masturbation

Dear Betty: 

I have recently separated from my "significant other" after 12 years of being together. Needless to say it has been quite a change for me. We had a good sex life and occasionally used a dildo that we had nicknamed "Big Boy". Our favorite thing to do with Big Boy was for me to crouch on all fours on the side of the bed while my man stood behind me, fucking me with Big Boy while I masturbated myself and he jacked himself off and relieved himself on my buttocks and back. I had some great orgasms that way, and upon occasion (not many) had a female ejaculation in that position.

There is little doubt that feminism lost ground with the last two generations of young women. I believe one reason for this has been mainstream feminists focus on rape, incest, and violence against women and girls. It's time to rescue sex from violence. We need to acknowledge sexuality as the life force that allows us to procreate and fuels our creative impulses through repeated experiences with pleasure.

Betty Dodson, Ph.D., artist, author and sexologist, has proven though working with thousands of women that a strong pelvic floor muscle enhances orgasm with oneself and during partnersex. The same muscle also insures bladder control, maintains vaginal health, and contributes to a person's overall health. Betty's Barbell is both a practical vaginal exerciser and an excellent pleasure device that she has used for years in teaching women about orgasm. Made of stainless steel, the Barbell is sturdy enough to become a family heirloom that can be passed down from grandmother to granddaughter.

Hi Betty, Hi Betty,

I'm reading "Orgasms for Two" and enjoying it very much. I just ordered the Liberte' from Eric so I can use it during partnersex. I'm sharing here, not asking a question. I've gone through several Magic Wands in the past 25 years. I plug it into a rheostat that has a slider on a long cord so I can have the wand in one hand and the rheostat in the other. It easily adjusts both the high and the low vibrations to anything my clit wants. No towel as a buffer to muffle is needed.

Dear Betty, Dear Betty,

I am a twenty-two year old virgin with severe rheumatoid arthritis. I've had a boyfriend now for a year, and though we have engaged in quite a lot of sexual activity, he is afraid that having sex with me will hurt me even more. I have extremely limited mobility in my left hip and right knee, and only so much stamina, but I love him and I want to try it. Even if it affects me poorly afterwards I'm still willing. Do you have any suggestions about what position might be the least likely to cause problems, and perhaps put my boyfriend at ease about hurting me?

Dear Betty,

I am 50 and divorced. I have had two marriages that just nearly killed me. I met this woman shortly after the breakup of my marriage and she became a good friend. She is 36 and quite petite (5'2"), I am a big guy (220lbs - 5' 10"). She has asked me, in a round about way, to have sex with her. She says she isn't getting any and asks if I am. I am not looking for a serious relationship and don't think she is either.

Hello Betty,

My childhood masturbation technique has left me a bit stunted. I am so used to only masturbating in one position that I have a hard time doing it in another position. When I was a child I learned that I would feel a great sensation when I had something in between my legs. Now when I want to masturbate, the easiest way for me is to put something underneath me, like if I put something on a chair that will stimulate my clitoris, and move my pelvis around in a certain way, I can get off in about 3 minutes. My problem is that now with a partner, I have a hard time getting turned on with him trying to stimulate me with his hand. How do I re-learn to masturbate so that I can come when he tries it with his hand? What can I do?

Hello doctor betty..

I am a 21 year old boy.. I started doing masturbation only a few months ago...before that I used to get done in my sleep only... and I learnt that masturbation in sleep is not healthy and my penis could get weak... so I started to do it my self... and now I find that the skin on my penis is getting loose (when my penis is not erected) at the tip.. What might be the problem..?? By my analysis I guess the problem is... once I started to masturbate... my skin had to expand when my penis is big... so after the penis becomes small all the expanded skin is accumulated at the tip!! This I could guess because when my penis is small only the skin accumulates. Once if it becomes a little big, it looks normal...so please answer my query doctor...

Dear Betty,

Betty,

I am new to masturbating and would love to try it more, but I get a really bad cramp in my left thigh pretty early on in any session. It doesn't make the experience very enjoyable. I try to relax, but that doesn't seem to stop the cramp. It's really painful. I must be doing something wrong, but even when I try to switch things up, it still happens. Help!

Pieta

Dear Pieta,

Dear Betty,

I'm 44 years old and in recent years my sex drive as been extremely high. I've only had a handful of sexual partners in my lifetime, as I started rather late in life. But believe me, I've been making up for lost time. I began masturbating at a young age - perhaps 8 or 9, and have always masturbated (primarily with my fingers). But in the last 2 years I acquired some toys and now use a vibrator often. However, when having sex, I don't usually cum easily, if at all. Perhaps because I'm with much younger guys that don't realize you need to warm a girl up first? Or perhaps because how my pussy is shaped (I have large labia majora)? Either way, I'm not certain.