Natasha posted a link to James Prescott's research on body pleasure and the origins of violence. I read through the dense extract and it was life affirming. We have instincts that, at times, we question. Everything Betty teaches through her books and the workshops can be quantified. Touch and pleasure inhibit violence across the board.
It starts with maternal touch as infants. Cultures that support mothers, don't sexualize breastfeeding toddlers, and encourage general affection have less violence. The concept that pain is useful in child-rearing produces angry, aggressive adolescents and adults. Here's an interesting wrinkle: mothers who didn't experience orgasm were more likely to abuse their children.
My coworker and I were discussing the crime reports in our local newspaper (yes, I still read the old-fashioned, newsprint-on-the-hands newspaper). She and I are both in our mid-forties and we noticed that the instances of stranger rape seemed to not be a prevalent as they were in the seventies and eighties. I don't mean to belittle anyone's experiences with rape but it just seems like stranger-jumped-out-at-me rape either has decreased in our area (Baltimore suburbs) or it is not being reported in the media.
Here is a newsweek article exposing something I've only heard of in old world military structures. Rape between men in the military.
After I finished reading the article, I placed myself in two different sets of shoes involved in the assault. The victim's and what I would do and the onlooker's who has to go along with one man's evil or else be the target himself. Then there are the commanding officers who don't report it because they want promotions and decorations, not justice. Then I thought about the victim's feeling of being trapped with your rapist(s) every day and you can't quit, you can't turn them in. Then I thought, what do women in the military feel when that situation is before them?