Fantasy

Dear Dr. Betty:

Many thanks to you and Carlin for such a sex-positive site. My question concerns weddings. My male cousin is getting married and the whole wedding planning thing has really caused so many bad feelings within the families involved. To make a long story somewhat short, my cousin's fiance has been dreaming of her wedding day since she was a little girl. Her mother has stated that this will be the weddings to end all weddings (here's hoping). The expense is getting out of control and my aunt and uncle can not afford their share of the costs.

My question is: Why do most women have these wedding fantasies? I am guilty as well.

Hi Betty,

I have been masturbating on a regular basis. I have a few questions that I hope you can answer. i like to masturbate while looking at images of womens legs in pantyhose and focus on mainly their legs. Is this a good thing? When I do masturbate I masturbate with my penis still covered in my underwear and pants. Im afraid to stroke my
penis with a bare hand?

hello betty i am writing to you because i feel guilty about an experience i shared with my sister. We were living together and sometimes would talk about sex. During the conversation which included talk of wanking and fucking, i got up to go to the loo of course my cock was hard and my sister noticed but did not mind. Anyway i used to masterbate and think about this one night i decided to tell her, she to my suprise did not mind in fact she was pleased that i got off thinking about her dirty talking.

Hi Betty,

I am 25 years old and have been married for almost 4 years and have been with my husband for almost 7 years. Since the day we have met, he has known that I am bi-sexual and I have told him about how I had oral sex with a girl when she and I were both in high school. He knows also that I had a three way with two guys in a cemetary while in high school as well. So I suppose my question is: I am still very much attracted to women, I only masturbate to female porn, and I would really like to have another female encounter. I can't imagine going the rest of my life without one. He knows this, we have talked about having a 3 some with another women, but how we do get this all to happen? How do you find someone to do this with?

Dear Betty,

I am pretty confused in my role as a spiritual person! I believe in our God the almighty and I am finding myself thinking that sex is no good and it is dirty. I am in all honesty beginning to hate women in general. My sex drive has slumped dramaticlly and I very seldom even touch myself anymore. When I find myself thinking naughty thoughts I quickly re-focus to take my mind off sex. The problem is when I do let myself enjoy these thoughts they are always of family members (cousin & nieces 16 & 21) When I do stroke myself it is normally one of them I a thinking about!!

Please help, I am very confused and depressed.

My wife was asked to go to an all girl party by a workmate. The other gal did not show up but my bride went and meet 2 ladies who got interested in her. Both where friendly and my wife even modeled some sexy clothing for the group of women. She even bought one outfit. At one point the 2 gals got my bride to join them in the office with the door locked. It did not take long for all the clothing to come off and my wife to find pleasure in the womens arms. One actually took a very large & long double dildo and used it on her. The wife has never been able to enjoy toys with me yet she says this novelty was at least twice my length. She has been invited to another party by one of her new friends and will go.

I would love to see her take a toy of such size. Did talk to one of the ladies, and she was willing to bring the toy for some hotel play. The wife is not sure if she could enjoy herself with me being there. How do I change her mind about me seeing her with such a long toy?

I am a man in his 50's. My 25 year old daughter has just moved back in with us after a bad split with her long term boyfriend. No problem there, but the other week, I was trying to tidy the house and found a porn magazine called Fiesta under a pile of magazines on her bedroom floor, at first I thought it was odd that she would have a "girlie" magazine, until I looked through it and saw a full spread of HER, leaving nothing to the imagination. I knew she had done some modelling, but was unaware that it was this kind of thing. I was so angry, then when my anger passed, I found myself becoming aroused whilst looking at her, to the point I went to the bathroom and masturbated over her images. I felt remorse as soon as I had done so. I am so confused over this whole issue, she is my daughter for christ sake and when she is here, I don't and never have looked or felt about her in that way.

I don't know how to ask this question because I makes me think of my self as a horrible person...I have been with my wife for almost 13 years, (9yrs of dating and 4 yrs of marriage) During this period of time, I have stepped out and pursued extracurricular activities from time to time. That is not necessarily what my problem is: We have a great relationship with my wife's brother and his wife. We go on trips together and frequent each other often. Lately I've been having sexual thoughts between his wife and I. She seems to enjoy my company and I feel I can talk to her about anything, including sexual subjects. I want to test the waters and ask her to have some forbidden fun with me, but it could be devastating if she gets offended. I know its not the right thing to do, but somehow naughty thoughts make me want to ask her. Who knows, what if for some reason she is willing to have some fun with me? please knock some sense into me...