kegels

Help me please, Doctor Betty!

My new partner, whom I adore, struggles for his orgasm. I was married to a man with a larger cock (8inches, filled me, hurt sometimes) and my new man has a much smaller one. I feel guilty all the time and am frantically doing pelvic floor exercises! I frequently suggest anal sex, assuming he needs something a little 'tighter'. My gorgeous man is very sexually experienced and I am now expressing my sexuality and enjoying threesomes with him and he loves to watch me with other women, but now I can't relax and enjoy our threesome sex as I'm thinking...is she tighter than me? Does he enjoy her more than me? Can you give me some reassurance about my vagina and my ability to please my man? I've never had this problem before.

I am trying to tighten my PC for my pleasure and his pleasure, but come away FRUSTRATED!! I can stop the flow of urine, but wonder if I am really isolating the right muscles. It seems my anus is stronger than my vagina. When I lie on my back and insert a finger to do kegels it feels like my muscles tighten from the bottom to top instead of from side to side...Is that normal?! Plz help!!

Betty,

I'm a young woman from Romania and I'm currently reading Orgasms for Two and I just HAD to stop to write you an email. While I don't agree with some of the radical ideas on marriage and love in your book (but then I'm only 25) I found what I read so far to be ...liberating. I know your inbox is probably flooded with emails so I'll keep this quick but still hope for an answer.

Betty Dodson, Ph.D., artist, author and sexologist, has proven though working with thousands of women that a strong pelvic floor muscle enhances orgasm with oneself and during partnersex. The same muscle also insures bladder control, maintains vaginal health, and contributes to a person's overall health. Betty's Barbell is both a practical vaginal exerciser and an excellent pleasure device that she has used for years in teaching women about orgasm. Made of stainless steel, the Barbell is sturdy enough to become a family heirloom that can be passed down from grandmother to granddaughter.