Is Female Ejaculation An Orgasm?

Fri, 02/14/2014 - 17:49
Submitted by Carlin Ross
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Female ejaculation is not an orgasm.

Right On The Money!

Wed, 02/19/2014 - 13:02

With the resurgence of Deep Spot, G-Spot, vaginal orgasm craze, seemingly launched and supported by many male oriented and male visited websites...this female ejaculation phenomenon has seemed to hit The Spot with guys! They are always pressuring the male model of sexual performance on women, which is described as intercourse, orgasm, then ejaculation. That is how a man experiences his orgasm via intercourse. Women achieve orgasm predominantly through external, clitoral stimulation, which is hardly engaged during penile, penetrative intercourse. Perhaps some indirect stimulation occurs, but rarely enough to bring a woman to orgasm. So now guys want us to not only orgasm via intercourse, now we have to ejaculate as well. I mean really.....ladies, please be smarter than this! Take control of your own body instead of allowing another sex to tell you what you should feel!

I wonder how eager a man would be to get you to 'ejaculate' if you tell him to use his fingers ONLY to stimulate these proposed wonder spots in your vagina? Are they not usually trying to use their penis - which by the way does not bend upwards to the roof of the vagina? No, only fingers can perform the "come hither" movement necessary to get these spots to work...by their own admission. I bet they will drop the notion pretty fast when you start asking for fingers instead of penis to stimulate all these zones. I bet they won't do it for long if they do, because this ruse is devised simply to keep women focused on accepting intercourse only as the main deal. Naturally they will do this because intercourse is the method a man uses to get his orgasm.

In many cases, male websites are teaching that the skeins gland is located there, reportedly to be homologous to the prostrate gland. This is also described as the infamous G-Spot. Again, using a male model to conform females to males in anatomic structure. In my honest opinion, I believe it is more male propaganda to push the vagina as the major organ for female pleasure. Wrong....only the clitoris can stake that claim.

Female ejaculation vs. orgasm

Wed, 02/19/2014 - 16:41

I don't understand the current fascination with female ejaculation, which has misled both men and women. It seems to have something to do with the incorrect belief by analogy that release of fluid equals orgasm. Some women do experience a discharge of fluid during sex, but it has nothing directly to do with orgasm. I saw a video not long ago of a woman 'ejaculating' during masturbation, but her actual orgasm came several minutes later from clitoral stimulation and wasn't accompanied by any fluid. I really think that men and women need to thoroughly educate themselves about one another's sexual responses. A generally friendly attitude towards one another would help tremendously, too.

No knowledgeable man would expect most women to orgasm through intercourse alone. Some women do, of course, but many need additional stimulation. Accurate sex education is again the key to getting both men and women to understand how each gender typically responds; these myths about things like female ejaculation would quickly disappear in a sexually literate public. Men shouldn't expect women to mirror the 'male model', nor should women expect that men must conform to their model. Neither model is better, they're just somewhat different, and those differences need to be accommodated rather than struggled against. It may go against our cultural beliefs, but I think men themselves would be far better off in most cases de-emphasizing intercourse rather than making it the center of lovemaking (the exception would be a partner who happens to really like it). No more Viagra, no more unnecessary pressure to 'perform' or 'last a long time' (i.e. trying not to have orgasms!), just shared intimacy and pleasure in whatever ways work for both partners---and surely, mutual intimacy and pleasure are the whole point of having a partner.

Does this video trivialize or stigmatize female ejaculation?

Sun, 02/16/2014 - 19:08
Anonymous

Hi Betty and Carlin,
I do not think that this video is sensitive to women who have been stigmatized
for ejaculating (it is not 'widely valued'), and who experience ejaculation as a natural part of their sexual response cycle.
You say in this video that the clitoris is the primary sex organ for pleasure, and that focus on ejaculation limits attention to the clitoris. However, I generally only masturabate with my clitoris, and I ejaculate. Since I became orgasmic a few years ago, I started to also ejaculate. I only ejaculate with the magic wand, and sometimes with my hands - never through vaginal penetration at all. I do not try to ejaculate, and it does not always happen - but if it happens, i often also feel an orgasm (or it will signal that I will have an orgasm in a minute).
I feel that this video emphasizes ejaculation as just a weird, meaningless offshoot (no pun intended) of urination - but for me, it is intimately connected with my sexual response cycle. I feel that the atmosphere of this video is denouncing and devaluing this sexual experience - one which I have been working hard to come to listen to and accept. I understand who you are critiquing (ejaculation as a 'fetish object'), but I can't help but feel like something so intimate to the rhythm of my body is being trivialized in the process.

I'm so glad to hear you agree with me

Sun, 02/14/2016 - 20:19

I have a similar experience, and I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one who enjoys ejaculation and finds it significant in my sex life. I agree with them, that ejaculation isn't the same as orgasm, and I have attempted to educate ill-informed lovers about this. But, I do also really enjoy it, and sometimes, like you, it means even better feelings, such as orgasm, are on the way. I also really love orgasm that seems to come from the inside, and not specifically from the external clitoris. It is very rare, and almost all the orgasms in my life have required stimulation to the external clitoris, but I have had moments when it's felt heavenly to have that anterior wall of the vagina stimulated.
I can totally get behind wanting to de-emphasize any importance to ejaculating, or g-spot orgasms, as I understand it's not common or necessary for a satisfying sex life. It would just be nice to be inclusive of us ladies who do have those experiences. I've had so much shame in life about ejaculation, and at this point in my life it feels far more freeing and liberating (as well as pleasureable), to enjoy this experience that my body gives me. 

Female ejaculation

Fri, 08/22/2014 - 23:41
Anonymous

I am upset at your response to this subject. I am very orgasmic. And several years ago I started to have female ejaculations. Well I can tell you I can do it with just my husband doing nipple play and mostly with clitoral play. I don't hardly ever do it with penetration. I can do it upto 2 dozen times. And I have always had strong orgasms. And I started this before I ever really heard of this. I got embarrassed until my husband told and showed me that this is a comman thing. I know my orgasms and I release with an orgasm. Just like what was said everyone likes different things. I can't do anal because of all my tumors but others can. More power too them. Just like you don't want the government telling you as a woman what you can or can not do with your body. How can you tell everyone that what me and others are experiencing isn't real. I have respect for what your doing, please have respect for those of us who this can happen too. If you don't believe me come visit and I'll show you. Thanx