There are those times every month when I get hot flashes. I’m not talking about those uncomfortable body temperature spikes often attributable to menopause which I, as a sexagenarian, fortunately do not experience.
No, in this case I’m referring to feeling downright randy and prone to impromptu episodes of ‘backstroke roulette’. So while my hands were dutifully employed, my mind got to pondering about some of my favorite ways to ratchet up sexual energy during solo and paired trysts.
I have a long standing fetish for lap-dances. The first adult shoot I ever did I took my money immediately to a strip club and spent it all, every last $ on lap-dances and tips for the women.
It was worth it...though I then had to do another shoot to pay my university fees but hey...shooting was fun and I wasn't complaining about doing more of it. Sometime later when I had more creative control I killed two birds with one stone and did a lap-dance shoot.
I am a 20 year old woman who feels very apathetic towards sex and masturbation in general. I didn't masturbate as a child. I never "discovered" my clitoris, nor did I ever play with it. It was something I just didn't think about doing. Even today I am hardly sexual. I have brought myself to orgasm, and it was purely exploratory on my part. I didn't enjoy, nor did I dislike the experience.
My husband has stopped kissing me intimately.No french kisses , no neck kisses. He has never given me a clear answer as to why he has stopped. We have an ok sex life, but, this No kissing stage has me concerned. It has been going on for years now ! Need help !
JoAnn Wypijewski's article is timely now that we're debating the public option for health care. Sexual health care for women is as simple as redefining heterosexuality by adding a little clitoral stimulation along with vaginal penetration. Many sex professionals including Leanore Tiefer, Becky Chalker and myself have railed against the medicalization of women's sexuality for some time now. To say nothing of all the anti-depressants that supposedly deal with depression but block women's abilbity to have orgasms which is depressing, we all agree that the pharmacuetical companies are out of control. This is a must read and I've attached JoAnn's entire article below:
TOP TEN SEX EXCUSES
1. Too tired
2. I'm not in the mood
3. I've got a headache
4. I've got to get up in the morning
5. I'm pre-occupied with work
I am in my late thirties and my fiance in his early forties. We've been together for two years. When we first met we had loads of amazing sex. Once we moved in together, about six months into the relationship, the sex petered out. First it was every two weeks, then every three. We are getting married in a month and we haven't had sex in five weeks! I'm freaking out!
I used to always crave sex and get turned on much more than I do now. I love my boyfriend and I am attracted to him. I'm just not in the mood as much. I wish I could feel different but I'm not sure what the problem is. Why?!
I recently broke up with my boyfriend of almost a year, and it was a relief, I must say. But during our relationship I have lost my interest in sex. I've been sexually active since I was 16, which started when my best friend and I were curious about each other. Being teenagers you want to explore and discover your body and also others. I had my first orgasm with him and I've found he is one of the only men who can pleasure me to the point of orgasm.
I have slept with lots of people and everyone hangs the term "Slut" over my head because I enjoy sex passionately and I am good at it, I have not had one complaint yet except my recent ex-boyfriend.
Just read your book "Sex for One" and it was brilliant - thank you for writing it! On page 159 of the book you mentioned "natural hormones" that you took to counteract your drop in libido. Could you advise what they were and the sort of dosage you took. I really would appreciate it, as I live in the United Kingdom and have to endure a National Health service that is strapped for cash and politically motivate which means my situation is not going to receive the best possible response.