After hearing countless sex histories from girls and women over the past four decades, I believe sexual repression begins the moment a parent or caregiver punishes a child’s natural curiosity for touching their own sex organs.
Society needs to understand that the health of each person’s sexlife rests upon childhood masturbation— the foundation upon which all of human sexuality is based. It’s very consistent that each client I see struggling with orgasms as an adult has no memory of masturbating in childhood or in their teens. The absence of this natural self-exploration interferes with the development of nerve pathways that carry positive sensations from our genitals to the pleasure center in the brain. This blocks or slows down the development of sexual release with orgasm.
Hi Dr. Betty,
I'm a 28 year old female and to get right to the point I have very little feeling "down there". I can sit and fondue and finger myself for hours and feel as calm as I would watching golf. Even when applying pressure to my clitoris or internally to what i think is my gspot. Nothing. I can have and have had two types of orgasms. One with a powerful vibrator directly in my clitoris. I own the hitachi and have to use it on high and even then sometimes it's hit or miss. The second way was with a partner who was fingering me quite roughly and actually caused me to "squirt" or in these three cases flood.
Dear Dr Dodson
I contacted you a while ago with regards to experiencing a loss of sensation in my clitoris having used an electric toothbrush to masturbate.
It has been over a year now and the sensation has not come back but also my vagina area and clitoris is still dry and my clitoris is still a dull colour and forming plaque like bits on it that I have to regularly clean off.
Hi Dr. Betty,
I am writing from South Africa and I am in desperate need of advice and help. I have seen more gyneacologists in the past 15 years and no-one could help me.
My problem started 15 years ago. I think somehow my clitoris got hurt, please note that i have never use a vibrator or any form of sex toys. My partner at that time got a little carried away with his fingers. Since then my clitoris has been numb and it has been 15 years that i have this problem and no-one seems to know the cause of it. Recently my clitoris has started to pain. The gyn gave me a cortisone lotion to apply but it did nothing. It also feel like i am swollen all the time. Please can you give me some advice as this has left me desireless and it is starting to influence my marriage.
I'm a 22-year-old virgin and have been suffering from manic depression for half of my life. Four years ago I fell into my deepest depression and developed a mild form of agoraphobia. While going through trial and error with different meds, I was constantly depressed and anxious and I discovered one thing that made me feel better: masturbation and porn. (You probably see where I'm going with this.)