Let's End Fat Shaming

Tue, 07/05/2016 - 10:15
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Our bodies are our own.

Agree, but...

Thu, 07/14/2016 - 19:36

...let's also not forget how many more children in this day and age are obese at very young age already. More than 35% in the U.S., which is alarming! It's about finding a balance between moving enough and right eating habits, and education. I don't approve of shaming, but we should also not give kids or anybody who is clearly overweight to an unhealthy degree a Carte Blanche for poor habits.

Health & Beauty

Wed, 07/06/2016 - 03:46

Just to start - Betty Dodson, you are the most amazingly beautiful woman whatever your age. It has something to do with the symmetry of your face and that wonderful shock of silver hair cut so sharply, but even more to do with your smile and the empathy that pours out through your face and voice.

So yes let's celebrate your achievements, but also recognise that you are an incredibly beautiful woman who has lived a life worth living.

As the mother of two girls, I have always been very aware of the issues around food, the eating disorders, the constant reduction of girls and women to their two dimensional appearance. Since every woman, including myself, has body image issues of one sort or another, I worried about the best way forward. Conversations abut weight and appearance started to crop up in our house at around the same age as Lisa Khan and her daughter. I'd be interested in hearing the detail to that conversation.

From my experience, turns out faking it has some advantages when it comes to body confidence. Your children learn most and deepest the things that you do rather than say so it is incredibly important to fake body confidence. It doesn't matter what shape or size you actually are, providing you can be  (or appear to be) happy with what you've got.

So like Betty's mother, as far as my girls are concerned, I am happy with the way I look, content with my weight and totally unwilling to criticise another woman or girl on the basis of her size or shape.

In regards of food, we have just one rule in our house: Everything or anything in moderation. Food isn't good or bad, it's just food. We've only ever talked about food in terms of a healthy balance.

When they were very little, we had fairly structured mealtimes with a break for fruit mid-morning and for milk and biscuits mid-afternoon. The girls have never really got into habitual snacking or grazing. They've never been forced to finish food so are quite capable of stopping part way through a slice of cake because they're no longer hungry (something I'm quite incapable of doing).

So now I have two teenage girls with quite different body shapes. They happen to be both quite skinny yet still lack confidence in their looks. Maybe this is just an inevitable part of being a teenager. They want to look "good" but don't want anyone to look at them, hate the idea of standing out from the crowd. Weird.

The body we are sold in all of the magazines is clearly that of a young, just past puberty girl and the irony is that at that stage of life, none of us actually like ourselves. Youth really does seem to be wasted on the young.

"I am worthy"

Tue, 07/05/2016 - 11:36

"I am worthy" (period) enough said  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hCUc5o1l3i0