lubricant

I am a 25 year old girl who is in a new relationship. For the most part I am pretty healthy although I do smoke cigarettes. I am very turned on my my new boyfriend and we have hours of foreplay before sex. I can't get wet. I have never ever been able to get wet. I have had 7 partners and not one time have I ever gotten wet. I am very embarassed about this problem.

I have been thinking a lot about lube lately because I want to buy this Sweet Almond Oil in the near future. When I'm on my period and using my DivaCup, I'm super "parched" down there, and since I've grown my hair back... WHOA! Epiphany. My vagina has been exponentially drier since I've made the whole "let's-grow-the-pubes-back" pact (dude, pubes itch. I don't know if I can hack this). I wonder why... That kind of pisses me off. I'm willing to give up the bare vagina (I've read in some places that some men hate shaven vaginas because it makes them think of fucking a preteen little girl. Hm), but at the expense of my sexual... juicy-ness?

Hi Betty,

Hope you're having a merry Christmas! Just following up from a few weeks ago... I started practicing more, lubing up my vibrator, and with more time and patience (and most importantly, an open mind for what orgasms feel like), I've been able to get off using a vibrator instead of having to hump pillows!

It's all in the mind. I used to think I had a physical deformity or something that led me to going numb after stimulating myself for too long, but adding even a little lubricant seems to do the trick.

Keep up the good work you do,

Dear Betty,

I am a 21 year old female who has been bleeding a little after sex. I lost my virginity at seventeen ... but it took many tries (my boyfriend had to insert one finger at a time, etc), and I bled after the first time. We stayed together for the next three years and had sex probably upwards of 5 times a week. He was forever telling me that he loved my being "tight" and I never experienced bleeding again. I recently began to date another guy and I have been bleeding about 1/2 the time we have intercourse.

You can finally order with your credit card directly when you want to buy sex toys, books, and videos from our sex shop.

You used to have to go through a confusing paypal page which pushed the customer to get a paypal account and minimized the option to simply use their credit card. We were getting a lot of complaints that people didnt use paypal and couldnt buy.

Fixed. At last. We're implementing a way to buy using paypal as a secondary option as well.

This post is a double hitter. Becky Chalker, a good friend and author of the book "The Clitoral Truth" and the National Women's Health Network, a group of women who lobby in Washington for women's health. I've been involved with the NWHN for many years and suggest you consider joining us. They are a source of information about all things dealing with women's health. And Becky's book tells all you ever wanted to know about our powerhouse of a sex organ, the clitoris. Enjoy!

Strategies for Staying Sexual After Menopause by Becky Chalker

When was the last time you heard a joke suggesting that sex invariably goes ever downhill or totally crashes after menopause? Like yesterday? This concept was boldly reaffirmed - without reference to reliable research - at a conference on menopause held by the National Institutes of Health in 2005! So, if you ask your doctor about sex after menopause, she or he will likely agree that the outlook is gloomy. On the flip side, the golden-years myth is heavily promoted by TV ads for erection drugs, which portray the "Cialis woman" always blissfully ready for intercourse whenever her partner drops a pill.

hi eric (or whoever screens these),

i'll keep this short, as i'm sure you get many emails.  i just wanted to know if you could give some advice...or at least point me in the right direction. i'm a 28 year old man... and have only had sex with 2 people.  currently, i've been with the same partner for a number of years...and we have sex a couple times a week. My dilemma...i feel like i'm the only man who has trouble cumming. 

i cum fine, when jacking off, but during sex, it takes forever....most of the time my partner gets worn out, and we have to stop before i cum.  most guys want to take longer to cum, i want to cum quicker...is something wrong with me?  are there any techniques for men that could help me cum quicker?   can you help me?

 Hello Eric,
I am a virgin. I have some experience with masturbation and general making out but never have had intercourse. I am reaching my 40's and I was thinking it could be time to try with safe sex. I am overwhelmed and so tense when I tried last time that the male part will not go in at all. Not sure if because my part is so small (due to non use) or if the guy's part is so big I get overwhelmed and nothing will happen....any recommendations? Appreciate your comments.

By the way, what do you think of virginity these days?????

This video was a complete labor of love.  The editing system kept on crashing but I stuck with it.  I could feel Betty's stare searing into my back as she waited to leave for dinner.  Hope you enjoy it!