orgasm during partner sex

Hello!

I sure hope you can help! I am 20 years old and have never been able to orgasm, or even feel like I have come close! I have tried to take advice from friends (since that always works great), but still with no result. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and we have been having sex for 3. He is very understanding and tells me to just relax, and masturbate, and we try all kinds of different things. He is determined to make me cum. But when I masturbate I get bored and tired, and in sex if we keep at it for too long it just becomes too uncomfortable for me! I still enjoy sex even if I don't orgasm, and my BF would stimulate me all night if he had too, but I start to feel bad. Any suggestions? Thanks!

Dear Betty,

I am 24 years old and although I have been masturbating for a few years,have had some wonderful partners, and don't really have any guilt around sex, I just can't seem to reach orgasm. I have actually managed to get much closer with a partner than alone -- to the point where I feel 99.99999% there and my body just won't let go. I'm wondering if it could be some kind of mental block? I just don't know what it is.

I'm 21 years old and have been masturbating for a number of years but have never been able to orgasm - no matter what I do or how long I do it for. I do have a boyfriend and have already explained to him that the big O doesn't seem to happen for me. However, I think he's beginning to feel disheartened that after a number of months with him I haven't had an orgasm.