After hearing countless sex histories from girls and women over the past four decades, I believe sexual repression begins the moment a parent or caregiver punishes a child’s natural curiosity for touching their own sex organs.
Society needs to understand that the health of each person’s sexlife rests upon childhood masturbation— the foundation upon which all of human sexuality is based. It’s very consistent that each client I see struggling with orgasms as an adult has no memory of masturbating in childhood or in their teens. The absence of this natural self-exploration interferes with the development of nerve pathways that carry positive sensations from our genitals to the pleasure center in the brain. This blocks or slows down the development of sexual release with orgasm.
My girlfriend and I met the first week of college and have been going out for about half a year now. She is amazing and very giving in bed. She has had her share of sexual partners in the past with a couple of boys and one girl and she tells me that they had never been able to help her reach an orgasm. Only she herself on her own has reached an orgasm. I am also the first person she has had sex with and of course I want to help her feel a great deal of pleasure and help her reach an orgasm.