Oral Sex

Dear Dr. Betty,

Can you suggest the best condom for giving blow jobs? Although I haven't tried everything, the so-called "flavored" ones make me nauseous; is there a non-flavored condom that doesn't taste so "latex-y?"

Also, now that my husband & I are into the swing lifestyle, if I do give a blow job without using a condom how can I tell the man is about to ejaculate his pre-cum? I fear ingesting somebody else's fluids & cannot depend on someone pulling out at just the right time(I've asked before sexual activity but naturally people get lost in the moment!)

Hi Betty.

I know you must get so many emails similar to this, but I could really use your help. I love giving oral sex to my partners and nothing turns me on more. However, the thought of a man going down on ME and reciprocating just fills me with dread.

I find that whenever a man begins to head down south, I tense up and have to look away because I feel so embarrassed and ashamed.

Hey betty,

I've been wondering this question for a long time. I have been with my bf for 2 years and he's been wanting to give me oral but im scared for many reasons. he keeps telling me that its not a big deal but I want to get over my fears and make him happy so please help me. btw your my hero and amazing.

is it safe to swallow semen my hubby wants me to but i need to know if its safe to do so i have tasted it before and dont mind the taste but i need to know how the swallow will be.

My question is how many guys can perform self fellatio, or am I out of the normal? My wife finds it too hot and loves watching me do this. Is it normal for women to enjoy this or not? She has tried but never comes any way close. I will probablly never stop as it feels so good to be able to get myself off this way, rather than masturbating.

Dear Betty and Carlin,

I've recently got into a typical 'teenage' relationship. 'Going out' with each other, holding hands, kissing when we think no one is looking, and generally having a great time with each other. Its not love, but its fun, and its just enjoyable. The other day, taking it a step further, I gave him head. I'm not claiming to be amazing at head, but I love giving it, and I've always had positive feedback when I do... Except, in this case, it took almost an hour to get him off, which has never happened to me before, so I was a little....Shocked.

Hi Betty and Carlin,

First off I'd like to thank you for awesomeness. I've just discovered your site and found it educational and informative but most importantly not scary! I'm a 24-year-old female in a long term relationship with a 23-year-old male. Our sex life is pretty great except he is not keen on giving me oral sex.

My wife will not let me give her oral sex. She says she does not enjoy it, or that it is dirty. I've tried various techniques on the few occasions she allowed me to try. My thought is that she is self conscious of her vulva. How can I entice her to change her opinion of this?

Hi!

I guess my question is more body image-related than anything. Whenever my boyfriend (of ~11 months) tries to go down on me, I get really uncomfortable and sort of push him away. I love him and I know he just wants to please me, but there's a part of me that thinks he doesn't really enjoy it. I probably sound crazy saying that! I like to think that I'm pretty comfortable with my body (I masturbate frequently & love my physique), but I don't want to put him off by being too hairy/strange-looking/what-have-you. I just don't want to change myself, even for him, but the thing is, he offers to do it.

Dear Dodson and Ross,

I'm a bit confused about the timing of putting on the condom for oral sex. For intercourse I'm clear that when the penis is erect you get that condom right on. However, for oral sex I'm a bit more confused. What do you do with it when it is flaccid? Use a dental dam? Avoid mouth to penis contact? Help!

Hi Betty,

I'm new to your site, but thought I would ask how to procede with something happens between my girlfriend and I. I am 55 and my girl friend is 59 years old. I do use Cialis and Viagra. My girlfriend and I have been together and intimate for 2 years. We live together too, now. When ever we have sex it is always the last thing we do before going to sleep in bed; whether it is on the week end or during the week. She never allows spontaneous sex during the day or any other time. She has to have had a shower to get completely clean and put on her body cream. When she is ready, she smells great and we have great sex....except she won't let me go down on her.

Thank you for your website! It's great and very informative. My questions is regarding oral sex on my girlfriend. We have a great sexual relationship. Part of that is that I love giving her oral sex and enjoy all her juices. She also loves to give me oral sex to the point that I don't have to pull out to ejaculate. When I give her oral sex she says it's relaxing. Sometimes she has orgasmed but most of the time she says she prefers my penis. I'm not complaining and neither is she. I just want to know what else I can try that will cause her to orgasm most every time. I've tried several techniques and concentrated on her clitoris and even inserted a finger looking for her G-spot. She says it sometimes reminds her of a GYN visit.