Anal Play

hey betty,

love the site i have a question for you. for a while now i have being inserting my fingers in my butt while masturbating. i have started to like this and i was wondering if you could give me any advice or tips on how i can make the experience better. and also if you can have you got any advice on anal fisting.

I have just started another round of follow-up tests, so it's been an anxiety-provoking week. I got a positive (i.e. negative) report on Thursday that the "area of concern" for 6 months is "reactive inflammation, with no sign of dysplasia," which means the scab up my ass is not a precancerous or cancerous lesion (recurrence) like the one that killed Farrah Fawcett.

To say this wreaks havoc with one's sex life is an understatement. I hate my dilators and all the sex toys in the box. I hate using the wonderful vitamin E (for oral use only) and saliva for lubrication (which work like a charm, I'm very lucky). I have always wanted sex, lots of it, and good sex, and had plenty.

I got HPV from it, which was treated successfully in 1987. The medical profession did not yet know how to test for anal HPV ...which I must have had, DESPITE the fact that I was not into anal sex.

I wanna have sex with my b'friend. But I'm a virgin. I'm worried about it. My family will never accept me if I lose my virginity. BUt I cant get orgasm while having anal sex. Dunno what to do. I fake my orgasm...right b4 it hurts badly, now I'm used to it. They say, I'll have an orgasm after a few times. Buy.... I haven't had an orgasm yet. :(((

Hi Betty/Carlin,

I' am a 29 year old single lesbian and i've been masturbating since i was 14. I travel a lot beacuse of my job, i have a very strong sex drive and because of that i masturbate a lot. Almost everyday. I always try to experiment with something new to spice up my sex life. I play with my butt quite a lot but here's something new that i saw in one of the porn films and i wanna try this. I wanna put a lollipop or a candy or anything solid that is edible inside my ass, play with it and then lick it or eat it. How safe will this be?

I am a 34 year old divorced women, Lesbian since 3 years. I live with my partner currently but when I was single, I was a masturbation freak. I still masturbate even today, but at that time the frequency was quite high as you might understand. One time just in curiousity I started fingering my ass, it felt really nice and very erotic. I still remember I used to play with my ass almost daily and then cum. Sometimes I used to get shit on my fingers,  (Sorry for being so blunt and dirty), once I was so horny that I rubbed it on my tits n ass. Surprisingly I liked it and started doing it alone quiet often. Now I just like to rub it when am too horny and also watch it come out in the mirror. Am i the only one doing it? Is this normal?

Dear Betty,

I was googling this topic and one site referred your page but i couldn't find exactly what i was looking for. I'm 32 and have been having vaginal and anal sex for quite a few years. I have been in a relationship with my bf for about 3 years. We are also into the swinging lifestyle. We always play together and we always use protection when we are with other people. We went to a party this past weekend with a few other couples. I happened to have my time of the month, so could only participate in anal sex. I probably had anal sex at least 5 or 6 times throughout the nite and all with protection. Normally, i only have once or twice when i do and i know how everything feels for the next day. This time though, i woke up last nite (2 nights later) with chills and nausea that lasted through to the morning.

I am submissive and have recently connected with a dominant female. Both she and I are into anal sex play (mine that is). As we got more into a description of what this dom would like to do to me, she said that eventually she wants to be able to put her entire fist into my ass hole...wow. My major question, is , will this cause me irreparable physical damage?

Betty
Thank you so much for you wonderful site and thoughts - Happy 2009 to you all! I have a little question... I'm wanting to explore more anal pleasures this sex year and I'm wondering: Is there some sort of prep that needs to be done before anal sex? I'm specifically thinking about douching etc...How do you deal with the possibility of fecal matter?! Is there a way to prevent this?

I've got a very tough question for you regarding my sexuality. From a young age I've always had an interest in my anus. I guess a lot of kids do; its just a matter of degree and duration. My two parents had different opinions about sexuality and their children. My Dad was very closed minded and my Mom very open. My Dad let my Mom take the lead when it came to education regarding our sexuality. During the course of my childhood my mother and I engaged in a handful of what I would call erotic experiences.

Hi Betty,

I'm 45 and have just started having anal sex after all these years. My lover is very gentle and although the initial penetration is a little sore, with a little lubrication i soon enjoy myself. The problem is i get pain the next day from my anus deep into my pelvis. I do suffer from endometriosis and have had bowel adhesions due to this previously. Is it normal to have this pain, is it just because i havent done it enough, or could it be something to do with my endo problem.

Hello

At the beginning of last summer, my boyfriend and I successfully attempted anal sex. And I mean successfully...it was awesome. So ever since, we have occasionally mixed up our regular sex with anal, and it has always been great. However, about two weeks ago, we tried it, and once his dick got about 2 inches in, I felt like my asshole had been stabbed and we had to stop. Over this past weekend, we decided to give it another try, thinking that maybe all my butt needed was some rest, but lo and behold, it was the same feeling. It's puzzling, because pooping and having fingers in my ass still don't hurt...so what is my boyfriend's dick hitting that has made anal sex stop feeling awesome??