vaginal orgasm

Dear Dr. Dodson,

First, let me thank you for your wonderful website! I have been coming here for several years and have learned an enormous amount about sexuality from your comprehensive information. I would like to comment on your views about vaginal orgasm, however. While I understand your wish to clarify how and where women experience orgasm, I feel that on occasion you dismiss entirely those of us who do in fact enjoy vaginal orgasm. I recognize that I am in a minority when it comes to having vaginal orgasms, and that you necessarily direct your information to that majority of women who do not have the good fortune to experience vaginal orgasms.

I have never had any feeling inside my vagina. I never have since I started having sex. I can feel that something is there but no pleasure at all, not even a little. And I know for a fact that it is NOT the guy. I have had a few different sex partners over the years of different shapes, sizes, and performances. I can have a mind blowing orgasm by playing with my clit but never from inside.

Hi Betty,Hi Betty,

i'm 26 years old, female. I have a bf and he's very loving and caring partner trying to do everything to satisfy me. But i am not able to reach orgasm during intercourse, even though it feels very great. I have reached a few in the past, last one maybe a year ago. about half a year ago i started to masturbate with a vibrator by stimulating my clitoris and i am perfectly able to have orgasms in this way. but nothing during an intercourse.

After I read the article below by Anne Koedt in 1970, I was thrilled and made a cold call hoping to meet and discuss how we could collaborate. Although Anne was suspicious of me over the phone, once she was sure of my feminist credentials, she set up an appointment. During our visit, she explained that after receiving so much hate mail and a death threat as a result of her article, she was going to disappear. She had just begun a new relationship with a man she loved and didn't want to jeopardize their future with feminist politics. I picked up where she left off to carry the clitoral banner.  I'm thrilled to be republishing Anne's piece here:

Hello, Hello,

The reason I'm writing you is that they showed a program on Swedish TV tonight with three ladies from UK visiting you. I liked your open approach to females learning how to masturbate. I am a middle aged Swedish woman angry about the established "knowledge" regarding female orgasm. If I search the internet many expert articles say there is only one climax for the woman to reach and that is the clitoral one. But there are three! Through clitoris stimulation, vaginal orgasm and the G spot. And there is a possibility of combining! I have had personal experiences from men telling me that most women never have orgasm. Consequently, they don't have to make an effort. Please, tell the world it is not so. Then both men and women will get a better sex life.

Dear Betty,

I am not able to have an orgasm while having sex! I have been sexually active for 9 years, with several partners and have yet to achieve maximum pleasure during sex. I know it's sometimes difficult for women to have an orgasm through sexual intercourse. However, 9 years, several long-term relationships, and sexual partners later, it seems crazy and leaves me hopeless. I am now (and have been for a while) finding it hard to even want to have sex, to get excited during foreplay, and to even get moist. This is taking a toll on my relationship. I want to be able to enjoy sex and i want to orgasm with the man I love. Is there any way you can help?

Hi Dr. Betty,

I actually have a question for you. I've been having trouble finding an answer to this question on the internet, and was wondering if you could give me some insight on it. I find myself not able to have an orgasm per vaginal penetration, so my boyfriend has a difficulty giving me one and is getting a little frustrated and I am too. The only orgasm I can seem to give myself is clitoral with a vibrator, sometimes with this penis. Maybe you can give me some tips on how this can be achieved. Also, one more question if you could...When I do have an orgasm with my vibrator, it only lasts 3 seconds, is that normal?? I would love any advice you can give me.