sexual compatibility

Hi, Dr. Betty!

First, let me say how much I appreciate your book 'Sex For One' and this website. I read your book for the first time about 15 years ago and it was the beginning of my sexual self acceptance. Until that point, I thought of masturbation as 'something wrong' or a 'substitute' for real sex. Don't get me wrong, I have enjoyed masturbating since I was 11 or 12. I was enjoying it even when I thought there might be something wrong with me for masturbating and continuing to masturbate (I guess the good orgasms won out over self imposed judgement).

Dear Betty,

I am in my late thirties and my fiance in his early forties. We've been together for two years. When we first met we had loads of amazing sex. Once we moved in together, about six months into the relationship, the sex petered out. First it was every two weeks, then every three. We are getting married in a month and we haven't had sex in five weeks! I'm freaking out!