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Dear Betty

I'm 31, married with two wonderful kids and an equally wonderful husband. We have a very routinish sex life. I initiated much more than him when we were younger and have always been quite an erotic person - now Ive "de-sexed" myself (is that a term?), so that we're equally unerogenous. I know this suites my husband well, as all he's ever wanted was sex once a week (dominant male - non-dominant female etc. etc). I'm easily turned on by my husband and adore him. I'm sad that my sexuality is somewhat repressed - and often climax alone during masturbation simply because our love-making is not very exciting to me.

Dear Betty,

Okay, I am 42 years old and I have had 1 orgasm in my life, which was while I was still a virgin at 18 yrs old!! It was so overwhelming, I fainted afterwards. My boyfriend at the time and I were just making out in his car, I was riding his leg, and pretty soon this feeling started overtaking me, and he wouldn't let me stop riding his leg....and voila...my orgasm. From what I remember, it was amazing. Now I am 42 and haven't had one since then.