Sex Education

Father Ksawery Knotz's book, entitled In Sex as you don't know it: For married couples who love God, has been described as a "Catholic Kama Sutra".  The Franciscan friar has raised eyebrows by going into graphic detail about how married couples can spice up their sex lives.

"Every act - a type of caress, a sexual position - with the goal of arousal is permitted and pleases God," he writes.

"During sexual intercourse, couples can show their love in every way, can offer one another the most sought after caresses."  Sex in marriage, Father Knotz explains, should not be boring but "saucy, surprising and fantasy packed".

A real government agency has finally said it...the emperor has no clothes on...10 years of abstinence-only sex ed hasn't kept kids from having sex at all.  They still have sex, it's unprotected, and sex infections are spreading rapidly. 

The latest statistics on chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis show that these three highly treatable infections continue to spread in the United States.

"Chlamydia and gonorrhea are stable at unacceptably high levels and syphilis is resurgent after almost being eliminated," said John Douglas, director of the division of sexually transmitted diseases at the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

For my friends who often accuse me of having a "Potty mouth" or request that "I tone down my use of four letter words" or the time back in 1974 when Gloria Steinem said absolutely NO four letter words in my masturbation article for Ms. along the numerous times I've been told I'd reach a much larger audience if I cleaned up my language, I say, "Read this feminist critique of my sex coacing please!":

This research focuses on Betty Dodson's speech, "Sex Coaching". While the intended audience was composed of therapists and psychologists, the value of this rhetoric is for every woman. The content focuses on female masturbation; how to do it, what to call the anatomy, and why it is so important. Masturbation is generally a hushed-up topic, particularly for women. Historically, it has simply not been appropriate to speak about it, much less admit to doing it.

My vulva and I have been through many adventures. It's been a landscape of bodies and bedrooms, of smells and penetration and self-celebration (masturbation). And we've had the good graces of immortalizing our journeys through film and photographs. Heck, we even won an award! So, my vajayjay deserves a high-five. But, as it turned out on Friday, our cinematic adventures have not ceased (now we're in Betty's new Manual Skills Series).

With one leg hunched up on the toilet bowl, I expertly trim my public hairs. Never had I seen them so clean, so well-trimmed. Usually, it looks like I'm giving a young frat boy a choke hold with my legs. Or I get all porno on myself and shave it all off completely. This time around, we all wanted a very natural, bushy look (Just clean enough for the fine folks at home to see).

Here's the link to our new streaming videos page that at the moment, has two brand new Dodson and Ross short erotic sex ed videos. One is called Condom Basics, showing how to put on a condom, tips for better condom use, and some smoldering footage of vaginal sex with clitoral stimulation done by the man. (see also my blog post on my Advanced Condom Tips) The other video highlights the basics of anal sex for women, but can be applied to men as well. When I watched this one especially, it showed me in third person how hot sex skills not only feel, but look.

We also have, in a series of six segments, Betty's popular female masturbation erotic sex ed video, Orgasmic Women. All the clips very affordably priced too. It's learning that's hot.

I never post before 7am because I'm never up this early.  But today Betty and I are shooting the next installment in our Sex Skills series: Manual Stimulation.  It's all about how to touch your pussy and stimulate yourself to orgasm.  

And it's an all woman shoot (except for Eric but he's one of us).  Anna, Jenny, Christina, Betty and me. We sat up last night talking sex and feminism at Betty's and it was electric. I can't wait to get to set. They'll be limited posting today but we shot our video podcast yesterday - I just have to edit it this morning. As Susie Bright says, "clits up!

For those new to my blog, I write on my sex life, in erotica form, because many of us need only read of an example of what really is possible or that they'd never thought of. It so often lights a desire inside to "want to feel that." To want to learn how to make sex better through sex education, consulting, and coaching, maybe for the first time in their lives.

Back to blogging after my computer was in the shop and i was busy with life, clients, and lovers. Continuously discovering, creating and testing new (for me) sex techniques, tips, scenarios, and principles since my last entry.

Been exercising for two weeks now, as I first told you about in my blog entry called "Day One Of Exercising My Penis," and have noticed my glans (the head of my penis) swells more dramatically than it used to when I squeeze my PC muscle tight. It's gotten a little bigger.

Betty answered this question, I posted it, and 1,000 of you read it within a few hours. It was a natural topic for our Friday podcast. 

German men beat out the Brits taking the title of World's Worst Lovers due to their bad hygiene.  It is kind of suprising because they're so kinky (they do have the most stimulating porn out there) but BO is BO.  And American men came in 5th because you're too rough.  The World's Best Lovers are in Spain.  I've always wanted to see Barcelona ;) 

Here's how the rest of world's men fared in the sex department:

WORLD'S WORST LOVERS

1. Germany (too smelly)
2. England (too lazy)

My lover Kristina asked me when last we were together, lounging in her bed, "So many men want to run a race with their dicks straight to the vagina. How was it that you went a different way?"

It made me think of what is said among some men: don't bother learning how to make it feel good for her because then she'll fall in love with you, or get attached, and then be a big pain in the ass.

That's uniquely inhumane, I must say.