Why Do I Yearn for Human Connection with Another Woman

Mon, 10/19/2015 - 05:55
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dearest Betty and Carlin:

My wife and I both grew up in fairly dysfunctional (but non-abusive) families where sexual dialogue and education didn't exist. I was heavily committed to an evangelical religious worldview during my adolescent and young adult years, and we both came to our marriage bed as virgins, however one might define that term--no penetrative sex with any other human beings, save for one R-rated event during college on my part. I was 28 and she was 26. I was "saving it for Jesus--" with the hopes of a 0-60mph blissful eternal sexual life, a deferred-pleasure reward for being so strong and self-disciplined, and non-sinful.

How Do I Get Over Sexual Guilt?

Wed, 04/23/2014 - 08:51
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Dr Betty

My name is M - I'm a 21 yr old male and I have been suffering from severe guilt since I was 20 when I experienced my first sexual intercourse, but it has a twist, I lost my virginity to a woman who was 38 and married to a man, I didn't know them at all we met over the net, she liked me and I really wanted to have sex so we decided to meet at my house when my parents where away and she came over during her work hours so her husband does not suspect anything. I loved it and, for me, it was the most wonderful experience at the time.

Is It My Natural Anxiety or Repressed Feelings Keeping Me From Enjoying Sex?

Mon, 11/11/2013 - 17:04
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I'm an 18 yr old girl and I have anxiety and adhd which do go hand in hand. It's genetic and comes from my mom who is very supportive and i can talk to her about almost anything. In my early puberty i became very religious and active in my church. For the past year i've changed my perspective alot and i don't agree with alot of christianity or at least the way they conduct it. I'm not athiest and still trying to figure things out for myself so i'm just calling myself agnostic right now.

Drowning in Sexual Guilt

Mon, 03/25/2013 - 08:31
Submitted by Betty Dodson


I am an 18 year old boy, and will soon be attending university. I feel guilty and sick about a few things I have done privately, that are disgusting or unorthadox. I feel like these things were done under states of confusion, as they are things that now I have no desire to do again. I suppose I was experimenting.

Is Porn Bad?

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Mon, 01/26/2009 - 17:10
Submitted by Nina

I was surfing the web this evening, and I found this comment posted on a forum.

Help...Can't Masturbate To Orgasm Anymore!

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Tue, 09/09/2008 - 13:09
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,
I'm in deep need of assistance. I used to be able to masturbate, and come to orgasm all the time and every time, when I was a child to mid adolescent age. Unfortunately I had a few experiences of my mom catching me masturbating, and basically condoning it. Then during my high school years I began to masturbate more so than usual to deal with the stress of working on my portfolio.

My Wife Feels Guilty Looking at Porn

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Wed, 01/01/2003 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I love to look at porn. My wife likes to look at times too but feels guilty. We feel like it is a sin, but enjoy it so much. Do you think porn can ruin a marriage? If I look at porn I feel so guilty. I just love my wife and family so much. Sometimes when my wife finds out I look at porn she is so hurt. Why do men struggle with porn so much. I wish I could just not look at it. Do a lot of men struggle with this? -- J

Dear J,