masturbation

hi betty, i am 22 years old and have just recently started to have orgasms again. my first orgasm was when i was 19 years old, it took forever, but the man i was with was very experienced and patient. oh, and i was stoned. it only happened that one time, and i haven't been able to orgasm with a man since. however, upon discovering this mind blowing pleasure, i began masturbating with a shower head. it would normally take between 45 minutes to an hour and a half!

Hello! I'm almost 40 and I've been masturbating all my life just by rubbing my clitoris against a bunched up piece of cloth and while laying on my stomach. The technique works for me, but it is very embarassing while I'm with a man. Can you tell me if it is possible, at my age, to learn masturbating the "conventional" way, while leaning on the back or while sitting? If yes, what do you suggest I should do?

Dear Betty,

I can orgasm through masturbation but not through oral or vaginal sex. Because I masturbate on my stomach, I can't do it during sex or have my boyfriend do it for me during sex. Sometimes during sex, I try to touch my clitoris but often during that time, it is insensitive. As it is sometimes during oral sex. Any suggestions? Is it mental? I do enjoy sex and want it - I just can't orgasm.

Dearest darling Dr. Betty~

As with most people who request your expertise and knowledge on all things sexually-oriented, I have a personally perplexing question that has been bothering me for quite some time. Also like many of the other curious people who have asked for your guidance, I: have had a serious boyfriend of 3+ years, never come to orgasm during intercourse (only during masturbation), have a healthy relationship with my body, and watch porn once in awhile when I can't see my boyfriend for weeks on end. Now, this is where the tricky part comes in--I never feel a sexual NEED to masturbate, I just do because it feels good.

Lately i cant help masturbating two three times a day is that too much. Also i love doing it in places that i may get caught like the local woods where i totally strip off and then imagine a women watching me this always makes me cum like mad. I also love to masturbate women listen to me on the phone. Do you think something is wrong with me.

I'm a soon to be 60 year old women who thinks she has never had an orgasm and is just now exploring her sexuality. I was married very early in life at 20 and got pregnant with my very first sexual experience. I married this man and we were married for 34 years. He was a very loving and patient man with which I have 3 children. My husband died about 5 years ago.

Dear Betty,

I am having difficulty both with orgasm during masturbation and with a partner. I think I have experienced tension orgasm and no touch orgasm before (they aren't reliable though: my longest was after exercise and wasn't in a place I could relax into it). So I know I'm not having them with sex and masturbation.

HI there!!!

I dont know what's been happening but I've starting touching myself at odd times. I find myself coming to a peek very soon. It seems there is little sensation- from what there used to be- i kinda feel nothing, and dont respond for a good five minutes, then all of a sudden, it becomes "too much".

Hi Betty,

When I am using my hitachi (which I Love) I sometimes pee, i can't help it, it just comes out. Is this normal? Should I see a doctor or tell my gynecologist? Also I don't know if I orgasm because I can't feel my internal muscles flexing, but it feels great! I love sex with my husband, it feels amazing but I never feel those muscles pulsing or flexing, either during sex or when I use my hitachi. Thanks for any advise you can give.

Thanks,

Dear R,

Dear Betty,

I've been masturbating face down( laying on my stomach rubbing against mattresses, socks, pillows, blankets, etc.) since I was about 11, or as long as i can remember. The reason I originally started to masturbate this way was because i found i got nopleasure out of stimulating my clitoris. I figured I just wasn't doing it right and would learn how too later.

Recently I visited a website( healthystrokes.com) that told me it was unhealthy to masturbate face down. They said it was called TMS( Tramatic Masturbatory Syndrome) your a doctor, is this true?( the site says the disorder is most common in men, but can occur in females) I think this theory might be true because it says that the way i currently masturbate puts too much pressure on my clit, thus losing it's sensitivity. I'm really scared becasue I still find absoulutely no pleasure in rubbing my clit.