lubrication

Hello, I am 42 years old and was raised by parents who did not inform me about sex at all. Believe it or not at this age I am learning as I go. I am an only child and such topics were not discussed it was too embarrasing to them. Unfortunately my mother passed away from cancer when I was 15 so I missed getting what question and knowledge from her was lost. Then when I lost my virginity the experience truthfully was less then what I expected.

Oh Goddess divine Betty, I have problems with penetration. I've been sexually active for four years, and it's always been an issue. It really hurts when a guy enters me, and I feel really tight. But after he thrusts a little while the pain goes away and I enjoy it. I'm wondering if I have a tilted uterus-because I've read that you can have problems with sex if you do. I also cannot use tampons because of the same penetration factor-it's agony wearing one. Any ideas? Thanks in advance.

I've been married for almost 4 years and I don't understand why it is so difficult for me to get wet. My husband tells me that before I used to get wet very quick and now he has to touch me and kiss for almost an hour before I get wet. I don't understand because I really want to do it and I like it when he touches me I really enjoy it, but no matter what he does I don't get wet. Is there something wrong with me?

Hi Betty

I have been engaged for a year now and the last 4 months we are having problems in bed and we hardly do it either. I think our problems started after 2 miscarriages and my fiance always compliments big boobs and ass when we watch tv. Kinda has made me insecure of myself and ever since both of my miscarriage, my boobs went down to A cup from being a full B all my life.

When we have sex I'm usually dry not that i dont enjoy him i do. Is being dry normal?

Let me first say that I love everything you have done for the sex-positive community. Your hard work and dedication are inspirational to me!

I seem to be having a problem which has never before arisen. I am currently dating a man with an incredibly large penis (about 9-10'' long, and about 5" around), and as a fairly petite lady, this sometimes creates some discomfort for me. After sex, my inner lips become extremely sore and swollen, to the point where they puff out from my outer lips like little balloons, and I experience general vaginal soreness for 2-3 days afterward.

Hi,

I recently became acquainted with your website and your work after reading "The Whole Lesbian Sex Book." I have a question for you that I've always been too nervous to talk about with anyone besides my lover. When I'm fooling around with a girl, I get really lubricated, and it just continues during sex to the point where I'm not really even turned on anymore, or even that sensitive, but still sopping wet. Is there anything I can do about this?