open relationships

Hey Dr. Betty -

I have recently re-read "Orgasms for Two". Something you wrote really enveloped me on the re-read....You posed the idea of why, if we love someone, do we feel we have to possess them sexually or otherwise. I have been in a generally fulfilling, respectful (and sometimes very hot) monogamous marriage for 16 years. Your statement has sparked some recent, very interesting conversation between me & my husband. Society has trained Westerners to cherish & respect monogamy. Your concept is easy to accept logically, and we are now working on the emotional end of this idea, which is quite exciting. Thank you for placing that thought out there. It has encouraged us to question this aspect of our socialization.