Clitoris

I've lost sensation in my clitoris about a month ago. my boyfriend says my clitoris is not there any more like its hidden and when he does oral on me or i masturbate it takes like 10 to 15 minutes not the usual two minutes like before im 29 years old and i am taking birth control kariva for about three months now so i dont know if thats the reason.

Is it possible that a clit can be too short? Mine is never externally visible, even when I'm aroused... Also, I can masturbate to sort of a mild orgasm in the shower, using the full force of my showerhead's jets, but I've never been able to masturbate to orgasm using a vibrator or just my hands-- they just don't provide enough stimulation. This leads me to think that my clit's just too short to make it out of me enough to to be able to receive any stimulation.

Hello, I have just left a five+ year relationship with a man who never got me off. I must say I feel partially responsible for this, as I've never been a masturbator, and know very little about my vulva. I watched one of your videos and am now determined to orgasm, but I feel like my genitals have lost sensitivity. Is it possible to kill your clit by ignoring it, and can it come back to life with practice?

I'm nineteen and after a while into masturbating (unfortunately it occasionally takes me a bit, but I'm guessing that's from being pretty much new to it?) I'll feel like I'm right on the edge to an orgasm- but then it feels like I get way too sensitive to keep going since it gets painful. I really enjoy the build up, but then it gets to that point that I honestly can't stand it.

Hey, I'm 20 yrs old. I been feeling really self concious about my vagina or clit in particular. I have been told by a few sex partners that my clit is "huge"...Im too embarrassed to ask my GYN. But it pisses me off/hurts my self esteem when guys say this to me.. Do you think I should get that surgery?

Hi Betty,

I have been looking at your gallery and at other sites, and then have looked at my own vulva, and have found out that I have a very small clitoris. I never gave this any thought before, but now I am pretty much obsessed about it. I barely have a hood, my labia beginning almost right at the point my outer labia meet. You can barely feel my clit with a finger, less alone see it.

I am 23 years old and have been married for 6 years and I am still kind of young and learning new feeling in that area everytime. I have never had an orgasm and would love to find out how to have one. I have tryed using a vibrator and dildo and intercourse and i just cant seem to find that spot. can you please help.

I cut my clitoris while shaving. The cut detached the top of it to the fold going down my vagina. I'm worried... it healed fine but I think I lost sensation. Is there any way to get it back!?

Dear Betty,

I've been masturbating face down( laying on my stomach rubbing against mattresses, socks, pillows, blankets, etc.) since I was about 11, or as long as i can remember. The reason I originally started to masturbate this way was because i found i got nopleasure out of stimulating my clitoris. I figured I just wasn't doing it right and would learn how too later.

Recently I visited a website( healthystrokes.com) that told me it was unhealthy to masturbate face down. They said it was called TMS( Tramatic Masturbatory Syndrome) your a doctor, is this true?( the site says the disorder is most common in men, but can occur in females) I think this theory might be true because it says that the way i currently masturbate puts too much pressure on my clit, thus losing it's sensitivity. I'm really scared becasue I still find absoulutely no pleasure in rubbing my clit.

Below is an example of the kind of questions I've been getting from teens on up to the twenty-somethings. They have all been damaged by America's Puritanical withholding of sex information and education. This includes women in their 30's 40, and on up to one 80 year-old. They are all trying to discover how to have an orgasm. Most women (men included) simply don't have any basic information about their sex organs, how they function or how they give us and others pleasure.

Americans have little to no understanding about the inner workings of their bodies such as the basic function of digestion, and elimination. Even procreation, the one thing that is taught in the narrow confines of a heterosexual, monogamous marriage, isn't well understood. So you can imagine how scarce any information about recreational orgasms would be, especially in a country that sells things just to rack up numbers for profit. Money is still God in the USA! And pleasure is free!!!!