Ask Betty

Betty,

please settle an argument between my boyfriend and me. We watch and enjoy porn before we have sex a lot. We are both amazed at how much a how far the guys shoot off when they come. My boyfriend says that it is fake and usually not really them coming, I say that it is real and that they are just real studs and that most of them are really well hung which enables them to shoot more and farther. By the way, my boyfriend has never come like that, but he can have multiple comes in one love making sessions, so I'm not complaining.

Dr. Betty,

I've been sexually curious and masturbating since I was about 12. I'm 22 now and just recently learned how to give myself an orgasm. I have a serious boyfriend now and we enjoy sex often; he is patient and giving and wants to give me orgasms. The problem is that he doesn't really excite me or turn me on - I never orgasm with him. The only time I get really aroused these days is when I watch porn (mostly lesbian) and when I am fantasizing by myself.

Dear Doctor Betty

I am a very sexual person, and (9 years ago) when i lost my virginity, it literally look weeks and weeks of trying before i was able to properly lose my virginity (and break the hymen) my bf could only insert one finger into me at a time, and i was told i was very tight during intercourse. I gave birth to my son 7 years ago, and (with lack of education) and suffering from Post natal depression and just not caring about myself, i had never heard of Kegel excersizes, so I didnt do them.

Dear Dr Betty,

Last time, when I'am still a young girl, i think around 10 years old (before my menstrual period), i feel curious of my genital area, I used to touch it when I study (my hand maybe dirty), sometimes i even used some brush to clean it and apply some perfume powder on it... Then, around 12 years old, i had a habit of masturbation, i would masturbate 1 to 2 times a day, sometimes even masturbate with some sharp objects... However, I didn't experience any genital area bleeding.

I've lost sensation in my clitoris about a month ago. my boyfriend says my clitoris is not there any more like its hidden and when he does oral on me or i masturbate it takes like 10 to 15 minutes not the usual two minutes like before im 29 years old and i am taking birth control kariva for about three months now so i dont know if thats the reason.

Apologies if this query is too far off topic but you are one of the few people I feel would give a sensible answer. In the warmer weather I love to wear skirts and dresses without underwear, it's cooling and my own little secret from the outside world. When I mentioned this to my sister she suggested this might lead to minor infections that although not serious I could do without. I tend to wear skirts around knee level so there is no contact with seats etc. I appreciate you are not a medical Doctor (but wondered if you could help?

Dear Betty

I'm 18 and am very open sexually. I can talk to my boyfriend about anything sexual and anything I want he'll do, so I know this isn't a matter of me being inhibited or him unenthusiastic. I can easily make myself cum through clit stimulation but I absolutely can not cum through intercourse alone, under any circumstances (trust me I've tried!) I can have great sex for 2 hours, and nothing.

I'm a 65 year old woman with "earthquake" orgasms but I'm very unhappy.  I met this man more than 1½ years ago. It was wonderful, just wonderful and I'm still in love with him BUT he's married and has been married for years and years. At first, it was OK for me because he told me his wife has depression, she can't stand sex with him, and it's ok if he has sex with somebody else.

I AM THE SOMEBODY ELSE!

Hi Betty.

I know you must get so many emails similar to this, but I could really use your help. I love giving oral sex to my partners and nothing turns me on more. However, the thought of a man going down on ME and reciprocating just fills me with dread.

I find that whenever a man begins to head down south, I tense up and have to look away because I feel so embarrassed and ashamed.

Hey Betty,

Well I'm 19 have had sex a couple of times and can't orgasm. I have been masturbating ever since I was a little girl but haven't orgasmed. Am I doing something wrong? I used to think that I masturbated for a couple of minutes and that lengthening the session would help. This didn't though. Should I invest in a vibrator? I've looked at your First time Orgasm page and have tried it but it wasn't successful for me. I've asked my friends about it and most of them orgasm really easily. Where am I going wrong?