relationships

How Can I Manage My Jealousy?

Fri, 02/02/2018 - 09:09
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

First, thank you very much for sharing your wisdom with us. It's been a live changing for me since I discover I had "small" orgasms and kept developing them.

Now I got a question about something that is killing my loving relationships. I have this horrible tendency to get "over jealous" when I think my partners are fantasising with someone else. Once my partner told me he finds "wonder woman" hot before going to see the movie. I got so "jealous" on thinking he is fantasising having sex with her (instead of me) so I didn’t want to watch the movie.

Pornography, Media Culture & the Proliferation of Fantasy

Tue, 06/04/2013 - 08:15
Submitted by Marisa Black

Joseph Gordon-Levitt has written and directed a new movie, Don Jon, in which he also stars. After premiering at Sundance in January 2013 and set for wide release in October 2013, the trailer came out last month. I'm excited to see what Joe does with the topics of porn, fantasy, relationships.

The Nice Guy or The Friend Category

Tue, 04/03/2012 - 17:52
Submitted by Anonymous

I've been noticing a fair amount of critiquing women over the last 15 years I've been an adult. Some of it is shere misogyny and some of it is about cultural stuff that women 'generally' perpetuate against men and against other women and so is fair enough. We are not beyond reproach of course.

A Delicious Sort of Tension in Any Romantic Exchange: Push & Pull

Fri, 03/30/2012 - 07:02
Submitted by Anonymous

You’ve gotta be able to give and take in order to have balance in a healthy relationship. With this comes a delicious sort of tension in any romantic exchange between partners: the push and pull.

So what do I mean when I say push and pull?

Historically, I first realized I was utilizing the principle whilst mackin.’ Making out always presented itself to me as a little game. I loved (and still love) to be playful and keep my kissee on their soon-to-be-curling toes.

I noticed two main kissing routes: forward and assertive—especially with tongue involved—and a more soft, reactionary route.

Dating Adventures at Mid-Life: What the *&^% Am I Doing on Match.Com?

Tue, 01/11/2011 - 15:36
Submitted by Anonymous

So, my tentative New Year's resolution is to get my hands out of my own pants and down someone else's.

I say tentative because I have been down the slippery path of online dating before - and I know what I'm in for. Nonetheless, I have decided to dust off my old Match.com profile and try this cyberdating thing once again. Maybe.

As you can see, I am rather conflicted about the whole thing. My experience with online dating has been a mixed bag. I have been on a few sites such as OKCupid and Yahoo Personals, but frankly my "best" experience has been with Match. And that is a highly qualified "best".

My Thoughts on a Woman's Experiences Dating Women

Sun, 09/26/2010 - 11:00
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

Here is an article from TheFrisky.com where the author, Nikki Dowling, lists the major things she's learned about lesbians and her girlfriend in general after having left heterosexuality for a lesbian sex life and relationship.

I like her quote that states, "It's the individual that makes relationships differ-- not the gender." Her article, by the way, is written much like I prefer to write about sex and relationships. It gives readers a bit of an insider's perspective that they'd otherwise remain ignorant of.

My Youngest Client's Glowing Feedback

Sun, 06/06/2010 - 22:13
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

This email from 22 yr old Rebecca made my day. I was sitting on my workout bench at Betty's place when I read this on my blackberry. Putting to words the feelings a letter like this stirs in me is difficult.... It's several emotions blended together. The best I can do to describe it is, the thrill of erasing a little suffering from the face of the planet.

Hi there, Eric. :)
So I'm finally getting around to writing this-- I've been pretty busy working and setting things up here in Vermont-- everything is going well though. I hope things are well with you too!
I figure I will just write as though I'm speaking to you (which I am) and you can cut and paste whatever you want to use for your blog. Hope this helps! I mean it all!

Men: A Smile is All It Takes

Wed, 09/16/2009 - 14:50
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We don't need you to figure out our lives, save the day, or lie and say we look fabulous in coolots and clogs.  We just want you to smile when you look at us just like George:

Scientists found that women who are unhappy with the way they look feel significantly better about themselves after being greeted by a smiling face.

The boost in self esteem has led psychologists to think that for many, confidence in their appearance is all about social acceptance.  The study found that women who are unhappy with the way they look feel better after being greeted by a smiling face.

My Penis and I Get Along Fine

I think my penis has always given me pleasure. I am sure I played with it as a baby, and even before I could have orgasms, I was always trying to get boy and girlfriends to get naked and touch theirs while they touched mine. By the time I was eight I had learned to clench and let go of the muscles in my perineum, making my erection move up and down. At summer camp, a lot of other kids wanted to see me make my dick dance around. It is one of those tricks where the more you do it, the stronger it gets, and many of my lovers have enjoyed it over the years. I have always wondered if there are many other men who can do this.

Romantic Comedies Kill Relationships

Tue, 12/16/2008 - 16:30
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Watching romantic comedies can spoil your love life, a study by a university in Edinburgh has claimed.  Rom-coms have been blamed by relationship experts at Heriot Watt University for promoting unrealistic expectations when it comes to love. They found fans of films such as Runaway Bride and Notting Hill often fail to communicate with their partner.

Many held the view if someone is meant to be with you, then they should know what you want without you telling them. Psychologists at the family and personal relationships laboratory at the university studied 40 top box office hits between 1995 and 2005, and identified common themes which they believed were unrealistic.

The problem is that while most of us know that the idea of a perfect relationship is unrealistic, some of us are still more influenced by media portrayals than we realize. The movies included You've Got Mail, Maid In Manhattan, The Wedding Planner and While You Were Sleeping.

The Art of Getting Apart

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Fri, 10/03/2008 - 18:42
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Breaking up is hard to do and yet it happens to most of us. Statistics show that half of all marriages end in divorce and many people remarry to repeat the pattern again- and again. Add to that the number of couples living together without benefit of marriage along with couples in committed relationships and we're talking about a major portion of the population. Instead of receiving any useful information on how to begin and end a relationship, I was given a romantic love story that promised passionate sex in marriage with a happy life ever after. That myth was one grand departure from reality.