performance anxiety

I Need to Practice Delaying Ejaculation. Should I Cheat or Masturbate?

Thu, 12/29/2016 - 09:03
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

Throughout my 18 year marriage with my wife I've been a premature ejaculator (it's been really hard for both of us). The thing is is that I get turned on so quickly (every time I embrace my wife and give her a kiss there's a stirring in my pants - I never have a cuddle without becoming erect (and it's embarrassing to be honest - perhaps it would be less so if I could avoid cumming after 1 or 2 minutes inside her).

I have found that using a delay cream helps and makes sex last a lot longer and much more enjoyable.

I Get Anxious At the Thought of Sexual Intimacy

Thu, 04/03/2014 - 13:52
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty,

I have what I believe is performance anxiety. I get anxious at the thought of pursuing sexual intimacy. I have had it all my life and with todays stressor, its even worse. I been told always that I am great in bed and am not a selfish lover.

The mechanicals have been tested and are fine. I have seen a sex therapist, urologists and my primary although I moved and have a new one.

How can I overcome this at 38 years old, healthy, fit, seperated father of 4 children.

Dear P,

Can't Orgasm With Anyone in Room!

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Wed, 12/03/2008 - 08:51
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I'm am 19 years old and I think I have a healthy view of my body for my age, and everyday I become more and more comfortable. I started having sex a year ago with my boyfriend, and we actually moved in with each other around the same time. He is 22 now, but he has only had sex with a few other women. I started masturbating with great success around the same time.

My problem for you is that, while I have no problem orgasming on my own, I have never orgasmed in the presence of anyone, not even my boyfriend of one year- and we have sex all the time.