Sexual Identity https://www.dodsonandross.com/ en Sexual Liberation Allowed Me to Realize I Was Gay https://www.dodsonandross.com/articles/sexual-liberation-allowed-me-realize-i-was-gay <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--title--blog.html.twig x field--node--title.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--title.html.twig * field--string.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--title.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-title field--type-string field--label-hidden">Sexual Liberation Allowed Me to Realize I Was Gay</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--title.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--uid--blog.html.twig x field--node--uid.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--uid.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--uid.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-uid field--type-entity-reference field--label-hidden"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'username' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> <span lang="" about="/user/106" typeof="schema:Person" property="schema:name" datatype="">Carlin Ross</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> </span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--uid.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--created--blog.html.twig x field--node--created.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--created.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-created field--type-created field--label-hidden"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'time' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/time.html.twig' --> <time datetime="2018-08-24T19:28:57+00:00" title="Friday, August 24, 2018 - 19:28" class="datetime">Fri, 08/24/2018 - 19:28</time> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/time.html.twig' --> </span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--created.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'links__node' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: x links--node.html.twig x links--node.html.twig * links.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/content/links--node.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/content/links--node.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-components--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-components.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-components.html.twig * field--entity-reference-revisions.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-components field--type-entity-reference-revisions field--label-hidden field__items"> <div class="field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'paragraph' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * paragraph--image--default.html.twig * paragraph--image.html.twig * paragraph--default.html.twig x paragraph.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--image paragraph--view-mode--default"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--paragraph--field-image--image.html.twig * field--paragraph--field-image.html.twig * field--paragraph--image.html.twig * field--field-image.html.twig * field--image.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-image field--type-image field--label-hidden field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image_formatter' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-formatter.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image_style' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-style.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image.html.twig' --> <img src="/sites/default/files/styles/webp/public/2018-08/sb_80_lesbian_0.jpg.webp?itok=OjM9d2G9" width="640" height="385" alt="" loading="lazy" typeof="foaf:Image" class="image-style-webp" /> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-style.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-formatter.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> </div> <div class="field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'paragraph' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary---default.html.twig * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * paragraph--default.html.twig x paragraph.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--atom-rtf-with-summary- paragraph--view-mode--default"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig * field--paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig x field--text-with-summary.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> <div class="clearfix text-formatted field field--name-field-atom-rtf-with-summary field--type-text-with-summary field--label-hidden field__item"><p>Hi Dr. Betty,</p> <p>I'm a 23 year-old woman in Australia. I just came across your youtube channel and I LOVE it! Your outlook on female sexuality is a breath of fresh air, and you are vocalizing the things I'm trying to say to my friends and family and giving me a way to form my arguments for female sexual liberation.</p> <p>I was wondering if you could do a youtube video on lesbianism. I truly believe it ties in so strongly with your area of expertise, from my own experience - looking back. I bought my first vibrator/dildo when I moved out of home to uni (and had my own post office box!), and of course having my first actual orgasms shortly followed. Less than a year later, I realized I am a lesbian.</p> <p>I truly believe that sexual liberation allowed me to open my eyes and realize I'm gay. I think a lot of women would benefit from a short discussion on this, and I'd like to know what you think.</p> <p>Thanks, ladies :)</p> <p>Dear S,</p> <p>Both Carlin and I had the good fortune of having just about every kind of sex on the planet. We are both sexual adventurers. I went through a phase when I first got involved in feminism when I wanted to be 100% gay. I loved having sex with women. Later on I was very happy when the label bisexual emerged because I still wanted to enjoy sex with men. Now I'm just sexual. I think Sexual Labels can become limiting if they are etched in stone.</p> <p>I think our sexual preferences are more fluid than we realize. First we discover our own orgasms with masturbation. Then we explore sex with others. Whether or not you will always be a lesbian isn't really that important. What matters is that you are enjoying sex and orgasms with your girlfriend now. That may remain and grow deeper or it also might change. So keep an open mind.</p> <p>So glad you enjoy our You Tubes. Yes, we'll have a discussion on lesbian sex. Anything particular you'd us to discuss?</p> <p>Dr. Betty</p></div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: x field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-category.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-category.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <div class="articles__categories"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--card paragraph--view-mode--default simple-band transparent"> <div class="field__item"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--title paragraph--view-mode--default"> <div class="field field--name-field-title field--type-string field--label-hidden field__item">Mentions And Related Topics</div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="field field--name-field-category field--type-entity-reference field--label-hidden field__items"> <div class="field__item"><a href="/articles/category/sexual-identity" hreflang="en">Sexual Identity</a></div> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-tags--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-tags.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-tags.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-tags field--type-entity-reference field--label-above"> <div class="field__label">Cloud Tags</div> <div class="field__items"> <div class="field__item"><a href="/taxonomy/term/796" hreflang="en">arousal</a></div> <div class="field__item"><a href="/taxonomy/term/686" hreflang="en">masturbation</a></div> <div class="field__item"><a href="/taxonomy/term/666" hreflang="en">pleasure empowers</a></div> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-blog-comments--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-blog-comments.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-blog-comments.html.twig x field--comment.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <section class="field field--name-field-blog-comments field--type-comment field--label-hidden comment-wrapper"> </section> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig x field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--boolean.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> Fri, 24 Aug 2018 19:28:57 +0000 Carlin Ross 3361 at https://www.dodsonandross.com https://www.dodsonandross.com/articles/sexual-liberation-allowed-me-realize-i-was-gay#comments Is He Pretending to be Heterosexual? https://www.dodsonandross.com/articles/he-pretending-be-heterosexual <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--title--blog.html.twig x field--node--title.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * 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typeof="schema:Person" property="schema:name" datatype="">Betty Dodson</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> </span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--uid.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--created--blog.html.twig x field--node--created.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--created.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-created field--type-created field--label-hidden"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'time' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/time.html.twig' --> <time datetime="2017-12-08T19:59:41+00:00" title="Friday, December 8, 2017 - 19:59" class="datetime">Fri, 12/08/2017 - 19:59</time> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/time.html.twig' --> </span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--created.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'links__node' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: x links--node.html.twig x links--node.html.twig * links.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/content/links--node.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/content/links--node.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-components--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-components.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-components.html.twig * field--entity-reference-revisions.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-components field--type-entity-reference-revisions field--label-hidden 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'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-formatter.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image_style' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-style.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image.html.twig' --> <img src="/sites/default/files/styles/webp/public/2019-09/badodson_094-web_0.jpg.webp?itok=wp1SQqjW" width="640" height="283" alt="" loading="lazy" typeof="foaf:Image" class="image-style-webp" /> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-style.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-formatter.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> </div> <div class="field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'paragraph' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary---default.html.twig * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * paragraph--default.html.twig x paragraph.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--atom-rtf-with-summary- paragraph--view-mode--default"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig * field--paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig x field--text-with-summary.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> <div class="clearfix text-formatted field field--name-field-atom-rtf-with-summary field--type-text-with-summary field--label-hidden field__item"><p>hi Dr. Betty :)</p> <p>Thank you, because you helped me through your website, a lot in exploring my sexuality while being in a very conservative society.</p> <p>I have a question concerning my fiancee, my future husband, as our marriage is approaching, I began to discuss sex with him, and to try flirting, to see how the chemistry will be between us. He told me something really strange: the first porn movie he saw, it was by mistake on his friend's laptop, it was featuring a woman masturbating and stripping, he told me that this scene made him "vomit"!</p> <p>I asked him about sexual desire when he began having "desire" for women.. he said "he never did"! that he loved a couple of women, but just platonic feelings. then I asked him, what's pleasing a woman in sex? how would he please me? he said, "he would approach me like my sister" I was astonished! he continued "that he would masturbate me like a girl would do", when I told him that's very strange thing to say, he explained that most women he knew were interested in being lesbians, I told him then I'm interested in men, I desire men... he tried then to masturbate me, but he didn't even try to please himself, he didn't try to ask me to do anything like oral sex or a handjob for him!</p> <p>I even asked him if he would like me to make him happy, and to flirt with him, but he was just negative about it.. like no need. I didn't understand why he was so controlling over himself.. where is his desire? isn't he into me? he says he loved me a lot! then I asked him, what's an interesting place he would like to visit? he said " a gay club"... when I asked why he said it seems like fun. no more explanations.</p> <p>I asked him directly if he has homosexual fantasies or desires, and that I would understand.. he denied strongly. is he pretending to be: heterosexual? or is he homosexual, bi-sexual but he's not aware of his own sexual orientations? is vomiting while seeing a naked woman is normal for a male teenager?</p> <p>Dear M,</p> <p>Call off your wedding and run in the opposite direction from your confused future husband.</p> <p>He is a mess of conflicted desires, ideas and confusion sexually. If you must wed him due to your circumstances, be prepared to pleasure yourself and be platonic friends at best.</p> <p>Dr Betty</p></div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: x field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-category.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-category.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <div class="articles__categories"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--card paragraph--view-mode--default simple-band transparent"> <div class="field__item"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--title paragraph--view-mode--default"> <div class="field field--name-field-title field--type-string field--label-hidden field__item">Mentions And Related Topics</div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="field field--name-field-category field--type-entity-reference field--label-hidden field__items"> <div class="field__item"><a href="/articles/category/sexual-identity" hreflang="en">Sexual Identity</a></div> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-blog-comments--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-blog-comments.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-blog-comments.html.twig x field--comment.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <section class="field field--name-field-blog-comments field--type-comment field--label-hidden comment-wrapper"> </section> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig x field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--boolean.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> Fri, 08 Dec 2017 19:59:41 +0000 Betty Dodson 3346 at https://www.dodsonandross.com https://www.dodsonandross.com/articles/he-pretending-be-heterosexual#comments Am I a Lesbian or Bisexual? https://www.dodsonandross.com/articles/am-i-lesbian-or-bisexual <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--title--blog.html.twig x field--node--title.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--title.html.twig * field--string.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--title.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-title field--type-string field--label-hidden">Am I a Lesbian or Bisexual?</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--title.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--uid--blog.html.twig x field--node--uid.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--uid.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--uid.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-uid field--type-entity-reference field--label-hidden"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'username' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> <span lang="" about="/user/121" typeof="schema:Person" property="schema:name" datatype="">Betty Dodson</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> </span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--uid.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--created--blog.html.twig x field--node--created.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--created.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-created field--type-created field--label-hidden"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'time' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/time.html.twig' --> <time datetime="2017-01-08T20:20:49+00:00" title="Sunday, January 8, 2017 - 20:20" class="datetime">Sun, 01/08/2017 - 20:20</time> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/time.html.twig' --> </span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--created.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'links__node' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: x links--node.html.twig x links--node.html.twig * links.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/content/links--node.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/content/links--node.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-components--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-components.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-components.html.twig * field--entity-reference-revisions.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div 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'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> </div> <div class="field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'paragraph' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary---default.html.twig * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * paragraph--default.html.twig x paragraph.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--atom-rtf-with-summary- paragraph--view-mode--default"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig * field--paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig x field--text-with-summary.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> <div class="clearfix text-formatted field field--name-field-atom-rtf-with-summary field--type-text-with-summary field--label-hidden field__item"><p>Dear Dr. Betty,</p> <p>I am 17 years old and I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend, although I've always been in romantic relationships with boys, until now. One thing I know for sure is I've always been attracted to women (I've always fantisized about girls bodies) but I don't know if I'm attracted to boys at all: I've never had a sexual experience, encounter or relationship with a man (not because I don't want to, I just haven't had the opportunity) and I think penises are gross and they scare me.</p> <p>I've read this is normal since I've never had sex with a man and when the time comes I'll get used to it. I'm desperate to know my sexuality because I don't know what to tell people when they ask me and want to label me.</p> <p>Dear J,</p> <p>Until you have tried sex with several men and more women you can just tell people that you are shopping around to discover your sexuality. I enjoyed all of them and took on all the labels until I decided I was simply sexual. Just enjoy yourself. You have a lifetime ahead of you.</p> <p>Dr. Betty</p></div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: x field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-category.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-category.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <div class="articles__categories"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--card paragraph--view-mode--default simple-band transparent"> <div class="field__item"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--title paragraph--view-mode--default"> <div class="field field--name-field-title field--type-string field--label-hidden field__item">Mentions And Related Topics</div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="field field--name-field-category field--type-entity-reference field--label-hidden field__items"> <div class="field__item"><a href="/articles/category/bisexuality" hreflang="en">Bisexuality</a></div> <div class="field__item"><a href="/articles/category/sexual-identity" hreflang="en">Sexual Identity</a></div> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-blog-comments--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-blog-comments.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-blog-comments.html.twig x field--comment.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <section class="field field--name-field-blog-comments field--type-comment field--label-hidden comment-wrapper"> </section> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig x field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--boolean.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> Sun, 08 Jan 2017 20:20:49 +0000 Betty Dodson 3351 at https://www.dodsonandross.com I Think About Engaging in Mutual Masturbation with Another Woman https://www.dodsonandross.com/articles/i-think-about-engaging-mutual-masturbation-another-woman <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--title--blog.html.twig x field--node--title.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--title.html.twig * field--string.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--title.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-title field--type-string field--label-hidden">I Think About Engaging in Mutual Masturbation with Another Woman</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--title.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--uid--blog.html.twig x field--node--uid.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--uid.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--uid.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-uid field--type-entity-reference field--label-hidden"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'username' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> <span lang="" about="/user/121" typeof="schema:Person" property="schema:name" datatype="">Betty Dodson</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> </span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--uid.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--created--blog.html.twig x field--node--created.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--created.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-created field--type-created field--label-hidden"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'time' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/time.html.twig' --> <time datetime="2014-12-30T20:24:32+00:00" title="Tuesday, December 30, 2014 - 20:24" class="datetime">Tue, 12/30/2014 - 20:24</time> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/time.html.twig' --> </span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--created.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'links__node' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: x links--node.html.twig x links--node.html.twig * links.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/content/links--node.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/content/links--node.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-components--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-components.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-components.html.twig * field--entity-reference-revisions.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-components field--type-entity-reference-revisions field--label-hidden field__items"> <div class="field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'paragraph' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * paragraph--image--default.html.twig * paragraph--image.html.twig * paragraph--default.html.twig x paragraph.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--image paragraph--view-mode--default"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--paragraph--field-image--image.html.twig * field--paragraph--field-image.html.twig * field--paragraph--image.html.twig * field--field-image.html.twig * field--image.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-image field--type-image field--label-hidden field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image_formatter' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-formatter.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image_style' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-style.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image.html.twig' --> <img src="/sites/default/files/styles/webp/public/2018-08/kaplan_11_1.jpg.webp?itok=JKgAwNS5" width="640" height="413" alt="" loading="lazy" typeof="foaf:Image" class="image-style-webp" /> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-style.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-formatter.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> </div> <div class="field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'paragraph' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary---default.html.twig * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * paragraph--default.html.twig x paragraph.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--atom-rtf-with-summary- paragraph--view-mode--default"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig * field--paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig x field--text-with-summary.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> <div class="clearfix text-formatted field field--name-field-atom-rtf-with-summary field--type-text-with-summary field--label-hidden field__item"><p>Betty,</p> <p>I appreciate your straight forward, candid approach of breaking down all these barriers and just putting it out there like it is.</p> <p>So as I am discovering, I am one of the more rare here. I will be 50 in a few days and just recently discovered the benefits and joys of enjoying myself. I have been married close to 30 years to the same man, only sexual partner, several children and never once had solo sex. Such practices were taboo growing up, it is probably the reason for having to deal with so many issues of low self esteem, poor relationship skills etc.</p> <p>To cut to the chase. My husband and sexual partner of almost three decades is no longer capable of having sexual relations due to health reasons. Not only is there no more sex, but he has no desire to even help me with my sexual frustrations. For several years I had accepted the notion that my sex life was over :( until one day I decided enough and that it was time to discover myself. Problem was, I brought Into my self pleasuring experiences much guilt from a totally negative past belief system. I am still dealing with it. Guilt from the past, guilt that I am enjoying my body, but my partner can't anymore.</p> <p>At the time, I seriously am enjoying the experience even though I consider myself totally new to all this....I know, 50 years old! Not only am I really liking this self sex, but I have found it to be liberating, freeing, with no outward expectations....I am almost ashamed to say that it is the best sex that I have ever had....I know, I know those negative instilled ideas in me that I am trying to put off. I finally got the courage to talk to a counselor that I have been seeing for a while now. Thankfully, she was very open to talk about all this and gave me some great advice....more importantly, I finally talked openly about it to another female. It was such a liberating conversation. She's great.</p> <p>So here are my questions as a newbie at 50. 1) I am finding that I am wanting to self indulge in my new found pleasure at least two times a day. I get aroused very easily. Normal?</p> <p>Forget normal. Whatever works for you then consider that your normal. Twice a day playing with and enjoying these new sensations makes sense to me.</p> <p>2) sometimes during self pleasure I think about wanting to engage in mutual masturbation with another female and even though I am totally heterosexual, I find myself thinking about females and desiring them. Only due to the fact that I find females to be caring, understanding, accepting and they know what feels good. No, I don't want a relationship with one. I am committed to my husband. So I guess this is just a fantasy thing for me. At the moment, men aren't turning me on at all. Perhaps since I have always felt so dominated over ????? Normal?</p> <p>Allow your mind to fantasize any and everything. Fantasy is at the heart of the creative process. Don't censor your erotic thoughts. Simply enjoy them.</p> <p>And 3) how do I overcome feelings of guilt when it comes to overcoming these very deeply ingrained beliefs? I feel like such a "virgin" with all this and so inexperienced especially when I read about those that have been doing this since childhood.</p> <p>Help Betty, I need to get theses things sorted out in my thinking so I can move on into this new liberating experience. Thanks!</p> <p>Dear S,</p> <p>What a delightful email. CONGRATULATIONS on discovering some to the best sex there is and know that there's more to come. Fifty is so very young you have many joyful years ahead of you. Next on your list will be to discover vuvla massage with an organic oil and playing with sex toys. Keep reading our site for new ideas.</p> <p>Consistent experiences of self-pleasuring will push out those old beliefs. Every orgasm you embrace will move you deeper into the pleasure you've been denied by our Judeo/Christian sex negative culture. Orgasms are your healing so just enjoy them to your hearts content. You will discover your own limits. Until then just stay with the good feelings and trust your body.</p> <p>Dr. Betty</p></div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: x field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-category.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-category.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <div class="articles__categories"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--card paragraph--view-mode--default simple-band transparent"> <div class="field__item"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--title paragraph--view-mode--default"> <div class="field field--name-field-title field--type-string field--label-hidden field__item">Mentions And Related Topics</div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="field field--name-field-category field--type-entity-reference field--label-hidden field__items"> <div class="field__item"><a href="/articles/category/bisexuality" hreflang="en">Bisexuality</a></div> <div class="field__item"><a href="/articles/category/sexual-identity" hreflang="en">Sexual Identity</a></div> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-blog-comments--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-blog-comments.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-blog-comments.html.twig x field--comment.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <section class="field field--name-field-blog-comments field--type-comment field--label-hidden comment-wrapper"> </section> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig x field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--boolean.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> Tue, 30 Dec 2014 20:24:32 +0000 Betty Dodson 3356 at https://www.dodsonandross.com All of a Sudden I'm Attracted to Men https://www.dodsonandross.com/articles/all-sudden-im-attracted-men <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--title--blog.html.twig x field--node--title.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--title.html.twig * field--string.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--title.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-title field--type-string field--label-hidden">All of a Sudden I&#039;m Attracted to Men</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--title.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--uid--blog.html.twig x field--node--uid.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--uid.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--uid.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-uid field--type-entity-reference field--label-hidden"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'username' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> <span lang="" about="/user/121" typeof="schema:Person" property="schema:name" datatype="">Betty Dodson</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> </span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--uid.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--created--blog.html.twig x field--node--created.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--created.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-created field--type-created field--label-hidden"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'time' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT 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field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-components field--type-entity-reference-revisions field--label-hidden field__items"> <div class="field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'paragraph' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * paragraph--image--default.html.twig * paragraph--image.html.twig * paragraph--default.html.twig x paragraph.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--image paragraph--view-mode--default"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--paragraph--field-image--image.html.twig * field--paragraph--field-image.html.twig * field--paragraph--image.html.twig * field--field-image.html.twig * field--image.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-image field--type-image field--label-hidden field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image_formatter' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-formatter.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image_style' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-style.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image.html.twig' --> <img src="/sites/default/files/styles/webp/public/2018-08/sb_80_maleorgy.jpg.webp?itok=e3qh_YQJ" width="587" height="480" alt="" loading="lazy" typeof="foaf:Image" class="image-style-webp" /> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-style.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-formatter.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> </div> <div class="field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'paragraph' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary---default.html.twig * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * paragraph--default.html.twig x paragraph.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--atom-rtf-with-summary- paragraph--view-mode--default"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig * field--paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig x field--text-with-summary.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> <div class="clearfix text-formatted field field--name-field-atom-rtf-with-summary field--type-text-with-summary field--label-hidden field__item"><p>Dear Dr. Betty,</p> <p>I'm a happily married 67 year old guy with 3 children and 6 grandchildren and I'd appreciate your take on a couple of things that are concerning me. I'm hoping you can put my mind at rest.</p> <p>I've never thought too deeply about it but I guess I've always considered myself to be heterosexual. Recently though I've begun to question myself about my sexual orientation. When I was a teenager I had quite a few male friends with whom I regularly indulged in mutual masturbation sessions and enjoyed occasional oral sex. There's no doubt I really enjoyed those experiences and never felt guilty or questioned myself about enjoying it. During those years I also had quite a number of girlfriends and didn't think for a moment that it was strange or wrong to enjoy a sexual relationship with both sexes simultaneously.</p> <p>After I married, the thought of a relationship with another male just didn't occur to me. You see, I have always been attracted to women and have NEVER been physically attracted to men. And while my wife and I have enjoyed a fulfilling sex life for almost 4 decades, in recent times our activity is occasional. During those years I continued to masturbate regularly and still do 3 or 4 times per week.</p> <p>But... as mentioned earlier, in recent years I have developed much more than a passing interest in other men. Not their physical characteristics but in particular watching videos of other males masturbating. I've become obsessed with masturbation and the male ejaculation. It's difficult to explain that part of my obsession... it's not about the male body and its attractiveness, it's about understanding what another male feels during orgasm... experiencing a common pleasure.</p> <p>To further complicate things, I now find myself actively seeking a male friend to form a mutual masturbation relationship with. I have this compelling desire to hold another man's penis and to bring him pleasure. My question is why all of a sudden do I feel this way? Why now after so many years do I yearn to fondle and stroke and give pleasure to another male?</p> <p>The fact is I'm confused by my feelings because on the one hand it seems perfectly natural to want this while on the other it seems quite bizarre. If the common definition of 'bisexual' is someone attracted to both sexes simultaneously, I definitely don't think I fit that mold. To me, I think it's just the thought of the raw sex itself. The excitement of giving and receiving pleasure with another male.</p> <p>My wife isn't aware of my feelings and I certainly wouldn't want to hurt her but I really do have this yearning to be with another guy. Is this a natural thing or should I just put it away as a fantasy that should never be fulfilled?</p> <p>Dear M,</p> <p>In my early feminist days, there was a need to chose my sexual identity as to whether I was straight or gay! I solved this dilemma by stating that I was a "Heterosexual-bisexual-lesbian!" The questions stopped after I announced that. Later on, I had to add SM masturbating leather Dyke. Finally I am now simply SEXUAL!</p> <p>I encourage you to find a JO (jackoff) buddy for harmless, safe sexual fun! Since you're in your 60's chances are your wife is no longer that interested in the old in and out of straight sex.</p> <p>Get a vibrator to enhance her masturbation and you discreetly find a like-minded guy who is interested in sharing some friendly mutual masturbation. Keep your own counsel and enjoy some harmless sexual fun. Happy orgasms,</p> <p>Dr. Betty</p></div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: x field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-category.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-category.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <div class="articles__categories"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--card paragraph--view-mode--default simple-band transparent"> <div class="field__item"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--title paragraph--view-mode--default"> <div class="field field--name-field-title field--type-string field--label-hidden field__item">Mentions And Related Topics</div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="field field--name-field-category field--type-entity-reference field--label-hidden field__items"> <div class="field__item"><a href="/articles/category/bisexuality" hreflang="en">Bisexuality</a></div> <div class="field__item"><a href="/articles/category/sexual-identity" hreflang="en">Sexual Identity</a></div> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-blog-comments--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-blog-comments.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-blog-comments.html.twig x field--comment.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <section class="field field--name-field-blog-comments field--type-comment field--label-hidden comment-wrapper"> </section> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig x field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--boolean.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> Tue, 08 Oct 2013 14:27:10 +0000 Betty Dodson 1366 at https://www.dodsonandross.com I'd Rather Penetrate Than be Penetrated https://www.dodsonandross.com/articles/id-rather-penetrate-be-penetrated <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--title--blog.html.twig x field--node--title.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--title.html.twig * field--string.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--title.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-title field--type-string field--label-hidden">I&#039;d Rather Penetrate Than be Penetrated</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--title.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--uid--blog.html.twig x field--node--uid.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--uid.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--uid.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-uid field--type-entity-reference field--label-hidden"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'username' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> <span lang="" about="/user/121" typeof="schema:Person" property="schema:name" datatype="">Betty Dodson</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> </span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--uid.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--created--blog.html.twig x field--node--created.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--created.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-created field--type-created field--label-hidden"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'time' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/time.html.twig' --> <time datetime="2012-05-28T20:45:31+00:00" title="Monday, May 28, 2012 - 20:45" class="datetime">Mon, 05/28/2012 - 20:45</time> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/time.html.twig' --> </span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--created.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'links__node' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: x links--node.html.twig x links--node.html.twig * links.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/content/links--node.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/content/links--node.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-components--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-components.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-components.html.twig * field--entity-reference-revisions.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-components field--type-entity-reference-revisions field--label-hidden field__items"> <div class="field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'paragraph' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * paragraph--image--default.html.twig * paragraph--image.html.twig * paragraph--default.html.twig x paragraph.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--image paragraph--view-mode--default"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--paragraph--field-image--image.html.twig * field--paragraph--field-image.html.twig * field--paragraph--image.html.twig * field--field-image.html.twig * field--image.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-image field--type-image field--label-hidden field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image_formatter' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-formatter.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image_style' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-style.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image.html.twig' --> <img src="/sites/default/files/styles/webp/public/2018-08/sfo_2_1.jpg.webp?itok=Ntv98UIc" width="640" height="364" alt="" loading="lazy" typeof="foaf:Image" class="image-style-webp" /> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-style.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-formatter.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> </div> <div class="field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'paragraph' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary---default.html.twig * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * paragraph--default.html.twig x paragraph.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--atom-rtf-with-summary- paragraph--view-mode--default"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig * field--paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig x field--text-with-summary.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> <div class="clearfix text-formatted field field--name-field-atom-rtf-with-summary field--type-text-with-summary field--label-hidden field__item"><p>Dear Dr. Betty,</p> <p>I was recently talking to a friend of mine and was telling him something that I really hadn't talked to anyone about before. I am a 20 year old student, I define as lesbian, I masturbate via clitoral stimulation only, and have never been intimate with another person.</p> <p>After having thought about my feelings for quite some time, I admitted to him that I am comfortable with the idea of performing sex acts on another woman but not with the idea of receiving them. Even in my fantasies, I am able to picture myself pleasuring another woman but whenever I try to picture myself being pleasured, or worse, penetrated, I become ridiculously frightened and stop. The weirdest thing was that my friend said that he'd heard that sort of sentiment from a lot of lesbians.</p> <p>I sort of took solace in this statement even though I think he's probably incorrect. I'd just like some advice for how to pass that fence that has come up... it probably won't do me much good when I finally am in a relationship.</p> <p>Dear D,</p> <p>Many lesbians are into vaginal penetration and some love to fuck their girlfriends with a strap-on penis. It's very hot. Those lesbians that avoid it usually have had some bad experience in the past of being penetrated by force. Instead of trying to figure out why you fear penetration, I would suggest you practice using your own finger inside your vagina when you are turned on during masturbation.</p> <p>Once you can feel comfortable doing yourself, it's not such a big leap to allow a girlfriend to penetrate you. I'm quite fond of including vaginal penetration during clitoral stimulation when I masturbate. It really helps me to remember to use my pelvic floor muscles while I stimulate my clitoris. Remember, masturbation is the foundation for all human sexual activity. So expand you pleasures. You might want to read and follow my step by step process for self-loving.</p> <p>Dr. Betty</p></div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: x field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-category.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-category.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <div class="articles__categories"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--card paragraph--view-mode--default simple-band transparent"> <div class="field__item"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--title paragraph--view-mode--default"> <div class="field field--name-field-title field--type-string field--label-hidden field__item">Mentions And Related Topics</div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="field field--name-field-category field--type-entity-reference field--label-hidden field__items"> <div class="field__item"><a href="/articles/category/girl-play" hreflang="en">Girl Play</a></div> <div class="field__item"><a href="/articles/category/sexual-identity" hreflang="en">Sexual Identity</a></div> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-tags--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-tags.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-tags.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-tags field--type-entity-reference field--label-above"> <div class="field__label">Cloud Tags</div> <div class="field__items"> <div class="field__item"><a href="/taxonomy/term/691" hreflang="en">clitoris</a></div> <div class="field__item"><a href="/taxonomy/term/736" hreflang="en">penetration</a></div> <div class="field__item"><a href="/taxonomy/term/741" hreflang="en">vagina</a></div> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-blog-comments--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-blog-comments.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-blog-comments.html.twig x field--comment.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <section class="field field--name-field-blog-comments field--type-comment field--label-hidden comment-wrapper"> </section> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig x field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--boolean.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> Mon, 28 May 2012 20:45:31 +0000 Betty Dodson 2656 at https://www.dodsonandross.com How Can I Liberate Myself from Guilt & Shame & Enjoy Sex with a Woman? https://www.dodsonandross.com/articles/how-can-i-liberate-myself-guilt-shame-enjoy-sex-woman <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--title--blog.html.twig x field--node--title.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--title.html.twig * field--string.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--title.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-title field--type-string field--label-hidden">How Can I Liberate Myself from Guilt &amp; Shame &amp; Enjoy Sex with a Woman?</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--title.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--uid--blog.html.twig x field--node--uid.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--uid.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--uid.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-uid field--type-entity-reference field--label-hidden"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'username' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> <span lang="" about="/user/121" typeof="schema:Person" property="schema:name" datatype="">Betty Dodson</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> </span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--uid.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--created--blog.html.twig x field--node--created.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--created.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-created field--type-created field--label-hidden"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'time' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/time.html.twig' --> <time datetime="2012-04-23T19:32:03+00:00" title="Monday, April 23, 2012 - 19:32" class="datetime">Mon, 04/23/2012 - 19:32</time> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/time.html.twig' --> </span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--created.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'links__node' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: x links--node.html.twig x links--node.html.twig * links.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/content/links--node.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/content/links--node.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-components--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-components.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-components.html.twig * field--entity-reference-revisions.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 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field--type-image field--label-hidden field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image_formatter' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-formatter.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image_style' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-style.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image.html.twig' --> <img src="/sites/default/files/styles/webp/public/2018-08/sb_sisterhood_0.jpg.webp?itok=kS8R5vQo" width="640" height="341" alt="" loading="lazy" typeof="foaf:Image" class="image-style-webp" /> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-style.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-formatter.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 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from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> <div class="clearfix text-formatted field field--name-field-atom-rtf-with-summary field--type-text-with-summary field--label-hidden field__item"><p>Dear Dr. Betty,</p> <p>I don't feel comfortable with myself because I am 30 and never had sex. Not even a kiss, not even a relationship with anyone, never been touched by anyone, never touched anyone. Nothing. Never.</p> <p>Since I was 13, I am perfectly aware of my being lesbian, and I spent a long time feeling guilty about it. I've felt wrong for long. More precisely, I have been feeling guilty, shameful and all that bad stuff about sexuality. About being sexual, you know?</p> <p>I masturbate since I was 11, and I always orgasm. I use my fingers as well, no problem about it. I am not virgin strictly speaking, because I penetrate my own vagina, but i consider my self virgin because I never had sexual experience with another person. Many fantasies about women, sometimes about men as well, dirty talks to myself, and regular orgasms when I masturbate. All right.</p> <p>But when it comes to relate myself with a woman I am attracted to, it feels like I try not to reach my own goal. Instead of working toward winning the woman attention, I try to disqualify my self in front of her. I try not to look hot, not to look attractive, and so on. I've always fallen in love with women I knew they would have pushed me away, as they are heterosexuals or lesbians already engaged in a relationship.</p> <p>I really want to liberate myself from guilt and shame, and finally enjoy great sex with a woman.</p> <p>Thanks for your great job.</p> <p>Dear K,</p> <p>We always think we are so unique but it's not true. The good news is you are having a divine sexual affair with yourself! Let's start there instead of thinking your glass is empty, it's at least half full. I'd rather deal with a person who has a good sexual connection to themselves than an experienced but mindless one who is very social. It is not written anywhere that a person must have a sexual relationship by a certain age. My life's work has been aimed at encouraging women to have a sexual relationship with themselves before experimenting<br> with partnersex. So you are halfway there.</p> <p>If you can't break through your shyness alone, then perhaps some short term counseling would be beneficial. But first, fined a lesbian bar, coffee shop or support group and go there regularly. At some point a ballsy dyke will approach you or a sweet fem much like yourself will smile and one of you will say "Hello." That's really all it takes: a smile, eye contact and a hello. Practice in the mirror for a few days and then get dressed up and go out! I'm rooting for you.</p> <p>Dr. Betty</p></div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: x field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-category.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-category.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <div class="articles__categories"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--card paragraph--view-mode--default simple-band transparent"> <div class="field__item"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--title paragraph--view-mode--default"> <div class="field 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'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-tags field--type-entity-reference field--label-above"> <div class="field__label">Cloud Tags</div> <div class="field__items"> <div class="field__item"><a href="/taxonomy/term/651" hreflang="en">ask dr betty</a></div> <div class="field__item"><a href="/taxonomy/term/666" hreflang="en">pleasure empowers</a></div> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-blog-comments--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-blog-comments.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-blog-comments.html.twig x field--comment.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <section class="field field--name-field-blog-comments field--type-comment field--label-hidden comment-wrapper"> </section> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig x field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--boolean.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> Mon, 23 Apr 2012 19:32:03 +0000 Betty Dodson 3366 at https://www.dodsonandross.com What Am I...Sexually? https://www.dodsonandross.com/articles/what-am-isexually <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--title--blog.html.twig x field--node--title.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * 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property="schema:name" datatype="">Betty Dodson</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> </span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--uid.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--created--blog.html.twig x field--node--created.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--created.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-created field--type-created field--label-hidden"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'time' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/time.html.twig' --> <time datetime="2012-01-09T20:39:23+00:00" title="Monday, January 9, 2012 - 20:39" class="datetime">Mon, 01/09/2012 - 20:39</time> <!-- END OUTPUT from 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field__items"> <div class="field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'paragraph' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * paragraph--image--default.html.twig * paragraph--image.html.twig * paragraph--default.html.twig x paragraph.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--image paragraph--view-mode--default"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--paragraph--field-image--image.html.twig * field--paragraph--field-image.html.twig * field--paragraph--image.html.twig * field--field-image.html.twig * field--image.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-image field--type-image field--label-hidden field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image_formatter' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 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class="field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'paragraph' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary---default.html.twig * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * paragraph--default.html.twig x paragraph.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--atom-rtf-with-summary- paragraph--view-mode--default"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig * field--paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig x field--text-with-summary.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> <div class="clearfix text-formatted field field--name-field-atom-rtf-with-summary field--type-text-with-summary field--label-hidden field__item"><p>Hi Betty,</p> <p>I’ve been struggling with my sexual orientation for a couple of years and am wondering, if you, knowledgeable and esteemed lady :-), might have a word or two of advice, as I don’t seem to be able to get anywhere on my own.</p> <p>When I was little I had crushes on both boys and girls and was absolutely oblivious to it being out of the norm. When I was 11 I got a crush on another gal and that’s when it all started to enter my consciousness. I shortly after started identifying as a lesbian and until I was about 17 (I’m 20), thinking there was no other option for many years as I’ve never even heard of bisexuality. I had built a solid lesbian identity, then it started to dawn on me I might not exclusively be into women and I’ve gradually and very reluctantly let myself explore whatever the hell it was that I was feeling for men.</p> <p>My identity has ever since been in limbo; when somebody asks me I just say I guess I’m bi but I prefer women. Well, that’s on my good days and I’m not having a good day today when it comes to this. I’ve again been going through a time of almost non-existent sexual attraction to men that makes me wonder whether I might really be simply gay (interestingly, these times always coincide with a generally lower libido).&nbsp;</p> <p>My attractions to men always wax and wane and I’ve never felt anything beyond physical and sexual attraction. And because of my gender (I ID genderqueer) I’m not even sure whether that attraction might not have something to do with me wanting to be like them instead of wanting to do them. I feel little to no fondness even for the men I am attracted to and in comparison to what I feel for women it all seems awfully bleak much of the time. I know sexuality can be pretty changeable and is everything but simple, but I don’t even know what to think anymore, much less what I could identify as (I’m really not one of those types who don’t feel the need to identify as something). Not to mention I’m still mourning my good old, simple lesbian identity.</p> <p>I’m really at a complete loss with this and any advice would be appreciated.</p> <p>Best wishes,<br> J</p> <p>Dear J,</p> <p>As a child, I too had crushes on both boys and girls and was absolutely oblivious to it being out of the ordinary. Today I believe that was a healthy attitude until I got programmed to choose one or the other. I long for the day we can all just be "sexual,"and drop the labels. We could try everything that interests us. Or not.</p> <p>What you describe is very much what I went through. But in the late sixties, sexual expression was fluid with group sex allowing us enormous freedom to experiment safely. (There's safety in numbers). I was able to explore sex with women without making a big deal commitment. By the the time feminism landed with both feet in work boots in NYC, it became mandatory as a lesbian to devote my life to one woman forever more. That's when sexual identity became a BIG issue. We had political lesbians who were not even having sex with women! Using the term "bisexual" back then simply meant I hadn't yet made up my mind. By the time my book "Liberating Masturbation" came out in '73, I publicly stated in print that I was a "heterosexual-bisexual-lesbian" and that seemed to end any further discussion. Most likely because it was too confusing.</p> <p>Today sexual identity has become a Hot Topic even more so than in the past. Thanks to Reagan's conservative presidency, AIDS and the rise of Christian Fundamentalism, America returned to the dark ages and we are still bailing ourselves out from that time. There are positive signs like when I heard about LUGS: lesbians until graduation. Or terms like heteroflexible or homoflexible coming into use. We now have gay marriage and gays in the military are out. My take on human sexuality is that it can be entirely fluid and change throughout our lives. If a person is lucky, they will get to do it all in one lifetime. So either embracing a multiple sex label that doesn't nail you down. Your Gender/Queer label goes beyond a fixed identity. To me Queer just means you're more interesting than being fixed gay or straight and that includes fantasy, kink, SM and role playing.</p> <p>Now in my later years, I'd love to be a garden variety full time lesbian because I really do prefer the company of women. Alas, I am hardwired sexually to want cock and a good fuck. However, old age is gradually putting all that into the fantasy department. Meanwhile, I still have my one true love: Myself! Along with me, I have masturbation, my sex toys, a wealth of sexual memories and a Rolodex of low down dirty fantasies. How's that for a sexual success story!</p> <p>Dr. Betty</p> <p>Dear Betty,</p> <p>I'll throw a party for all of Austria when the day we can all just call ourselves "sexual" has arrived. If I'll get to see that day in my lifetime.</p> <p>I think identity politics is precisely what's making it so hard for me. I used to be very involved in so-called lesbian politics (with a nice shot of monosexism and what I call lesbian supremacism) for much of my teens and I guess that definitely left some marks on me. It's completely irrational, but there's a part of me that keeps tenaciously resisting my attractions to men. Courtesy of the subconscious baggage I gathered over the years and was never even aware of until not so long ago. And I'm not quite sure about how I could handle it to get rid of it.</p> <p>Sincerely,<br> J</p> <p>Dear J,</p> <p>Lesbian separatism or supremacist attitudes is one of the many reasons feminism got derailed. It mirrors the problems of only honoring heterosexual unions. Your awareness of this is your first step in healing politically correct identity politics. What a load of crap! I do believe you will live to see this your lifetime thanks to the Internet.</p> <p>Dr. Betty</p></div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: x field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-category.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-category.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <div class="articles__categories"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--card paragraph--view-mode--default simple-band transparent"> <div class="field__item"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--title paragraph--view-mode--default"> <div class="field field--name-field-title field--type-string field--label-hidden field__item">Mentions And Related Topics</div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="field field--name-field-category field--type-entity-reference field--label-hidden field__items"> <div class="field__item"><a href="/articles/category/bisexuality" hreflang="en">Bisexuality</a></div> <div class="field__item"><a href="/articles/category/sexual-identity" hreflang="en">Sexual Identity</a></div> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-tags--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-tags.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-tags.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-tags field--type-entity-reference field--label-above"> <div class="field__label">Cloud Tags</div> <div class="field__items"> <div class="field__item"><a href="/taxonomy/term/651" hreflang="en">ask dr betty</a></div> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-blog-comments--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-blog-comments.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-blog-comments.html.twig x field--comment.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <section class="field field--name-field-blog-comments field--type-comment field--label-hidden comment-wrapper"> </section> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig x field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--boolean.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> Mon, 09 Jan 2012 20:39:23 +0000 Betty Dodson 3371 at https://www.dodsonandross.com At a Loss with My Sexual Orientation https://www.dodsonandross.com/articles/loss-my-sexual-orientation <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--title--blog.html.twig x field--node--title.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--title.html.twig * field--string.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 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FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * paragraph--image--default.html.twig * paragraph--image.html.twig * paragraph--default.html.twig x paragraph.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--image paragraph--view-mode--default"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--paragraph--field-image--image.html.twig * field--paragraph--field-image.html.twig * field--paragraph--image.html.twig * field--field-image.html.twig * field--image.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-image field--type-image field--label-hidden field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image_formatter' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-formatter.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image_style' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-style.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image.html.twig' --> <img src="/sites/default/files/styles/webp/public/2018-08/sketch_couple5.jpg.webp?itok=W9OaWHQN" width="640" height="325" alt="" loading="lazy" typeof="foaf:Image" class="image-style-webp" /> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-style.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-formatter.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> </div> <div class="field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'paragraph' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary---default.html.twig * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * paragraph--default.html.twig x paragraph.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--atom-rtf-with-summary- paragraph--view-mode--default"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig * field--paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig x field--text-with-summary.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> <div class="clearfix text-formatted field field--name-field-atom-rtf-with-summary field--type-text-with-summary field--label-hidden field__item"><p>Hi Betty,</p> <p>I’ve been struggling with my sexual orientation for a couple of years and am wondering, if you, knowledgeable and esteemed lady :-), might have a word or two of advice, as I don’t seem to be able to get anywhere on my own.</p> <p>When I was little I had crushes on both boys and girls and was absolutely oblivious to it being out of the norm. When I was 11 I got a crush on another gal and that’s when it all started to enter my consciousness. I shortly after started identifying as a lesbian and until I was about 17 (I’m 20), thinking there was no other option for many years as I’ve never even heard of bisexuality. I had built a solid lesbian identity, then it started to dawn on me I might not exclusively be into women and I’ve gradually and very reluctantly let myself explore whatever the hell it was that I was feeling for men. My identity has ever since been in limbo; when somebody asks me I just say I guess I’m bi but I prefer women.</p> <p>Well, that’s on my good days and I’m not having a good day today when it comes to this. I’ve again been going through a time of almost non-existent sexual attraction to men that makes me wonder whether I might really be simply gay (interestingly, these times always coincide with a generally lower libido). My attractions to men always wax and wane and I’ve never felt anything beyond physical and sexual attraction. And because of my gender (I ID genderqueer) I’m not even sure whether that attraction might not have something to do with me wanting to be like them instead of wanting to do them. I feel little to no fondness even for the men I am attracted to and in comparison to what I feel for women it all seems awfully bleak much of the time. I know sexuality can be pretty changeable and is everything but simple, but I don’t even know what to think anymore, much less what I could identify as (I’m really not one of those types who don’t feel the need to identify as something). Not to mention I’m still mourning my good old, simple lesbian identity.</p> <p>I’m really at a complete loss with this and any advice would be appreciated.</p> <p>Best wishes,<br> J</p> <p>Dear J,</p> <p>As a child, I too had crushes on both boys and girls and was absolutely oblivious to it being out of the ordinary. Today I believe that was a healthy attitude until I got programmed to choose one or the other. I long for the day we can all just be "sexual,"and drop the labels. We could try everything that interests us. Or not.</p> <p>What you describe is very much what I went through. But in the late sixties, sexual expression was fluid with group sex allowing us enormous freedom to experiment safely. (There's safety in numbers). I was able to explore sex with women without making a big deal commitment. By the the time feminism landed with both feet in work boots in NYC, it became mandatory as a lesbian to devote my life to one woman forever more. That's when sexual identity became a BIG<br> issue. We had political lesbians who were not even having sex with women! Using the term "bisexual" back then simply meant I hadn't yet made up my mind. By the time my book "Liberating Masturbation" came out in '73, I publicly stated in print that I was a "heterosexual-bisexual-lesbian" and that seemed to end any further discussion. Most likely because it was too confusing.</p> <p>Today sexual identity has become a Hot Topic even more so than in the past. Thanks to Reagan's conservative presidency, AIDS and the rise of Christian Fundamentalism, America returned to the dark ages and we are still bailing ourselves out from that time. There are positive signs like when I heard about LUGS: lesbians until graduation. Or terms like heteroflexible or homoflexible coming into use. We now have gay marriage and gays in the military are out. My take on human sexuality is that it can be entirely fluid and change throughout our lives. If a person is lucky, they will get to do it all in one lifetime. So either embracing a multiple sex label that doesn't nail you down. Your Gender/Queer label goes beyond a fixed identity. To me Queer just means you're more interesting than being fixed gay or straight and that includes fantasy, kink, SM and role playing.</p> <p>Now in my later years, I'd love to be a garden variety full time lesbian because I really do prefer the company of women. Alas, I am hardwired sexually to want cock and a good fuck. However, old age is gradually putting all that into the fantasy department. Meanwhile, I still have my one true love: Myself! Along with me, I have masturbation, my sex toys, a wealth of sexual memories and a Rolodex of low down dirty fantasies. How's that for a sexual success story!</p> <p>Dr. Betty</p></div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: x field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-category.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-category.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <div class="articles__categories"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--card paragraph--view-mode--default simple-band transparent"> <div class="field__item"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--title paragraph--view-mode--default"> <div class="field field--name-field-title field--type-string field--label-hidden field__item">Mentions And Related Topics</div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="field field--name-field-category field--type-entity-reference field--label-hidden field__items"> <div class="field__item"><a href="/articles/category/sexual-identity" hreflang="en">Sexual Identity</a></div> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-tags--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-tags.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-tags.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-tags field--type-entity-reference field--label-above"> <div class="field__label">Cloud Tags</div> <div class="field__items"> <div class="field__item"><a href="/taxonomy/term/796" hreflang="en">arousal</a></div> <div class="field__item"><a href="/taxonomy/term/651" hreflang="en">ask dr betty</a></div> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-blog-comments--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-blog-comments.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-blog-comments.html.twig x field--comment.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <section class="field field--name-field-blog-comments field--type-comment field--label-hidden comment-wrapper"> </section> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig x field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--boolean.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> Wed, 07 Dec 2011 15:36:10 +0000 Betty Dodson 1376 at https://www.dodsonandross.com https://www.dodsonandross.com/articles/loss-my-sexual-orientation#comments Sex with Women is About Love & Passion. Sex with Men is about Submission. Is This Healthy? https://www.dodsonandross.com/articles/sex-women-about-love-passion-sex-men-about-submission-healthy <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--title--blog.html.twig x field--node--title.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--title.html.twig * field--string.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--title.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-title field--type-string field--label-hidden">Sex with Women is About Love &amp; Passion. Sex with Men is about Submission. Is This Healthy?</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--title.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--uid--blog.html.twig x field--node--uid.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--uid.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--uid.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-uid field--type-entity-reference field--label-hidden"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'username' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> <span lang="" about="/user/121" typeof="schema:Person" property="schema:name" datatype="">Betty Dodson</span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/user/username.html.twig' --> </span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--uid.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--created--blog.html.twig x field--node--created.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field--created.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--created.html.twig' --> <span class="field field--name-created field--type-created field--label-hidden"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'time' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/time.html.twig' --> <time datetime="2011-08-06T14:40:00+00:00" title="Saturday, August 6, 2011 - 14:40" class="datetime">Sat, 08/06/2011 - 14:40</time> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/time.html.twig' --> </span> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--node--created.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'links__node' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: x links--node.html.twig x links--node.html.twig * links.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/content/links--node.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/content/links--node.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-components--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-components.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-components.html.twig * field--entity-reference-revisions.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-components field--type-entity-reference-revisions field--label-hidden field__items"> <div class="field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'paragraph' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * paragraph--image--default.html.twig * paragraph--image.html.twig * paragraph--default.html.twig x paragraph.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--image paragraph--view-mode--default"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--paragraph--field-image--image.html.twig * field--paragraph--field-image.html.twig * field--paragraph--image.html.twig * field--field-image.html.twig * field--image.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-image field--type-image field--label-hidden field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image_formatter' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-formatter.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image_style' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-style.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'image' --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image.html.twig' --> <img src="/sites/default/files/styles/webp/public/2018-08/sketch_couple3.jpg.webp?itok=MB71TEBF" width="640" height="365" alt="" loading="lazy" typeof="foaf:Image" class="image-style-webp" /> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-style.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/image-formatter.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> </div> <div class="field__item"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'paragraph' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary---default.html.twig * paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * paragraph--default.html.twig x paragraph.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--atom-rtf-with-summary- paragraph--view-mode--default"> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--paragraph--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig * field--paragraph--atom-rtf-with-summary-.html.twig * field--field-atom-rtf-with-summary.html.twig x field--text-with-summary.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> <div class="clearfix text-formatted field field--name-field-atom-rtf-with-summary field--type-text-with-summary field--label-hidden field__item"><p>Dear Betty,</p> <p>I've been following you for a long while and I've contacted you before concerning a couple different issues and your advice always helped me work it out, I want to thank you for that. But I'm in a new situation.</p> <p>Recently I had my best girl friend over and her boyfriend, we'd been hanging out a lot lately-the three of us. I've always been close with her physically. A lot of hugging, cuddling, playful fondling. During our cuddle time he started initiating sex with her and we all ended up having a wonderful sexual experience. None of us regret it and between me and him we kept our own boundaries, our concentration never wavered from pleasing my best friend.</p> <p>I loved this experience and I thirst for more, but it led me to a question about myself. I was always aware I was bisexual but the roles I seem to put people into differ greatly. When I think about sex with women its always about love and passion...it's beautiful in my mind. And I enjoy sex with me too but in a much different way. When with a man I want to be owned, submissive. I want his sexuality to overpower me, to sort of just be his means to an end. I'm concerned that this is very unhealthy....fantasies are wonderful, but I can never really enjoy straight sex without that kind of action. Is it something you come across often? Maybe you could give me your opinion on it.</p> <p>Dear J,</p> <p>Threesomes were some of my favorite kinds of sex. And yes, sharing sex with a woman is often more about emotions while feeling love and tenderness toward her. You ask, " When with a man I want to be owned, submissive. I want his sexuality to overpower me, to sort of just be his means to an end. I'm concerned that this is very unhealthy."</p> <p>Heterosexual dominance and submission is quite common. Most of us are doing it unconsciously as it imitates our standard expectations of Big Strong Man having his way with Helpless Girl. It's a mild version of a "rape fantasy" which is a favorite of many women, myself included, even though it's not considered PC. Never let the "thought control" cops interfere with a hot fantasy that works. I say our minds have no limits on what we can fantasize. Some day try fantasizing dominating your male partner for a change of pace. The truth is we rarely can experience sex between equals, a romantic notion that's been around far too long. One or the other partner will have to make the first move or we would never have sex.</p> <p>Dr. Betty</p></div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--text-with-summary.html.twig' --> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'modules/contrib/paragraphs/templates/paragraph.html.twig' --> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: x field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-category.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-category.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <div class="articles__categories"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--card paragraph--view-mode--default simple-band transparent"> <div class="field__item"> <div class="paragraph paragraph--type--title paragraph--view-mode--default"> <div class="field field--name-field-title field--type-string field--label-hidden field__item">Mentions And Related Topics</div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="field field--name-field-category field--type-entity-reference field--label-hidden field__items"> <div class="field__item"><a href="/articles/category/bisexuality" hreflang="en">Bisexuality</a></div> <div class="field__item"><a href="/articles/category/girl-play" hreflang="en">Girl Play</a></div> <div class="field__item"><a href="/articles/category/sexual-identity" hreflang="en">Sexual Identity</a></div> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--node--field-category--blog.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-tags--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-tags.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-tags.html.twig * field--entity-reference.html.twig x field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <div class="field field--name-field-tags field--type-entity-reference field--label-above"> <div class="field__label">Cloud Tags</div> <div class="field__items"> <div class="field__item"><a href="/taxonomy/term/651" hreflang="en">ask dr betty</a></div> </div> </div> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-blog-comments--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-blog-comments.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig * field--field-blog-comments.html.twig x field--comment.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <section class="field field--name-field-blog-comments field--type-comment field--label-hidden comment-wrapper"> </section> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/contrib/classy/templates/field/field--comment.html.twig' --> <!-- THEME DEBUG --> <!-- THEME HOOK: 'field' --> <!-- FILE NAME SUGGESTIONS: * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts--blog.html.twig * field--node--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--node--blog.html.twig x field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig * field--boolean.html.twig * field.html.twig --> <!-- BEGIN OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> <!-- END OUTPUT from 'themes/custom/dodson/templates/field/field--field-promote-to-popular-posts.html.twig' --> Sat, 06 Aug 2011 14:40:00 +0000 Betty Dodson 1381 at https://www.dodsonandross.com