Pelvic Floor Muscle

Dear Doctor Betty

I am a very sexual person, and (9 years ago) when i lost my virginity, it literally look weeks and weeks of trying before i was able to properly lose my virginity (and break the hymen) my bf could only insert one finger into me at a time, and i was told i was very tight during intercourse. I gave birth to my son 7 years ago, and (with lack of education) and suffering from Post natal depression and just not caring about myself, i had never heard of Kegel excersizes, so I didnt do them.

Dear Betty and Carlin

I am writting because i have a doubt, and I didn't find much information about it in internet.

Sometimes, when i need to pee I get a very intense feeling, similar to an orgasm, in my whole body, specially in my nipples. The feeling gets more intense if I am aroused, but sometimes I get it without beeing aroused.  The feeling is great, so I usually try to enjoy it, but my question is why does this happen to me, and does it have a bad consequence?

What am I doing wrong? I tend 2 urinate when using my magic wandor even using my hands. I've even done this while i was getting oral sex!! This is very embarrassing when your with someone!! HELP!!

I had a question about Kegel Excersizes, I have heard of females masturbating without direct touch and was asking if/how its possible to do it without anything touching you. I speculate that Kegels can give an orgasm/make you cum if done repeatedly, but I could be wrong.

Dr. Betty-

I really hope you can help because I've never been able to find any info about this or even find someone who believes me. When I orgasm, I poop a little. I don't know if I'm actually pushing without realizing it or just loosening my sphincter, but it happens every time. I don't have any continence issues and go to the bathroom before I get busy, so it's not an issue of nature calling. Now I'm so self concious about it that when I even get close to orgasm I start to worry and end up stopping before I hit the finish line. I've tried to just not care and just clean up after, but it's frankly gross. Why does this happen, and how can I stop it?

I am trying to tighten my PC for my pleasure and his pleasure, but come away FRUSTRATED!! I can stop the flow of urine, but wonder if I am really isolating the right muscles. It seems my anus is stronger than my vagina. When I lie on my back and insert a finger to do kegels it feels like my muscles tighten from the bottom to top instead of from side to side...Is that normal?! Plz help!!

Hello Betty,

I am 57, and in the past 2 years was diagnosed with (not severe) rear pelvic wall collapse, and the beginnings of a prolapsed uterus. This discovery was made when I began to have pain during intercourse and problems with constant urinary pressure. At present I am using a vaginal estrogen cream, which has helped significantly with the pressure on my urethra, but I still have pain during intercourse. But my real concern is with my orgasms.

Betty Dodson, Ph.D., artist, author and sexologist, has proven though working with thousands of women that a strong pelvic floor muscle enhances orgasm with oneself and during partnersex. The same muscle also insures bladder control, maintains vaginal health, and contributes to a person's overall health. Betty's Barbell is both a practical vaginal exerciser and an excellent pleasure device that she has used for years in teaching women about orgasm. Made of stainless steel, the Barbell is sturdy enough to become a family heirloom that can be passed down from grandmother to granddaughter.

Dr. Dodson:

In your book, Sex for One, you talk about having to do Kegel Exercises for incontinence. Is it necessary to have a dildo in the vagina? My instructions state that you should tighten the muscles around the sphincter but not tighten the buttocks, upper thighs, etc.

Your book made me feel better about my vulva's appearance. I too thought my wattle was ugly and extended due to masturbation. To give you an example of how poor my education is, I thought the wattle WAS my clitoris. I also enjoyed your artwork and hope you'll have more published.