G-Spot

I have watched countless tutorials, read countless books on the matter, but for the life of me cannot find my own G Spot. When I masturbate and actually let a finger wander inside my vagina, I can't tell any structure or texture apart in there. It all feels the same. I'd like to be able to find it and try to ejaculate, but I'm not even sure if I've ever come before.

I have never had any feeling inside my vagina. I never have since I started having sex. I can feel that something is there but no pleasure at all, not even a little. And I know for a fact that it is NOT the guy. I have had a few different sex partners over the years of different shapes, sizes, and performances. I can have a mind blowing orgasm by playing with my clit but never from inside.

I'm 21 years old, i started masturbating when i was 14. Ever since then i've never looked back and i thoroughly enjoy my masturbation sessions. But recently i felt the need of adding something to it, i tried ass play and i loved it. I've been trying to find my prostrate gland but am not able to. What i generally do is i lay on my back with my legs spread wide and get my finger inside. Is there some other position that i should try?

I found an article in Discovery Health that referred to the g-spot as part of the clit. Since then I have found two more sources that support this claim; "I *heart* Female Orgasm" by Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller, and "She Comes First" by Ian Kerner. I'm so frustrated, because I'd like to believe these are reputable sources! Is this misinformation leftover from when the g-spot became popular, a case of overzealous clit-pride, or is there some truth to it?

Hi Betty,
I just found your website after reading the article about Eric Amaranth in Marie Claire. I loved the essay you wrote on the G spot. I only seem to be able to orgasm from clitoral stimulation (via oral) with simultaneous g-spot stimulation (a finger or dildo). I have orgasmed from vaginal sex alone about twice in my life.

As far as I know, I have never had a G-spot orgasm nor have I ever ejaculated. However, I do know many of my orgasms have been deep, powerful and satisfying. I've also enjoyed those little ten minute maintenance orgasms that release tension. There is no such thing as having a bad orgasm- they all put a smile on my face. Maybe the vaginal orgasms that I managed to squeak out in my twenties would classify as G's. Some were quite accidental and non-repeatable. Others required a thirty minute erection owned by a handsome young man who promised he'd only have sex with me. Oh yes, I had to get on top and Ride ‘em Cowgirl, which wasn't easy in the fifties and early sixties. They called us "ball busters" back then.

Hi Dr. Betty,

I actually have a question for you. I've been having trouble finding an answer to this question on the internet, and was wondering if you could give me some insight on it. I find myself not able to have an orgasm per vaginal penetration, so my boyfriend has a difficulty giving me one and is getting a little frustrated and I am too. The only orgasm I can seem to give myself is clitoral with a vibrator, sometimes with this penis. Maybe you can give me some tips on how this can be achieved. Also, one more question if you could...When I do have an orgasm with my vibrator, it only lasts 3 seconds, is that normal?? I would love any advice you can give me.

I love your website. I consider myself reasonably well informed but I've learned quite a lot from it. I'd appreciate your comments on a problem I have. When my husband stimulates my 'G' spot during his manual manipulation it feels wonderful. The problem is afterward I have frequent, urgent and often false needs to urinate. These sudden feelings of needing to take a pee sometimes go on for several days. The consequences are so uncomfortable that I discourage him from engaging in the stimulation at all; a shame really. I should mention that I am fifty-five post menopausal and on HRT.