masturbation

Hi Betty!

I am 20 years old and I just started masturbating about 4 months ago. I was always kind of nervous to look at myself or touch myself, but I tried it for the first time about 4 months ago. I usually give it like, 2 minutes with my hand...or 5-10 minutes with a vibrator and it does feel good, but I don't have the big orgasm that I'm waiting for. My libido is extremely low, I'm never in the mood, I just do it when I'm bored and I usually try to hurry up and get to the orgasm part but it never happens.

I found my husband/partner of four years masturbating in the shower last night. After confronting him about it this morning, he says he has had a problem with doing it since he was 15 (now in early 30's), masturbating once a day till we started going out seven years ago when it decreased to 'minimal'. I know this is probably really common, but as a Christian I was bought up believing pretty strict things about sex (most of which I threw by the wayside during my teenage years), so masturbating in marriage was pretty abhorent to me, but I understand it more for single people.

I know by now you're probably outraged by my views but that's what they were till a few hours ago when I started looking up masturbation on health websites and wikipedia!! I realise that it's extremely common and beneficial (I did it when I was trying to induce labour with our son, so I've done it before), but my concern is the long term ramifications on our marriage

Hey!! I know it's always the same,..and i think i already know the answer for my specific problem. But maybe you know a better one. I get no orgasm, even if my friend licks the pussy..it feels good and then it feels like im close. but doesnt work. the problem is, when i masturbate, its only possible to get an orgasm in a very strange position. I close my legs and brace them and then i stimulate the clit. But how can i free myself from this ONE position...

Hey Betty,

Well I'm 19 have had sex a couple of times and can't orgasm. I have been masturbating ever since I was a little girl but haven't orgasmed. Am I doing something wrong? I used to think that I masturbated for a couple of minutes and that lengthening the session would help. This didn't though. Should I invest in a vibrator?

I am hetero woman in my 60's and have lost most of my pubic hair. It looks so ugly, I feel so repelled, I can't look at myself or touch myself. How does one "groom" oneself with so little hair left?

Also, have been celibate a long time now. Used to masturbate a great deal during periods of celibacy, but have no sexual libido now. How to get it back? I hate feeling sexually dead.

I came across an article in the New Scientist showing how ejaculation relieves hay fever and allergies. I have a son who just turned 14 and has always had severe allergies but all those medications never helped much. Also, decongestants have side effects and cause other problems when you use them heavily over long stretches. I know my son had begun masturbating since our talk last year on the birds and the bees so it was time anyway to have another talk. I decided to roll this in and suggest he experiment.

I'm nineteen and after a while into masturbating (unfortunately it occasionally takes me a bit, but I'm guessing that's from being pretty much new to it?) I'll feel like I'm right on the edge to an orgasm- but then it feels like I get way too sensitive to keep going since it gets painful. I really enjoy the build up, but then it gets to that point that I honestly can't stand it.