pc muscle

Dear Betty and Carlin

I am writting because i have a doubt, and I didn't find much information about it in internet.

Sometimes, when i need to pee I get a very intense feeling, similar to an orgasm, in my whole body, specially in my nipples. The feeling gets more intense if I am aroused, but sometimes I get it without beeing aroused.  The feeling is great, so I usually try to enjoy it, but my question is why does this happen to me, and does it have a bad consequence?

Does masturbation help keep your vagina tight?

What am I doing wrong? I tend 2 urinate when using my magic wandor even using my hands. I've even done this while i was getting oral sex!! This is very embarrassing when your with someone!! HELP!!

I have been using an Hitachi Magic Wand for a number of months now with no problem reaching an orgasm within the first few minutes without anything out of the ordinary happening. However, the past two times, during orgasm (clitoral) for what I thought was ejaculation turned out to be urine. I thought the first time was ejaculation as there was no odor but once dried, it was yellow so I had my doubts. Today, I knew it was urine from the smell. I was so disappointed as I had surgery a year ago to stop my incontenance problem and now I think it has come back. I can't remember what the surgery was exactly but part of it involved insertion of a sling I think. Is the wand too powerful for me? Why am I urinating all of a sudden? Has this happened to other women?

Betty,
I am a 31 old female who has never been fully penetrated. I find full penetration is too painful. Is there something wrong with me? I have been to the doctor and nothing physically is wrong with me. I would love to experience true sex. Can you please help me?

Dr. Betty-

I really hope you can help because I've never been able to find any info about this or even find someone who believes me. When I orgasm, I poop a little. I don't know if I'm actually pushing without realizing it or just loosening my sphincter, but it happens every time. I don't have any continence issues and go to the bathroom before I get busy, so it's not an issue of nature calling. Now I'm so self concious about it that when I even get close to orgasm I start to worry and end up stopping before I hit the finish line. I've tried to just not care and just clean up after, but it's frankly gross. Why does this happen, and how can I stop it?

I am trying to tighten my PC for my pleasure and his pleasure, but come away FRUSTRATED!! I can stop the flow of urine, but wonder if I am really isolating the right muscles. It seems my anus is stronger than my vagina. When I lie on my back and insert a finger to do kegels it feels like my muscles tighten from the bottom to top instead of from side to side...Is that normal?! Plz help!!

Betty,

I'm a young woman from Romania and I'm currently reading Orgasms for Two and I just HAD to stop to write you an email. While I don't agree with some of the radical ideas on marriage and love in your book (but then I'm only 25) I found what I read so far to be ...liberating. I know your inbox is probably flooded with emails so I'll keep this quick but still hope for an answer.