masturbation

Dear Betty:

In reading your book and making notes of chronological references I deduct that you and I are about of the same generation. I was born 6/1/25. It is nice to relate to someone of your own age.

On the subject of masturbation, my first sexual experience was around 12 1/2. Prior to my first experience, a neighbor girl and I initiated a fool-around relationship. I said, I'll show you mine if you will show me yours. I think this girl was about 13 and I was 11 1/2 at the time. We found some secluded place where we could look at one another and make comparisons. The girl was quite explicit in her demonstration of her genitals pulling back the hood from the clitoris for my observation.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I was never a fan of masturbating, but my boyfriend and I started engaging in phone sex with each other whenever we are not in physical contact. My problem is, I can't make myself orgasm nor can my boyfriend. I remember having orgasms a few times just having sexual thoughts. And a few years back, I orgasmed when my then boyfriend touched me. Now, I can't do it anymore and I don't know why.

Dear Betty,

I just found your web site and it's great. I am going to order some of your books and videos. You are the second person I have ever talked to about sex except my husband. I am 52 years old and have been married for 35 years. Since I was a child the only way I could have an orgasm was on the corner of a piece of furniture. I told my pastors wife about it and she said not to do it anymore. I did it anyway to get sexual release, but then felt guilty about it.

Dear Betty,

I am in the late stages of menopause and have been having trouble reaching orgasm. My history has been that I have only been able to have an orgasm via oral sex or with a vibrator. Lately, it is only with a vibrator and even then it is about 50% of the time. I recently began hormone replacement therapy to regulate my hormones; testosterone was particularly low. When I am having sex, I do become very excited and during intercourse my clit becomes "erect", but that seems to be the end of it - touching it or having oral sex does not increase the level of excitement I feel in my clitoris. And finding my G-spot has always been a mystery. I love intercourse but do not feel any "build up" other than a rush just before my partner comes. I'm beginning to feel depressed about not being able to have an orgasm during partnersex and my boyfriend has been very understanding but it must bother him on some level. Any advice?

Dear Betty,

I have been enjoying your site for about a month and want to let you know that my masturbation sessions have increased. I am a married male, 62 years old, with a wife who doesn't enjoy sex much anymore. But I will now take myself in hand much more often.

Now to get to the subject above. I remember vividly my first try at masturbation. I was 12 years old and heard about it through some older boys. I locked myself in the bathroom and was using soap as my lubricant as per their suggestions.

In the late sixties, Germaine Greer became one of my feminist heroes when I first read her article, "Lady, Love Your Cunt" in Suck, Europe's sex magazine. Then again in 1970 with her book, The Female Eunuch. Thirty years later in 1990, Marie Claire ran an article by Germaine titled "Self-Love or Self-Abuse." Below is an excerpt from the article in which my name appeared six times. It was spelled correctly I might add, for which I am grateful. After all, we know there is no such thing as bad publicity- PR is PR.In the late sixties, Germaine Greer became one of my feminist heroes when I first read her article, "Lady, Love Your Cunt" in Suck, Europe's sex magazine. Then again in 1970 with her book, The Female Eunuch.

Dear Betty Dodson,

I am twenty-three. I have been married and divorced once, and about to be married again. Since the age of eleven, I have been masturbating regularly and intend to continue until I'm too old to find my clit. Because you shared so much with me, I'd like to share a few of my experiences with you.

Dear Betty,

I just found your wonderful web site and after pouring over it for several days I decided to write you and tell you about how I started masturbating. At that time I had received no sexual instruction of any kind. My previous experiences were limited entirely to "I'll show you mine if you show me yours" with various neighborhood boys and girls.

I'm now 57 years old. I think it all started when I was 11 or 12. My penis was growing and I had a little bit of pubic hair above it. In those days I used to sleep over night at my cousin's house. He was a few months older than I was and also my best friend.

I grew up in a small, rural town in the northwest and during summer break it was a boy's paradise. It was the summer between sixth and seventh grade and before then I had played with my cock for several years, but had never cum before. My best friend, Bill, lived across the road from me and was a year ahead of me in school. Well, on this particular day, we had talked my mom into dropping me, Bill and Donny, another guy from our neighborhood off within an half-hour walk of one of the local swimming holes.

One of the single most important events in my life was discovering how to pleasure myself. I had just turned eleven and had begun to grow pubic hair. I had recently found some of my father's porn magazines by accident. I enjoyed the feelings I got when looking though them whenever I had a chance. I got really horny, but had no idea how to unload my tension. My only sexual outlets had been through wet dreams and nocturnal emissions.

Dr. Betty,

Your site is really stimulating, and has helped my improve my masturbation experiences. I have been masturbating for decades. I think about women while I stroke myself, ending up with a great orgasm, and shooting on my hand, stomach, thighs and cock.

I have come while thinking about about friends, neighbors, co-workers, and sisters-in-law. I only masturbate while thinking about women I know, never celebreties (except for Julie Andrews once in a while).

I asked you for advice after your lecture. My roommate, a 28 y.o. Catholic virgin said that masturbation was a sin that she did not practice. You told me you cannot force anyone to do something she does not want to do. But then, you offered up some Great Wisdom! You told me to get some of my girlfriends to come over to our apartment when my roommate was there and talk about what great orgasms we were having with ourselves.

Dear Betty,

Whenever my wife of 25 years leaves for a few hours, I turn to your site. My wife doesn't object--she says she'd rather do it than read about it. My favorite is the first experiences. They're so innocent that I can't help fondling myself while I read most of them.

I'm no longer a fiery kid, but I remember my first experience with a girl as if it were yesterday. I grew up on a farm in Oregon. It was an irrigated farm which meant that there were ditches and the willows that can't resist ditches. The farm houses were clustered around quarter sections, which meant every family usually had three other neighbors.

Dear Betty,

I just wanted to tell you how wonderful your site is and that I can't wait for it to come out on the 1st and 15th of every month. I start getting antsy when I know the date is getting close when I get to read more of the storys that your fans write and your expert opinion. I have to admit that some of the stories turn me on, so I usually have my magic wand in hand while I read a long. And after thinking about it for a while I bet there is more than just myself out there who like to play with their pussy's and cocks while reading others experiences. Sooo why not add mine.

Dear Betty,

In my 76 years I've been blessed with viewing many a cunt and I have yet to see one that is not beautiful.

I saw my first cunt when I was about six years old and it belonged to one of my playmates my age. We were involved in the old "You show me yours and I'll show you mine" game.