What If You Last Too Long in Bed?

Fri, 04/15/2016 - 08:43
Submitted by Carlin Ross

How he orgasms doesn't define you.

The many thousands of times we have sex only to ...

Sat, 04/16/2016 - 04:01
Lizzie Smith

So true, ladies D&R. We have such a strict script for sex.
The script leads to partners ending up playing theatrics with one another. 
At 4:00 Betty talks about authenticity versus pretending: "When somebody is masturbating, you are watching authentic sex." 
It's a pity that even the meaning of the word masturbation has been lost in general language as we may hear someone saying: He masturbated me. Or, I masturbated him. 
Originally 'masturbation' has only the meaning 'self-stimulation', not the partners stimulating one another. 
It seems as if our sex script still down-grades self-stimulation as something private even though it would easily enable authenticity in partnersex.
Instead, the script favors every other form of sex play that bring about pretending by making it nearly impossible for the woman to orgasm without conscious mutual practice and co-operation.
And let's not be overly optimistic, even if a woman can make herself come not only in privacy but also by self-stimulation in the presence of partner, she may opt out coming with partner anyway. It may simply be too much work.
As Carlin and Betty on the video say, as long as a woman is able to come some way, she is ok. More than ok. Bewitched and grateful she never gets tired to witness lover's self-love.

Only authenticity stands the passing of years and the many "thousands of times" we have sex only to come, nothing more, whichever easiest way it may take place. Thanks, Carlin and Betty.