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This questions is the first on anyones lips when a woman stays in a domestic violence situation or returns to one. It's a fair question but it is often loaded with judgment and the undertone is "you deserve what you get because staying or going back is stupid".

I have, on countless occasions, heard someone wax lyrical about how they would leave the FIRST time anyone laid a hand on them. Good for you I say. However, this is always followed by a comment along the lines of "if a person doesn't leave the first time their partner hits them then there must be something wrong with them/ it's their fault".

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The parents in this movie are claiming their children at 8 and 9 years old aren't old enough to talk about sexual diversity BUT THEY ALREADY ARE TALKING ABOUT IT. My daughter has experience bullying at school for having a parent in a same-sex attracted relationship since she was five turning six.

Last week, my kids and I were strolling the aisles of a Connecticut Wal-Mart looking for diapers and t-shirts. Instead I found something more surprising, and it was my six year old that brought it to my attention. As I schlepped my box of diapers to the cart, I heard Maverick cackling. “Mommy, bras for little girls? That is ridiculous!”  I dropped the box and went to see what he was referring to. There on the shelf, were several "padded" bras.

He was right. There were little girl bras. Ridiculous little girl bras. With monkeys on them. And candy. And they were padded. (Did you catch that? Padded. Bras. For. Little. Girls.) Oh, and they weren’t in the “Tweens” section, they were right next to the toddler stuff. I was incensed.

My good friend and fellow sex teacher, Tallulah Sulis, is putting on her first selfloving-focused sex party for women only in Oakland Hills, CA this Saturday.

This reminds me of my mentor Betty's Bodysex groups she did during the 80's and early 90's. The Bodysex groups were education-based sexual gatherings of women where Betty guided the group through a wide variety of activities from group discussions to live vulva viewings, sex education, female masturbation teaching, and finally a group masturbation circle on the final day where the women would apply the skills learned first hand and share in the group's sex energy with all its sounds and sights.

A weekend or so ago, I introduced my lover Kira to what I call, Sex Massage. It's a combination of massage and simultaneous vaginal, anal, or oral penetration. I'm giving a few how-to tips below on this for two reasons: it's an amazing combination of relaxation through touch and a simple, pleasurable erotic happening down below. Second, Kira said: "All massages should be like this... *groan*"

Like I said two blog posts ago, it's fairly well-known that quality dark chocolate creates feelings of satisfied contentment, very similar to the same feelings created by great sex, orgasms, and/or an intimate session of snuggling and affection. That as a culture, we turn to chocolate unconsciously for those feelings when they are not available to us in human interaction form. I also talked about food for sex in this blog post.

It dawned on me one day, after eating a whole bar of Jacques Torres' "Wicked" dark chocolate that those yummy feelings it gave me, more dramatically than other chocolate sources that I can remember

Here is the first part of my sex life coaching client Rachel's erotic journaling on her fist foray into roleplay sex as a dominant woman doctor. The topic of one of our sessions was how to create a roleplay doctor fantasy she'd always had and surprise her husband with it. The help I gave Rachel was in how to make the roleplay realistic and believeable. It can be easy sometimes to get a little cheesy, which can disrupt the roleplay's erotic potency. It pulls you back to an awareness that it's not real. Not hot!

Here is Virginmonoblogger's blog post on how she feels Semen is Sexy. My thoughts on that are I'm happy she gave a perspective on a woman who lusts for ejaculation, the hot clenches of male orgasm, everything that goes with it. It shows the ravenous sex hunger and desire always ascribed to men also manifests itself in women as the counterpart: aching to feel that happen to them. It reminds me of how I condom up and do knock-up hot talk. Where I vocalize the fantasy of coming way up in her, filling her up with sperm and making her pregnant-- belly round and full of baby. Then have amazing sex with her throughout the pregnancy. Olivia and Kristina both love that.

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Here's one of the best pieces of positive feedback we've ever received. On our erotic sex education short video, Anal Play  that teaches the basic sex techniques of great anal sex in heterosexual connection:

God….

I put a pillow along Cassandra's firm thigh and under her knee. She was on her side. Side Position, as I've described in previous blog posts and as is shown on page 133 of Betty's partner sex book, Orgasms For Two. That night was the first time her mini-hourglass body felt it done to her. Her other shapely leg, the one on the bottom, stretched elegantly down between my legs, my knees straddling it. The position gives me very easy access to her opened up and turned on vagina. Or ass.... Cassandra would later tell me she wants me to be her first with cock inside her cute, round, mouth-watering ass. Maybe she'll ask me to blog on that night too.

I just remembered that our humbly-titled original erotic sex education video, Condom Basics, has more hotness in it than just putting a condom on a penis. It also has a healthy portion of vaginal intercourse with clitoral stimulation provided by the man, and, great footage of his orgasm inside our woman-model.  Click here for the video!

For those new to my blog, I write on my sex life, in erotica form, because many of
us need only read of an example of what really is possible or that
they'd never thought of. It so often lights a desire inside to "want to
feel that." To want to learn how to make sex better through sex education, consulting, and coaching, maybe for the
first time in their lives.

As I was saying, Cassandra wouldn't break gaze up at me from my cock in her hand and small mouth. Those big doe eyes accented in dark mascara and shadow.

"I want you inside me."

For those new to my blog, I write on my sex life, in erotica form, because many of
us need only read of an example of what really is possible or that
they'd never thought of. It so often lights a desire inside to "want to
feel that." To want to learn how to make sex better through sex education, consulting, and coaching, maybe for the
first time in their lives.

Cassandra was tired of drunken sex. More accurately, drunken guys that she ended up having sex with. Why did she, or they, always have to go there for sex to be passably pleasurable, she once told me. We flirted over chat. Sent dripping-sexy texts to each other, of what we wanted to do to each other. Cassandra has long, perfectly straight shining mahogany hair. Fair strawberries and cream skin, and big, jade-green eyes. Made bigger by how she often does her makeup. Very cute, small face too.

For those new to my blog, I write on my sex life, in erotica form, because many of
us need only read of an example of what really is possible or that
they'd never thought of. It so often lights a desire inside to "want to
feel that." To want to learn how to make sex better through sex education, consulting, and coaching, maybe for the
first time in their lives.

I was blazing with turn-on. My supercurvy love pulled her knees up near her big round D cups and I scooted a pillow under her equally round hips. On my knees, I touched my precome-covered cockhead to the sensitive inside of her vulva and caressed.