterilized. I take the barbells out of their packaging and I put them in a pot of water on the stove and bring it to a boil. Then I shut off the stove, pour out the hot water, and fill the pot with cold water to cool off the barbells. Let them sit in the cold water for 10 minutes or so and they’ll be ready to go. Women get to keep the barbells.</p> <p>We do reuse the vibrators. After a workshop, I rub them down with a Clorox wipe and then a damp rag and store them in a clean box. Then, I do this process again right before a workshop and place them on the trays that sit alongside each person. The trays also hold a glass for water, a bottle of almond oil and a box of Kleenex.</p> <p>You’re going to have to purchase <a href="http://www.floorseating.com/BackJack-Regular-Chair-P1.aspx">back jacks</a> for the women to sit on during the workshop. You can’t have women sitting on the floor because they’re backs will ache. Place a towel over each back jack to avoid any staining. Pick up some small throw pillows to use for extra back support and the "pillow fuck" that takes place the second day.</p> <p>Have a large tray placed in the center of the circle and several candles. Betty always starts the workshop by lighting the candles. She prefers white to represent healing. It’s good idea to begin each group with the Breath of Fire (50 short belly breaths then two deep breaths followed by holding your breath for as long as it’s comfortable. Oxygen is energizing and it puts everyone more at ease</p> <p>We always provide water and snacks. I’ve cut up veggies and small sandwiches but no one eats them. The women prefer fruit (berries, pineapple, watermelon), and some sort of cookies with chocolate. During erotic recess on Day 2, I bring in a pitcher of water with the cookies and place them on a tray in the middle of the circle. After a few orgasms, it’s nice to roll up and nibble on a cookie and rehydrate.</p> <p>Pick up a freestanding <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Zadro-Swivel-Vanity-Mirror-Acyrlic/dp/B000RN6E9G/ref=sr_1_24_a_it?srs=2530825011&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1470241826&amp;sr=8-24&amp;keywords=vanity+mirror">mirror</a> with an 8 inch surface and lamp that can be aimed for genital show &amp; tell. You must sit next to the woman displaying her vulva so you can both look into the same mirror together. Bring her in close until your bodies touch. This is about non-sexual contact that is reassuring. This is about comfort and mothering.</p> <p>Keep copies of Betty’s anatomy diagrams and use them at the end of genital show &amp; tell so the women can gain a better understanding of their bodies. You don’t have to know everything but take them through the basics. And if you don’t know something don’t fake it. You can always ask us to clarify the material.</p> <p>Menstruation: You can have your period and take a workshop. Day 1 they can use a tampon or menstrual cup. Day 2 they can use a sea sponge during penetration with the barbell. I suggest picking up some and having them on site: <a href="http://www.amazon.com/eBubbles-Natural-Silk-Sea-Sponges/dp/B0008GRS60/re">http://www.amazon.com/eBubbles-Natural-Silk-Sea-Sponges/dp/B0008GRS60/re</a>...</p> <p>Pregnancy. We’ve had several pregnant women take workshops. It’s always kind of magical. Also women who've had a breast removed due to cancer experience a healing. All scars from any surgery are badges of honor.</p> <p><strong><span>Enrollment:</span></strong></p> <p>Social media is invaluable for promoting your workshops. You should have a facebook fan page as well as your personal account. You should also have a twitter account and blog about your work. And when you write about the groups it’s about your experience – don’t share personal things women have shared. It’s about your reflections. Always blog first person. If you write something, send me the link and I’ll promote it over all of our social media accounts.</p> <p>I recommend using paypal and have women make a down payment to reserve their spot in your workshop. That way you'll know they’re serious about showing up. You can use paypal for all your fees or accept the final monies in cash or check.</p> <p>I manage all my enrollment over email and create a new contact group for each Bodysex workshop so I can communicate directly with the women from each workshop. Gmail is great for all of this. I also write down their email addresses in a book so I have a hard copy in case something catastrophic happens. It always pays to be organized.</p> <p>I share my cell number with the women once they register and make their down payment. They need to know that if anything comes up they can contact you. I send out emails with all the information they need (date, location, time, price, my cell #) one month before the workshop, unless they’re traveling then I forward the address right away so they can make arrangements.</p> <p>Then I send out a group email two weeks and again one week before each workshop with the same information so they don’t need to dig through their emails to find anything. When I send my group emails, I send it directly to my email address and bcc the women. You can’t share their email address with anyone without express permission.</p> <p><strong><span>Holding the Space:</span></strong></p> <p>No one can teach you how to be a workshop leader. Holding the space is something that you’re going to learn with each workshop. Just remember that leaders model what they want from their group. Always begin the group share (how you feel about your body/orgasm) by going first. Be honest. Don’t over talk or attendees will also over talk.</p> <p>Set boundaries: I’ve seen Betty share and then before going around the circle announce, “I want to know how you feel about your body and your orgasm. I don’t want details about your partners. This is about your sexuality." Some women will focus on others to avoid talking first person about themselves.</p> <p>Keep the circle moving. Don’t be afraid to break in and end a woman’s share if she’s going on too long. You can also state from the beginning that you want to hear from each woman but that we only have a certain amount of time for each share. Depending on the size of the group, each woman’s share should be 5-10 minutes max. Genital show &amp; tell takes at least 2 or 2.5 hours, sometimes longer.It's OK to go overtime if necessary.</p> <p>If a woman starts to cry, acknowledge her, but don’t let her take control of the group. Betty’s best line is, “I hear your pain, but we’re here to explore pleasure so we must move on.” In over 25 years of holding groups, Betty has only asked 2 women to leave the circle because they were not ready to explore pleasure. They need to work with a therapist to deal with their sexual abuse issues.</p> <p>Since we started running groups again we haven’t had an issues with women needing to leave the workshop. I think that’s because they’re able to watch Betty Dodson’s Bodysex Workshop DVD, so they know what to expect when they sign up. It’s a good idea to ask attendees to watch the film before they book a space with you.</p> <p>Don’t hesitate to ask women to speak up during the group shares. Most women have been conditioned to be soft talkers and that includes you. Make sure you ground your own voice and project it when you run a group. When I was a new attorney, I would video tape myself to see how I looked/sounded in the courtroom. You should record your voice, play it back, and listen to how you sound. You are leading with your voice. Betty said she used a tape recorder to listen to her own voice and learned to drop down to lower register.</p> <p>Good posture is important when running a group. Sit tall and don’t slouch. It always helps to keep things playful. If there’s a moment to add some humor, do it. Laughter puts everyone at ease, including you. When we ran a group in Copenhagen, one of the women sitting down for genital show and tell noticed that she had some toilet paper on her labia. Betty smiled and asked, “Do you have a message?” Everyone laughed and later on several women “found” messages in their vulvas. No one was embarrassed and it became a unifying moment.</p> <p>Another great Betty moment was when she farted and announced, “Anyone who farts gets a $1.00.” You’re sitting naked on the floor for hours, displaying your vulva, and masturbating. Natural body processes will happen. Make it fun and laugh away any embarrassment.</p> <p><strong><span>Genital Show &amp; Tell:</span></strong></p> <p>Set up an area for genital show &amp; tell on carpeting and put down a clean towel. Always start by showing the group your own vulva. Make yourself vulnerable. Talk about your fears or concerns and show all the structures: clitoris, labia, pc muscle, and urethral opening. Be honest about how your relationship with your vulva.</p> <p>You’ll sit side-by-side with each woman looking into the same mirror. Don’t be afraid to get close with your bodies touching. It’s comforting to feel a body close to yours when you’re nervous. This is about maternal energy. You’re not a lover you’re a mother or big sister. This is non-sexual touch.</p> <p>Turn on the lamp and look at her vulva in the mirror TOGETHER. Always say something positive about her vulva immediately by making a complimentary statement. If you can’t think of anything, then say, "Oh, she’s beautiful.”</p> <p>Always begin with a vulva massage. Have her oil her hands and using long strokes, run them up and down her sex organ from bottoem to top, hand over hand. Next have her locate her clitoris and open her outer labia to view vestibule, the space between her inner lips where she can locate her urethral opening. It’s amazing how many women – even those who’ve given birth – have never known where they urinate from. Some thought it was the clitoris. The vaginal opening is rarely open. It sits at the bottom of her vulva and is different for every woman. In order to see it, she must penetrate herself first.</p> <p>Also, you can describe what vulva “style” she has - Gothic, Renaissance,Art Deco, Danish modern – based on Betty’s vulva sketches. The women really enjoy this moment. It gives them a point of reference for their vulva.</p> <p><strong>Bodysex is NAMING OWNING SHARING &amp; CELEBRATING</strong></p> <p>Take them through Betty’s anatomical diagrams that come from A New View of a Woman's Body. We’ve simplified the diagrams so only the main structures are labeled. The women love looking at the diagrams.</p> <p>The focus here is that the clitoris is a woman’s primary sex organ. The urethral sponge ie the g-spot is part of the internal clitoris. Some women enjoy having their urethral sponge stimulated by applying pressure to the ceiling of the vagina. Many also enjoy stimulation right at the vaginal opening because there are more nerve endings there. Once inside the vagina, most women enjoy the feeling of being “full”.</p> <p>Some women release fluid (female ejaculate) which is dilute urine with prostate fluid that amounts to no more than a teaspoon full. Some women squirt BUT this isn’t an orgasm. It's simply the release of ejaculate. The clitoris reigns supreme when it comes to female orgasms.</p> <p><strong><span>Reassemble in the Circle:</span></strong></p> <p>Genital show &amp; tell is an intense experience. Once we look at each other’s vulvas, we’re bonded in sisterhood. It’s good to reassemble in the circle and ask the group if anyone would like to share something. Have a nice relaxed group discussion before you break for the day.</p> <p>Most of the women will want to go out to dinner. Betty and I prefer to have dinner together and let the group go out alone. It’s good for the women to have time together and for the group leaders to share feedback before Day 2.</p> <p><span>Day 2 Group Share:</span></p> <p>Go around the circle and have each woman share how she’s feeling and what she did last night. You’ll notice that most of the women will say that they slept really well. Day 1 is a lot to process and it can knock you out. I see a physical change in the women’s faces from Day 1 to Day 2. They’ve experienced a huge release and connection with their bodies and each other. It’s always beautiful.</p> <p><strong><span>Betty’s Rock ‘n Roll Orgasm Demonstration:</span></strong></p> <p>Next you ask all the women to gather around you and your assistant who is your “stunt cunt” to demonstrate Betty’s Rock ‘n Roll orgasm technique. We used to simply explain the technique but women were confused. This kind of visual demonstration is giving women permission to look closely which further breaks down any shame.</p> <p>Then go through all the items on their tray. Have them turn on their vibrators and experience each setting. Next, ask the group to stand with their vibrators in hand. That way they will have a visual of each other. Demonstrate running their vibrators from the top of their heads down over their breasts to their clits. Betty likes to keep it all humorous. She's been known to play air guitar with her vibrator etc. Have them gyrate their hips doing bumps and grinds while they actively fuck their vibrators.</p> <p><strong><span>Erotic Recess:</span></strong></p> <p>Now it's time for everyone to spread out their towels so they can lie down on them. Next you can talk them through slow penetration with the barbell. Be sure they use almond oil before dong slow penetration while squeezing and releasing their PC muscle. Once the barbell is inserted, the weight will keep it in place.</p> <p>When you declare it's time for “erotic recess,” let them know it's not necessary to have an orgasm to enjoy the energy in the circle.This Takes performance anxiety out of the equation. Betty didn't have an orgasm when we initiated this new round of groups. At any point a group leader can stand to observe how everyone is doing. You can also pull up along side a women to help her by answering any concern she might have…encourage all the women to roll up and look at each other.</p> <p>After 40-50 minutes, take them through the orgasm positions we have named the pillow fuck &amp; Indian style. All the vibrators are put on top of the pillow so women can practice being on top. Indian style is sitting up holding the vibrator between her feet. Women love both of these positions because they can look at each other and make comments that creates laughter making sex fun. I like to keep a pitcher of water with fruit and cookies in the middle of the circle on a tray for anyone who wants to take an orgasm break. Conversations break out and that’s fine. This is about play, not performance.</p> <p>Be flexible with your timing. If everyone is still going, continue. Once most everyone has stopped, then declare the end of erotic recess. Use your best judgment.</p> <p><strong><span>Group Massage:</span></strong></p> <p>Everyone loves group massage. After we've all had orgasms, or watched each other have orgasms, we are all in a good mood. Begin by laying down two blankets and have the women use their towels to kneel on while they take turns sharing massage. Make sure the blankets are soft and clean. Play some ambient music or leave the room quiet. Massage is about non-sexual touch. The leader counts off the group randomly pointing at each woman calling out number one or two. It's best to let the numbers fall where they may. Don't try to put certain people together. These smaller groups will consist of 4 or 5 women massaging one person at a time.</p> <p>Each woman will be massaged for five minutes on each side. After the givers oil their hands, they hold them over the woman in the middle and you and your assistant say outloud: "The laying on of hands" and everyone touches the woman being massaged at the same time. Keep time and make sure everyone gets her massage.</p> <p>When group massage is over, women can wipe off the excess almond oil with their towels. Also, pick up some baby wipes to also be used.</p> <p><strong><span>Reassemble in the circle:</span></strong></p> <p>Request women sit on their towels in a small circle so they can hold hands – the right hand is down to send, and the left hand is up to receive the energy. Then ask everyone to make eye contact with each woman in the circle. Finally, each woman shares one word – something that they’re feeling or thinking that sums up their experience. The final share.</p> <p>Then, Betty has the women throw their hands up into the air and shake them to release all our orgasm energy into the world followed by whoops and shouts of joy and laughter.</p> <p><strong><span>Follow Up:</span></strong></p> <p>The women will most likely ask for each other’s email addresses. I ask their permission and, if it’s given, I send out a group email so everyone can contact each other. I also like to thank the group for coming to the workshop. For each of our workshops, women have started facebook fan pages to keep in touch. I always join them but rarely post but it’s good to keep the lines of communication open.</p> <p>It’s good to write up your experience after each group – what happened, any epiphanies, what you could have done better. Betty keeps a written record of each of her private sessions. I blog about each workshop. It’s good for your learning curve to reflect. Do it that night or the next day when it’s all fresh in your head.</p> <p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p> <p><strong>Day 1 Timeline</strong><br> <strong>&nbsp;</strong><br> Group share (how do you feel about body/orgasm) = 2 hours<br> Bathroom/snack break = 15 minutes<br> Genital Show &amp; Tell = 2-2.5 hours<br> Bathroom/snack break = 15 minutes<br> Reassemble in the circle (ask if there is anything they want to share or any questions) = 15 minutes</p> <p><strong>Day 2 Timeline</strong></p> <p>Group share (what they did the previous eveninh or how they're feeling) = 30 minutes<br> Bathroom/snack break = 15 minutes<br> Demonstrate Rock 'n Roll orgasm/Q&amp;A = 30 minutes<br> Erotic Recess = 2-2.5 hours (I bring in snacks during last hour)<br> Group Massage = 1 hour<br> Final circle = 15 minutes</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p><strong><em>Set Up Expenses:</em></strong></p> <p>Several of our certified women have crowdsourced their certification fees and set up expenses.&nbsp; Here's a breakdown of the set up expenses:</p> <p><a href="http://www.floorseating.com/BackJack-Chairs-C1.aspx">Back Jacks</a> $34.95/each @ floorseating.com<br> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Zadro-Swivel-Vanity-Mirror-Acyrlic/dp/B000RN6E9G/ref=sr_1_24_a_it?srs=2530825011&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1470241826&amp;sr=8-24&amp;keywords=vanity+mirror">Pussy mirror</a> $19.99<br> Rechargeable Magic Wand $54.00/each (that's the wholesale price plus shipping)<br> Betty's Barbell $75.00/each (Betty insists on a 3 step polish which increases our cost)<br> <a href="http://www.amazon.com/solutions-Sweet-Almond-Moisturizing-ounce/dp/B0019LVFSU/ref=sr_1_3_a_it?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1461355703&amp;sr=8-3&amp;keywords=almond+oil">Almond oil</a> $10.85/each</p> <p>Then you'll need to pick up some plastic trays, towels, and pillows (if you want to do the pillow fuck).&nbsp; I replace the towels once a year.&nbsp; Bed Bath &amp; Beyond is the best place to shop - and the pricing depends on the quality of towel you select.</p> <p>Assuming you're running groups with 10 women including yourself, your set up expenses would be roughly $1,800.00 - $2,000.00.&nbsp; You can always have the women bring their own vibrators and dildos.&nbsp; You don't have to use our barbell.&nbsp; I would suggest starting small but investing in the rechargeable magic wands and crowdsource as much as you can.</p> <p>And if you want to resell products like the barbell, Magic Wand, mirrors and almond oil on your blogs/sites I would suggest joining <a href="https://affiliate-program.amazon.com">Amazon Associates </a>(Amazon's affiliate program). 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field--name-field-atom-rtf-with-summary field--type-text-with-summary field--label-hidden field__item"><p>Betty and I spent every Friday together for a decade.<span>&nbsp; </span>When I had Grayson, everything shifted.<span>&nbsp; </span>I missed brainstorming with her about our weekly video topic and heading off to sushi to read the comments and celebrate our YouTube views.<span>&nbsp; </span>I knew I needed to get back to our Friday tradition.</p> <p>Right after the New Year (two months before lockdown) I decided to pick up Grayson from preschool, pop him in the car, and drive to Betty’s.<span>&nbsp; </span>Grayson loved it – all the energy of NYC and seeing “Aunt B”.<span>&nbsp; </span>We brought groceries, Grayson ran around discovering all sorts of treasures, I’d throw Betty in the shower despite her protests, and we’d end up having drinks and dinner. My husband would come by after work and then we’d pile in the car and head home.</p> <p>It was the closest thing to extended family - that feeling of belonging - any of us had in our lives.<span>&nbsp; </span>Betty and Grayson really connected.<span>&nbsp; </span>They’d talk about all sorts of things and chase each other around the apartment.<span>&nbsp; </span>Betty understood “kid”; she was fun.<span>&nbsp; </span>To watch them laugh, genuinely enjoying each other was something I needed more than I realized.<span>&nbsp; </span></p> <p>Betty wasn’t exactly enthused with the idea of me becoming a mother…it was seen as a potential rejection. <span>&nbsp;</span>She tested me.<span>&nbsp; </span>When I was 8 months pregnant, she decided to add 80 photos to her memoir announcing that she was also giving birth - to her life story.<span>&nbsp; </span>It was February – it was cold – I was wobbling up and down subway steps in a down coat.<span>&nbsp; </span>I held on and we got it done.<span>&nbsp; </span>Then I was free to go into labor.<span>&nbsp; </span></p> <p>Being responsible for Betty and Grayson – their happiness and welfare – was overwhelming at times.<span>&nbsp; </span>These Friday visits were like crossing a finish line: my kids were happy.<span>&nbsp; </span></p> <p>On the heels of our Goop episode, the New York Times reached out to do a piece on Betty.<span>&nbsp; </span>I scheduled the interview during one of our Friday visits.<span>&nbsp; </span>I wanted Betty to experience that sort of recognition.<span>&nbsp; </span>She’d been on the front lines for so long, challenging sex roles – reestablishing the clitoris as a woman’s primary sex organ – accepting the moniker “the mother of masturbation”.<span>&nbsp; </span>This pioneer had a slew of arrows in her back.<span>&nbsp; </span>She’d made huge sacrifices and deserved mainstream acceptance for advancing the culture.<span>&nbsp; </span></p> <p>The journalist fell in love with Betty, no surprise.<span>&nbsp; </span>They wanted to schedule a photoshoot.<span>&nbsp; </span>I knew Betty would resist but I had a secret weapon: Grayson.</p> <p>We arrived at Aunt Bs and she was in her robe with bedhead.<span>&nbsp; </span>With some coaxing, I got her into the shower.<span>&nbsp; </span>She hated the thought of bathing but, once the hot water ran over her body, she didn’t want to get out.<span>&nbsp; </span>She especially enjoyed me soaping up her body and washing her bottom.<span>&nbsp; </span>She would bend forward and spread her butt cheeks and squeal with delight.<span>&nbsp; </span></p> <p>As she dried off in her freshly washed robe, the photographer rang the bell.<span>&nbsp; </span>Betty was not amused.<span>&nbsp; </span>She did not want to pose for photographs.<span>&nbsp; </span>She wanted to play.<span>&nbsp; </span></p> <p>We decided to keep her in her robe and have her sit on the edge of her bed looking out her window like she did when she smoked cigarettes.<span>&nbsp; </span>In true Betty fashion, she kept on announcing that she wasn’t being “paid for this”, that she was “being raped by the NY Times”.<span>&nbsp; </span>It was like riding a bull, trying to hold on for dear life knowing that – at some point – you were going to be thrown off.<span>&nbsp; </span></p> <p>Grayson was jumping on the bed next to her and Betty loved it.<span>&nbsp; </span>We were trying to set up the shot and it was mayhem.<span>&nbsp; </span>Betty refused to pose.<span>&nbsp; </span>I would have to entertain her.<span>&nbsp; </span>She sat there with a scowl on her face while I flashed my breasts, bent forward mooning her to make her smile.<span>&nbsp; </span>She loved it.<span>&nbsp; </span>Grayson loved it.<span>&nbsp; </span>They were giggling….I was sweating…the photographer was snapping pictures and it was wonderful.<span>&nbsp; </span></p> <p>It was impossible for Betty to pretend, to humor anyone even if it was in her best interests.<span>&nbsp; </span>She said what she thought and did what she wanted. Betty’s only compass was her inner voice.<span>&nbsp; </span>She listened and followed her instincts without question.<span>&nbsp; </span>She was whole and being in her presence healed me.<span>&nbsp; </span>I learned to trust myself – let my body lead – speak my mind and follow my pleasure.<span>&nbsp; </span>Our partnership was hard but it challenged me in the most beautiful ways.</p> <p>One week after the photoshoot, we locked down.<span>&nbsp; </span>We’d planned one more season of workshops then announce Betty’s retirement at her art exhibition later that summer.<span>&nbsp; </span>None of that would happen.<span>&nbsp; </span>I would spend my days driving in groceries, getting her medication delivered, and fielding phone calls from friends and colleagues.<span>&nbsp; </span>I called her twice a day to remind her to take her pills.<span>&nbsp; </span>I could hear it in her voice: she was letting go and there was nothing I could do to change it.<span>&nbsp; </span></p> <p>The NY Times piece ran with a new title, self-love and self-pleasure had new relevance in a post-covid world.<span>&nbsp; </span>Friends emailed Betty with messages of congratulations. I knew what it meant to her.<span>&nbsp; </span>Ultimately, the isolation was too much and Betty’s body began to shut down.<span>&nbsp; </span>When you start a partnership with a woman in her 80s, you talk a great deal about how they want their life to end.<span>&nbsp; </span>As her healthcare proxy, I assumed a new role.<span>&nbsp; </span>I’d committed to seeing her off the planet and I had to have the courage to let her die.<span>&nbsp; </span></p> <p>She spent her last few months in the best facility in Manhattan – a room with a view of the Hudson.<span>&nbsp; </span>She’d watch the tugboats and take phone calls.<span>&nbsp; </span>Betty couldn’t process Covid and kept asking me why no one was visiting her.<span>&nbsp; </span>It broke my heart.<span>&nbsp; </span>I reached out to the Bodysex community and they arranged for flowers to be delivered – a new bouquet every day.<span>&nbsp; </span>One of the nurses took a video of her room with flowers on every surface.<span>&nbsp; </span>She knew she was loved.<span>&nbsp; </span></p> <p>During our last phone conversation, I told Betty that we’d have that art exhibition – that I would continue the work – and that I loved her.<span>&nbsp; </span>She replied that she loved me too and quickly got off the phone.<span>&nbsp; </span>It was the last time we spoke.</p> <p>When you lose someone you love - can’t say goodbye - and they die alone, it never leaves you.<span>&nbsp; </span>Supporting Betty and her wish to leave her body in the face of questions and criticism took everything I had.<span>&nbsp; </span>Betty chose me – she saw something in me that I didn’t know I possessed: the strength and fortitude to do what is required regardless of what others think.<span>&nbsp; </span>That was her brilliance.<span>&nbsp; </span>She felt life.<span>&nbsp; </span></p> <p>I think back to our last day and the fun we had together.<span>&nbsp; </span>When I look at those photographs, I can see that Betty was in between two worlds.<span>&nbsp; </span>She kept telling me that she’d accomplished everything she wanted to accomplish – that she’d a great time – and was ready to go.<span>&nbsp; </span>In the moment, I didn’t want to hear it.<span>&nbsp; </span>I thought that I could keep her here with us forever.<span>&nbsp; </span><span>&nbsp;</span>Her body could not hold her spirit.</p> <p>When I’m an old woman, I want to know when I’m ready to leave.<span>&nbsp; </span>I want to pass the torch to another.<span>&nbsp; </span>I want to be difficult and outspoken and fun.<span>&nbsp; </span>I want to put my pleasure first.<span>&nbsp; </span>I want to inspire others.<span>&nbsp; </span>I want to spend all day in my robe.<span>&nbsp; </span>I want to drink champagne at 3 in the afternoon.<span>&nbsp; </span>I want to die with $4k in my checking account.<span>&nbsp; </span>I want to enjoy every moment of my life.<span>&nbsp; </span>I want to be Betty.<span>&nbsp; </span></p> <p>With every client session and every Bodysex training, I feel closer to her.<span>&nbsp; </span>It’s been a year since her death yet I feel her presence in my life more than ever.<span>&nbsp; </span>She comes through so strong at the most curious moments.<span>&nbsp; </span>I hear her laughing in my ear, “what you thought this was going to be easy, Ross?”<span>&nbsp; </span>when I feel challenged.<span>&nbsp; </span>I hear her complimenting my work, “you’re a good fuck, Ross” during a rock n roll session.<span>&nbsp; </span></p> <p>I hope to hear her voice until the day I leave the planet.<span>&nbsp; </span>I miss you,<span>&nbsp; </span>Dodson.</p></div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: x 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'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-tags--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-tags.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-tags.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-tags field--type-entity-reference field--label-above"> <div class="field__label">Cloud Tags</div> <div class="field__items"> <div class="field__item"><a href="/taxonomy/term/976" hreflang="en">Goop</a></div> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-blog-comments--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-blog-comments.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-blog-comments.html.twig x field--comment.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <section class="field field--name-field-blog-comments field--type-comment field--label-hidden comment-wrapper"> </section> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig x field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--boolean.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> Tue, 15 Feb 2022 18:50:20 +0000 Carlin Ross 8056 at https://www.dodsonandross.com https://www.dodsonandross.com/articles/my-last-day-betty#comments My Interview in Glamour https://www.dodsonandross.com/articles/my-interview-glamour <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--title--blog.html.twig x field--node--title.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--title.html.twig * field--string.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--title.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-title field--type-string field--label-hidden">My Interview in Glamour</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--title.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--uid--blog.html.twig x field--node--uid.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--uid.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--uid.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-uid field--type-entity-reference field--label-hidden"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'username' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> <span lang="" about="/user/106" typeof="schema:Person" property="schema:name" datatype="">Carlin Ross</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> </span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--uid.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--created--blog.html.twig x field--node--created.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--created.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-created 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field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-image field--type-image field--label-hidden field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image_formatter' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-formatter.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image_style' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-style.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image.html.twig' --> <img src="/sites/default/files/styles/webp/public/2020-04/carlinglamour.jpg.webp?itok=D_fFyUqY" width="640" height="307" alt="" loading="lazy" typeof="foaf:Image" class="image-style-webp" /> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-style.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-formatter.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> </div> <div class="field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'paragraph' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary---default.html.twig * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * paragraph--default.html.twig x paragraph.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--atom-rtf-with-summary- paragraph--view-mode--default"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig * field--paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig x field--text-with-summary.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> <div class="clearfix text-formatted field field--name-field-atom-rtf-with-summary field--type-text-with-summary field--label-hidden field__item"><p>When I sat down with the writer, Jenny, I knew this would be a quality piece.&nbsp; I love this younger generation of women.&nbsp; They're smart, capable and out there making their mark.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p>Here's the entire article <a href="https://www.glamour.com/story/carlin-ross-goop-netflix-orgasm-tips">How Carlin Ross, the Woman Who Orgasmed on the&nbsp;<em>Goop Lab</em>&nbsp;Netflix Show, Came, Saw, and Conquered</a> - below is my favorite paragraph:&nbsp;</p> <blockquote> <p>“I really believe that not telling young women about their bodies or giving them access to health care is systematic abuse at the level of genocide,” Ross says, a few minutes into our interview.</p> <p>“You have to love your body to have an orgasm,” she says. “You have to feel entitled. The most unattractive man in the world still feels entitled to an orgasm. But women, we always feel like, ‘Maybe if I'm skinnier?’”</p> <p>And: “If you’ve had an orgasm, you’re not a virgin.”</p> <p>And: “Sexual freedom for women is a life goal, my reason for being.”</p> </blockquote> <p>I couldn't wish for a better coming-out piece or for a better mentor, Betty Dodson. She was sleeping in the other room when we did our interview but never so present in my life and work.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p></div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: x field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-category.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-category.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <div class="articles__categories"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--card paragraph--view-mode--default simple-band transparent"> <div class="field__item"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--title paragraph--view-mode--default"> <div class="field field--name-field-title field--type-string field--label-hidden field__item">Mentions And Related Topics</div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="field field--name-field-category field--type-entity-reference field--label-hidden field__items"> <div class="field__item"><a href="/articles/category/press" hreflang="en">Press</a></div> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-tags--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-tags.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-tags.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-tags field--type-entity-reference field--label-above"> <div class="field__label">Cloud Tags</div> <div class="field__items"> <div class="field__item"><a href="/taxonomy/term/701" hreflang="en">feminism</a></div> <div class="field__item"><a href="/taxonomy/term/976" hreflang="en">Goop</a></div> <div class="field__item"><a href="/taxonomy/term/981" hreflang="en">Gwyneth Paltrow</a></div> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-blog-comments--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-blog-comments.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-blog-comments.html.twig x field--comment.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <section class="field field--name-field-blog-comments field--type-comment field--label-hidden comment-wrapper"> </section> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig x field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--boolean.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> Wed, 22 Apr 2020 17:04:34 +0000 Carlin Ross 7451 at https://www.dodsonandross.com Betty's Latest Feature in the NY Times https://www.dodsonandross.com/articles/bettys-latest-feature-ny-times <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--title--blog.html.twig x field--node--title.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--title.html.twig * field--string.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--title.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-title field--type-string field--label-hidden">Betty&#039;s Latest Feature in the NY Times</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--title.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--uid--blog.html.twig x field--node--uid.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--uid.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--uid.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-uid field--type-entity-reference field--label-hidden"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'username' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> <span lang="" about="/user/106" typeof="schema:Person" property="schema:name" datatype="">Carlin Ross</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> </span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--uid.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--created--blog.html.twig x field--node--created.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--created.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-created field--type-created field--label-hidden"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'time' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/time.html.twig' --> <time datetime="2020-03-28T18:56:12+00:00" title="Saturday, March 28, 2020 - 18:56" class="datetime">Sat, 03/28/2020 - 18:56</time> <!-- END OUTPUT from 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class="field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'paragraph' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary---default.html.twig * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * paragraph--default.html.twig x paragraph.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--atom-rtf-with-summary- paragraph--view-mode--default"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig * field--paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig x field--text-with-summary.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> <div class="clearfix text-formatted field field--name-field-atom-rtf-with-summary field--type-text-with-summary field--label-hidden field__item"><p>It seems like a million years ago - driving into Betty's with Grayson to sit down with the NY Times.&nbsp; This is our first post-COVID-19 piece and I couldn't be prouder of Betty.&nbsp; Somehow no matter what's going on around her, Betty is right on point.&nbsp; Here is my favorite passage from <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2020/03/26/style/self-care/betty-dodson-masturbation.html">You are Your Safest Sex Partner</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p>Ms. Dodson made her entrance dressed in a slouchy bathrobe, its chest pocket monogrammed with the letters, B.A.D., “my initials, Betty Anne Dodson,” she said, eyes crinkling, before returning to her theme.</p> <p>Sure, an orgasm can be noisy at times. “Usually, though, the sounds are a lot more guttural, deeper, more animalistic,” she said. “The legs tremble, the whole body trembles. I’ve never seen that in pornography.”</p> <p>So why do so many women feel obliged to put on a show enhanced by a soundtrack of moans and shattering screams? “The guys don’t want to see real orgasms, they want the porn orgasm,” Ms. Dodson said caustically. “It’s an ego thing. They want to see the kind of effect they’re having on a woman.”</p> <p>“A real orgasm,” she added, leaning forward for emphasis, “is something that no matter where it comes from, a woman takes for herself.”</p> </blockquote> <p>I miss Betty terribly. Bodysex seems like another life ago. I know one day we will be back in the circle....soon.</p></div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: x field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-category.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-category.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <div class="articles__categories"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--card paragraph--view-mode--default simple-band transparent"> <div class="field__item"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--title paragraph--view-mode--default"> <div class="field field--name-field-title field--type-string field--label-hidden field__item">Mentions And Related Topics</div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="field field--name-field-category field--type-entity-reference field--label-hidden field__items"> <div class="field__item"><a href="/articles/category/press" hreflang="en">Press</a></div> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-tags--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-tags.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-tags.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-tags field--type-entity-reference field--label-above"> <div class="field__label">Cloud Tags</div> <div class="field__items"> <div class="field__item"><a href="/taxonomy/term/976" hreflang="en">Goop</a></div> <div class="field__item"><a href="/taxonomy/term/981" hreflang="en">Gwyneth Paltrow</a></div> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-blog-comments--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-blog-comments.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-blog-comments.html.twig x field--comment.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <section class="field field--name-field-blog-comments field--type-comment field--label-hidden comment-wrapper"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'comment__field_blog_comments__blog' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * comment--field-blog-comments--blog.html.twig * comment--field-blog-comments.html.twig x comment.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/content/comment.html.twig' --> <article data-comment-user-id="81516" id="comment-171" about="/comment/171" typeof="schema:Comment" class="comment js-comment"> <mark class="hidden" data-comment-timestamp="1612451135"></mark> <footer class="comment__meta"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'user' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/user.html.twig' --> <article typeof="schema:Person" about="/user/81516" class="profile"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: x field--user--field-display-name--user.html.twig * field--user--field-display-name.html.twig * field--user--user.html.twig * field--field-display-name.html.twig * field--string.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--user--field-display-name--user.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-display-name field--type-string field--label-hidden field__item"> <p>jay wants knowledge</p> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--user--field-display-name--user.html.twig' --> <drupal-render-placeholder callback="masquerade.callbacks:renderCacheLink" arguments="0=81516" token="DMu3PQGjwIwpDODmYyaif3ylAyuRfKjXBp2UVu5ZTPM"></drupal-render-placeholder></article> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/user.html.twig' --> <p class="comment__submitted"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'rdf_wrapper' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/stable/templates/misc/rdf-wrapper.html.twig' --> <span rel="schema:author">Submitted by <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'username' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> <span lang="" about="/user/81516" typeof="schema:Person" property="schema:name" datatype="">jwolson2481</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> on Sat, 04/18/2020 - 16:14</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/stable/templates/misc/rdf-wrapper.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'rdf_metadata' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/misc/rdf-metadata.html.twig' --> <span property="schema:dateCreated" content="2020-04-18T16:14:02+00:00" class="rdf-meta hidden"></span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/misc/rdf-metadata.html.twig' --> </p> <a href="/comment/171#comment-171" hreflang="en">Permalink</a> </footer> <div class="content"> <h3 property="schema:name" datatype=""><a href="/comment/171#comment-171" class="permalink" rel="bookmark" hreflang="en">Expanded perspective. </a></h3> <drupal-render-placeholder callback="comment.lazy_builders:renderLinks" arguments="0=171&amp;1=default&amp;2=en&amp;3=" token="EwCb5v4Fe09yBCEOuYF9dBgrjx7Lr3-jvUPOe_2HBWc"></drupal-render-placeholder> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--comment--field-field-comment-body--comment.html.twig * field--comment--field-field-comment-body.html.twig * field--comment--comment.html.twig * field--field-field-comment-body.html.twig * field--string-long.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-field-comment-body field--type-string-long field--label-above"> <div class="field__label">Comment</div> <div class="field__item">Like all great things, performative sex can be gratifying if both partners are educated and knowledgeable about their bodies. With the assistance of Bettys techniques I’ve learned to be a more patient and assistive lover. The sounds of satisfaction often reflect the synchronicity and being at complete peace within the moment. <br /> <br /> I thank you &amp; my wife thanks you. Please consider more couplesex expose’s in the future, as the fault lies not in the theatrics, but in the lack of knowledge on how to please one another without resorting to tension orgasams. </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> </div> </article> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/content/comment.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'pager' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/navigation/pager.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/navigation/pager.html.twig' --> </section> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig x field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--boolean.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> Sat, 28 Mar 2020 18:56:12 +0000 Carlin Ross 7431 at https://www.dodsonandross.com https://www.dodsonandross.com/articles/bettys-latest-feature-ny-times#comments The Pleasure is Ours https://www.dodsonandross.com/articles/pleasure-ours <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--title--blog.html.twig x field--node--title.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--title.html.twig * field--string.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--title.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-title field--type-string field--label-hidden">The Pleasure is Ours</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 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SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--created--blog.html.twig x field--node--created.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--created.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-created field--type-created field--label-hidden"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'time' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/time.html.twig' --> <time datetime="2020-01-28T22:01:11+00:00" title="Tuesday, January 28, 2020 - 22:01" class="datetime">Tue, 01/28/2020 - 22:01</time> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/time.html.twig' --> </span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--created.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'links__node' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: x links--node.html.twig x links--node.html.twig * links.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 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class="paragraph paragraph--type--image paragraph--view-mode--default"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--paragraph--field-image--image.html.twig * field--paragraph--field-image.html.twig * field--paragraph--image.html.twig * field--field-image.html.twig * field--image.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-image field--type-image field--label-hidden field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image_formatter' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-formatter.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image_style' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-style.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image.html.twig' --> <img src="/sites/default/files/styles/webp/public/2020-01/betty_dodson_and_carlin_ross_attend_the_goop_lab_special_screeni_1468986.jpg.webp?itok=XtnX28dz" width="640" height="399" alt="" loading="lazy" typeof="foaf:Image" class="image-style-webp" /> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-style.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-formatter.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> </div> <div class="field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'paragraph' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary---default.html.twig * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * paragraph--default.html.twig x paragraph.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--atom-rtf-with-summary- paragraph--view-mode--default"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig * field--paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig x field--text-with-summary.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> <div class="clearfix text-formatted field field--name-field-atom-rtf-with-summary field--type-text-with-summary field--label-hidden field__item"><p>I can't describe how it feels to watch yourself display your vulva and orgasm on a theatre screen the night before its released on an international media platform like Netflix.&nbsp; It was surreal and amazing.&nbsp; I've never been more proud of Betty and me, our work, our Bodysex leaders or womankind.&nbsp; I love you all.</p> <p>There hasn't been one negative piece of press.&nbsp; In fact, our episode The Pleasure is Ours has only been described with the most glowing terms.&nbsp; And then there's "The Dodson".&nbsp; She is finally being recognized for the true revolutionary that she is...here are my favorite press moments:</p> <p><a href="https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2020/01/9295049/betty-dodson-method-masturbation-orgasm-goop-lab-episode-3">Refinery 29</a> on the Orgasm Scene:</p> <blockquote> <p>After discussing sexual shame and the variety of vulvas, Dodson and Ross get into the nitty-gritty of the Betty Dodson Method. It involves oil-based lubricant, a weighted dildo for vaginal penetration, a&nbsp;<a href="https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/best-wand-vibrator-massagers">Magic Wand vibrator</a>&nbsp;for clitoral stimulation, deep breathing techniques, and a rocking movement Dodson calls the “Rock’n’Roll.” The episode shows Ross demonstrating the method on herself, being coached by Dodson —&nbsp;and it ends with her orgasm.</p> <p>For her part, Ross is thrilled that&nbsp;<em>the Goop Lab</em>&nbsp;will help Dodson’s work will reach a new audience. “Betty is 90 years old, and she’s been carrying this flag for 50 years,” Ross tells Refinery29. “When she did this stuff in the ‘70s, the words 'masturbation' and 'clitoris' trended with the release of her feminist classic,&nbsp;<em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Liberating-masturbation-meditation-self-love/dp/B0006W606K">Liberating Masturbation</a></em>. Before that, we didn't have words for this stuff. It’s been so gratifying to sit next to Betty and see her work finally get social acceptance and go mainstream.”</p> <p>Netflix has a global audience, she adds, and “in my mind, I’m imagining young women all over the world watching this. Would I have made different choices in my 20s, if I’d realized my body was normal and known how to give myself an orgasm, and known that everything was okay and I was supported?” she asks. “Probably!”</p> </blockquote> <p><a href="https://www.vox.com/science-and-health/2020/1/17/21066923/gwyneth-paltrow-goop-lab-netflix-review">Vox</a> on vulvas:</p> <blockquote> <p>In the episode, called “The Pleasure Is Ours,” we meet&nbsp;<a href="https://www.dodsonandross.com/">feminist sex educators Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross</a>, who have coached thousands of women on orgasms. One Goop staff member participates in their workshop, while others take a crash course in body positivity, learning to celebrate their sexuality in ways that are meaningful to them, not just their partners.</p> <p>Along the way, Dodson and Ross extol messages about the need for women to understand their own bodies, and explain the crucial difference between the vulva and vagina. (The vulva is&nbsp;<a href="https://www.vox.com/the-highlight/2019/8/7/20694794/vagina-bible-jen-gunter-ob-gyn-feminist">external — the part you can easily see; the vagina is the internal</a>&nbsp;part, where a tampon might go.)</p> <p>In a scene showing a series of vulvas in many different shapes and sizes, we get a genuinely educational look at women’s anatomy. And these are the vulvas of real women, not just the touched up, pink ones showcased in pornography. The point is that there’s lots of variation, and no single ideal form.</p> <p>The, er, climax, though, comes later — when Dodson coaches Ross through achieving an on-camera orgasm. It’s provocative, and potentially groundbreaking, television. And for a brand that has promoted&nbsp;<a href="https://www.elle.com/culture/celebrities/news/a36256/gwyneth-paltrow-goop-dildo/">$15,000 dildos</a>, the episode is framed in a surprisingly sensitive manner. Instead of telling women to steam clean and insert foreign objects into their lady bits to make them better, it emphasizes the message that vulvas and vaginas are great, just the way they are.</p> </blockquote> <p><a href="https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2020/02/03/the-magical-thinking-of-the-goop-lab">The New Yorker</a> on Betty's amazingness:</p> <blockquote> <p>And yet, when “The Goop Lab” winks at its own absurdity viewers are in more danger of being entertained, even moved. “The Pleasure Is Ours,” an episode about female orgasms, is great TV and genuinely educational, largely thanks to the charismatic and rightly militant ninety-year-old sex educator Betty Dodson, who, since the seventies, has led group workshops for women determined to find sexual satisfaction, in which she requires that they study their own and one another’s vulvae. (“We used to say that a woman had to learn how to ‘run the fuck,’&nbsp;” she says.)</p> <p>The episode comes with its own exposure therapy, in the form of a montage of photographs featuring vulvae. Later, Dodson assists a colleague as she demonstrates the “rock and roll” masturbation technique. I’d never seen a woman coming to orgasm filmed that way, with such lack of fetishism. For a moment, I was thoroughly Gooped.</p> </blockquote> <p><a href="https://www.stuff.co.nz/entertainment/tv-radio/119125042/the-goop-lab-episode-that-managed-to-win-over-an-actual-gynaecologist">Stuff </a>on how our episode won over an "actual gynecologist":</p> <blockquote> <p>The episode features 90-year-old sex educator&nbsp;Betty Dodson and her business partner Carlin Ross, who begin&nbsp;by schooling Paltrow on the difference between a vagina and a vulva.</p> <p>"The vagina is the birth canal only," Dodson explains.</p> <p>"You want to talk about the vulva, which is the clitoris and the inner lips and all that good s... around it."</p> <p>A series of photos of real women's vulvas are later shown as part of a "genital show-and-tell" session.&nbsp;</p> <p>Smart said in her own practice, she&nbsp;often used resources&nbsp;like the "Labia Library" to dispel common myths about female anatomy, and praised Paltrow's show for employing a similar tactic.</p> <p>"We're seeing a rise in women seeking cosmetic revision of their labia, wanting to change the shape or size of what is essentially normal genital anatomy," she said.</p> <p>"Often all they need is reassurance. I thought it was really good to show the wide variation in labial appearances."</p> <p>Dr Olivia Smart was "pleasantly surprised" by the female pleasure episode of The Goop Lab.</p> <p>Another groundbreaking moment sees Dodson&nbsp;explain her&nbsp;"rock and roll" orgasm technique, with Ross giving a demonstration — and achieving&nbsp;an on-camera climax.</p> <p>"Some people may feel shocked or affronted by seeing female orgasm on television," Smart said.&nbsp;</p> <p>"But it challenges the status quo and it brings down the walls and the stigma that's associated with it."</p> </blockquote> <p><a href="https://www.thecut.com/2020/01/the-goop-lab-with-gwyneth-paltrow-betty-dodson-does-right-by-vaginas.html">The Cut</a> (my favorite so far) on the educational value of our episode:</p> <blockquote> <p>The advice offered in the episode is simple and practical; it’s designed to reduce shame and maximize pleasure. Dodson and Ross describe how to use your breath and pelvic muscles to have a better orgasm, and talk about how to ask for what you want during sex. They encourage women to get familiar with their own anatomy, describe different kinds of orgasms and how to attain them, and discuss the myth that they can be achieved without effort.</p> <p>And there are parts of the episode that feel remarkable. There’s a montage of high-definition images of vulvae in a wealth of shapes, colors, and sizes, and a scene of Ross studying her own vulva in a mirror, under Dodson’s supervision. On camera, Ross points to its various parts: the clitoral hood, the clitoris, the glands. “That’s where it’s all taking place, kid,” Dodson drawls.</p> <p>I wouldn’t recommend watching it on the train, but at no point does the episode feel porny, nor does it suffer from the embarrassment of traditional sex ed. Instead, it’s grounded and completely devoid of fetishization, including the scene where Dodson assists Ross as she demonstrates her “rock and roll” masturbation technique until she comes to orgasm onscreen.</p> <p>The show does right by vaginas, for perhaps the first time since Goop’s inception. And unlike the usual Goop fare, after watching, I came away feeling better informed than when I first sat down, particularly when it comes to&nbsp;— as Dodson puts it — “running the fuck.”</p> </blockquote> <p><a href="https://www.abc.net.au/news/health/2020-02-01/the-goop-lab-health-claims-review-gwyneth-paltrow-review/11910770">ABC News</a> on how our episode "shines on women's health":</p> <blockquote> <p>The success of this episode is, in large part, thanks to Betty Dodson, a 90-year-old feminist sex educator and her colleague, Carlin Ross, who run workshops that aim to empower women with knowledge about their bodies.</p> <p>Dodson notes that many women feel shame or embarrassment when it comes to sex, and most of the episode is spent trying to counter this.</p> <p>We get a rare and welcome glimpse of diverse, naked female bodies of all ages, and, more radically, a montage of vulvas, to demonstrate the diversity of female genitalia.</p> <p>There are discussions about how porn has created unrealistic expectations about sexuality, and how women are increasingly&nbsp;<a href="https://www.abc.net.au/news/health/2017-09-07/why-women-have-cosmetic-surgery-on-their-vulva/8878952">turning to cosmetic surgery to change the appearance of their genitals</a>.</p> <p>The episode culminates in Dodson coaching Ross to achieve an on-camera orgasm, in a way that is educational, realistic, and not fetishised.</p> <p>The whole approach is unabashed, yet sensitive, and feels genuinely refreshing. It left me wishing Goop would do this all the time: promote the message that&nbsp;<a href="https://www.abc.net.au/news/health/2019-05-25/vaginal-discharge-is-healthy-feminine-hygiene-products-are-not/11144308">vaginas and vulvas are great just as they are</a>.</p> </blockquote> <p><a href="https://www.vulture.com/2020/01/the-goop-lab-netflix-real-orgasm.html">Vulture </a>on how we filmed my real orgasm:&nbsp;</p> <blockquote> <p>While she masturbated, Ross said the room was pin-drop silent. They shot the scene in one take. “Everyone was really watching. Not watching like when you feel leered at when you’re walking down the street and you feel that up and down. It was a real kind of respect and curiosity,” she said. When Ross finished — it took about ten minutes for her to reach orgasm — the entire room applauded. Ross laughed and said she’d entirely forgotten when I asked her what hearing that felt like; the day had been very draining for her. “Afterward, I was done. I’ve had an orgasm after tequila. I put on my clothes and said, ‘I’m sorry, but I’m going to bail. I love you all, but it’s bedtime.’” Dodson, meanwhile, smoked a cigarette.</p> </blockquote> <p><a href="https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/how-gwyneth-paltrow-turned-a-90-year-old-orgasm-coach-into-a-tv-star-7xxkshnlb">The London Times</a> on Betty's new found "tv star" status and the birth of Bodysex:</p> <blockquote> <p>From those casual, organic, orgiastic groupings grew the idea for the BodySex workshops, which she sees as “totally” a feminist act, although different from those of other, contemporary “very conservative” feminists, such as her old friend Gloria Steinem. “It was all, ‘We want change, but we don’t want to upset anyone, we don’t want to rock the boat too much.’ Dodson sighs. “You’ve just gotta go out there and make a mess.”</p> </blockquote> <p>The Huff Post with the ultimate title: <a href="https://www.huffpost.com/entry/betty-dodson-goop-orgasm_n_5e3c34d0c5b6bb0ffc0cb471">"Carlin Ross Wants You to Have an Orgasm so She Gave Herself One on TV"</a></p> <blockquote> <p>When they showed my vulva on the big screen at the premiere of the episode, I grabbed Betty’s hand and was like, ‘It’s so big!’ But then you laugh and go, is it such a big deal? You go into the Met and there are penises on every statue, penises everywhere. Everyone’s sending you unsolicited dick pics. It’s like, ‘Was it so crazy over-the-top?’ It was, but it shouldn’t be.</p> </blockquote> <p>Thank you for all your support - it feels like we're on the verge of a major feminist transition. 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She will always be remembered and will live on through each and every orgasm I enjoy, as she would have wanted it.</div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> </div> </article> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/content/comment.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'pager' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/navigation/pager.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/navigation/pager.html.twig' --> </section> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig x field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--boolean.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> Tue, 28 Jan 2020 22:01:11 +0000 Carlin Ross 7396 at https://www.dodsonandross.com https://www.dodsonandross.com/articles/pleasure-ours#comments