squirting

Hi Betty,

When I am using my hitachi (which I Love) I sometimes pee, i can't help it, it just comes out. Is this normal? Should I see a doctor or tell my gynecologist? Also I don't know if I orgasm because I can't feel my internal muscles flexing, but it feels great! I love sex with my husband, it feels amazing but I never feel those muscles pulsing or flexing, either during sex or when I use my hitachi. Thanks for any advise you can give.

Thanks,

Dear R,

As far as I know, I have never had a G-spot orgasm nor have I ever ejaculated. However, I do know many of my orgasms have been deep, powerful and satisfying. I've also enjoyed those little ten minute maintenance orgasms that release tension. There is no such thing as having a bad orgasm- they all put a smile on my face. Maybe the vaginal orgasms that I managed to squeak out in my twenties would classify as G's. Some were quite accidental and non-repeatable. Others required a thirty minute erection owned by a handsome young man who promised he'd only have sex with me. Oh yes, I had to get on top and Ride ‘em Cowgirl, which wasn't easy in the fifties and early sixties. They called us "ball busters" back then.