Sex Positions

Hi,
I am 21 and I've just met a guy (20, but very mature for his age) and we both really like each other. We haven't gone as far as saying that we are in a relationship, cause it's to early for that, really. But we seem to trust each other very much. We've figured out why our first times together haven't been as good as we both hoped for. And though he did cum, he found it a little boring, as well as I did. We found out that we were just both being shy and not playing around enough. My problem is that I have never had an orgasm during intercourse.

Dear Betty,

Last time I had sex, I realised something - or rather, I noticed it the day after. My inner thighs were bruised (most likely from staying too long in the missionary position), which was quite painful, as I'm a curvy girl, my thighs touch when I walk. It's not the first time I've been bruised this way - in fact, it happens almost every time I've had sex.

Hello! My "friend", at my request, sent me a pic of his dick...he did warn me ahead of time, that it was very small. He did not lie...I can barely see it. This is a relatively new "relationship"; and, because we live miles apart, we're cybersexing. I'm used to big cocks...BIG! I adore the rest of his body...it's actually perfect, in my eyes; and, he makes me so very horny. He knows how to "speak my language"...he's very hot. If the relationship continues to progress, I want to be able to please him...and, I want to be pleased. Can you suggest positions, that will maximize what he has.

Dr. Betty-

I'm in my mid-20s and have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years. We have a wonderful sex life and are both happy with each other sexually. However, whether he's masturbating or have sex, he can only cum when he's lying down on his back. Usually it doesn't bother me, but unfortunately it makes for routine sex. I always end up on top to please him. We've tried a million different positions and methods to try and get him to cum in a different position and he's tried masturbating in different positions to try and cum but to no avail. Is there anything that you can suggest to help him cum in another position?

HI Betty

First off I want to say that I admire your life's work. I have seen your artwork in books and I am familiar with your crusading to make our culture less prudish. Thank you for your efforts.

The question I have is as follows: My partner and now husband of 6 years has told me recently that he is not satisfied with our sex. It is not because he cannot orgasm, because he always does orgasm. He is not psychologically satisfied with our sex because he says he wants to be able to "slam" into me hard and fast. He says that he feels that he has to hold back and not loose himself in the moment. He says that this holding back is not fun for him.

I was just wondering if you have any suggestions for plus sized women who are interested in learning how to "ride" a man (woman on top).  I am often afraid that I will hurt my boyfriend who weighs almost as much as I do, but I still have him beat by 15-20lbs.  Also, I often find myself getting tired up there and give up.  Any suggestions?