pleasure anxiety

The Absence of Pleasure Leads to Systemic Violence

Tue, 02/07/2017 - 15:21
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Natasha posted a link to James Prescott's research on body pleasure and the origins of violence. I read through the dense extract and it was life affirming. We have instincts that, at times, we question. Everything Betty teaches through her books and the workshops can be quantified. Touch and pleasure inhibit violence across the board.

It starts with maternal touch as infants. Cultures that support mothers, don't sexualize breastfeeding toddlers, and encourage general affection have less violence. The concept that pain is useful in child-rearing produces angry, aggressive adolescents and adults. Here's an interesting wrinkle: mothers who didn't experience orgasm were more likely to abuse their children.

After He Ejaculates He Feels Weak Throughout His Body

Thu, 02/28/2013 - 10:02
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty!

How are you? I hear you're talking on some Irish radio show. I'm very excited and would love to know which one so I can listen. Imagine Betty Dodson in IRELAND!!! I'm stunned and delighted!

I was going to write to you anyway to ask what you think about something. I can't find any help here as of yet (or online) for this problem that a man has contacted me with. His English is not great and we haven't met yet as I want him to go and have all his bloods tested before we start working together. But I'm not sure if there are any blood tests he should have that are not within the usual. That's the first thing.

I Can Choose to Believe in an Open, Receptive, Fun, Pleasurable Sex Positive Universe

Tue, 11/06/2012 - 14:09
Submitted by Lawrence Lanoff

I’m just home from the Yoga, Sex, Feminism conference in Dallas. It was incredible - beyond my expectations-and my body is abuzz with energy. I love being around people who get that pleasure, bliss, joy, happiness are empowered qualities to aspire to and live life from.

Newly Lesbian & Can't Orgasm with My Girlfriend

Tue, 10/30/2012 - 08:04
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hmmm where to start. Purge. After years of very bad sex with men - quick and fulfilling for one, I discovered my clitoris (with your help) and that I really like girls. I'm very proficient at sex for one, but that's quick also. Now I have a lovely girl in my life I find the attention and pressure to orgasm too much.

She's happy, she loves me, and we have lovely times together but I can't orgasm. She says I need to learn to slow down. I try not to think too much and just enjoy but I can't help thinking she's getting bored. I'm ruining this beautiful thing because being the centre of attention freaks me out.

Dear V,