no desire

Am I Asexual?

Thu, 03/16/2017 - 08:50
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

I don't know whether I'm asexual or what's up with me. I'm a 24 year old girl. I can watch porn, get turned on and rub my clit until I orgasm, but whenever I've tried sexual things with someone else I just don't get turned on, if anything their bodily fluids (cum, saliva) disgust me and no amount of foreplay can get me wet

I fantasise about doing stuff with guys (and sometimes girls) and find them aesthetically pleasing to look at in images, but the real life thing doesn't do anything for me

What's up with me?

Thank you

J

Dear J,

If you are OK without a sex partner then stay single As long as you are masturbating and enjoying orgasms you are not considered asexual. Instead you are a selfsexual which is a valid lifestyle. Enjoy!

Went on the Pill & Lost My Orgasm

Mon, 10/31/2016 - 12:48
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi there!

I feel like my story has a lot of weird details, so thank you ahead of time for your patience. I am experiencing some issues with orgasm and am looking for advice and help.

I got married a three years ago in my early 20s. I was a virgin until my wedding night, so the only sexual experience I have has been with my husband (my husband was not a virgin, not sure if you might need to know that as well). Even though we didn’t have sex before marriage, we have always had a lot of chemistry. I remember I would become very aroused just from making out, even with no petting or serious touching.