Hi Betty, first of all I want to say thank you for your work on this site here. It have been interesting coming in here and read about several topics around female masturbation and sex life.
But I was wondering with many people struggling some sort of mental illness like depression and loneliness (the list go on). And how these things do effect sex life and masturbation. It's just a topic I haven't read so much about.
I personally don't use any anti-depresant medicines, but these feelings and moods can really have bad effect on my life (including my masturbation obviously).
I'm writing this post because Betty takes too much heat for speaking out against antidepressants. When she was in a bad marriage, her doctor prescribed one of the first antidepressants on the market...she took one and decided to throw the rest out. Getting a divorce and joining the Sexual Revolution cured her depression.
Recently, 60 Minutes covered some of the latest research on antidepressants: for most people antidepressants have little more than a placebo effect. You take a pill and you feel better. Antidepressants only worked for severely depressed people. And the drug companies knew that from the start.
I was browsing your website the other day, (I discovered it about two months ago and I feel like the people on this website are reading my mind) and I came across an article where you mentioned that ten years of anti-depressant usage will affect your ability to orgasm. This freaked me out because I am 18, just discovering my sexuality, and I never knew that anti-depressants can affect your orgasm. I have always been a sexual person, I've masturbated since I was about ten or so, but I've just started having partner sex. I've usually been able to reach orgasm pretty fast, but over the years its been taking longer and longer to reach orgasm.
Let’s talk about the psychology of abortions. Abortions make you crazy? Right? I mean, one argument of anti-choice folks is that women who have abortions will suffer from craziness and depression.
They argue that even if a woman thinks having an abortion is the right thing for her, she will have unending feelings of guilt and loss. The underlying implication; if she does the bad thing, she should go nuts with guilt.
Furthermore, they argue, that just because a zygote is unwanted today, it doesn’t mean that the zygote will be unwanted for the rest of its life.
Many clients come to see me to help with marital blahs, and deadness and inconsolable partners. What happens when one spouse, or both, have depression; I’m talking the real thing not the occasional blues. Depression may reside in one spouse but it affects the entire family.
As often as this occurs, it is never to my knowledge mentioned in the magazines or otherwise openly discussed socially or in public. I guess there’s still an element of shame, secrecy, embarrassment attached or else why wouldn’t this oh so frequent problem be outed.
So many couples complain about poor communication as the greatest hindrance to marital perfection. Others of course say it is sexual malnutrition. Very often the communication itself is not the problem – it’s the message that no one wants to hear.
Thank you for this site. I realize I am not alone both men and women have issues with self esteem and sex. A lot of the post I have seen I know that some of us who visit your site don't know how to become confident about our self-esteem and be healthy sexual beings.
I notice a trend that I'm a part off how does some who feels depressed about their sexual lives pick themselves emotionally? I see many of us who reach out, masturbates a lot but it's not helping. What else can we do other than seeing a therapist which takes a long time with talk. As you know some people treat depression with drugs. SSRI and MOI kills sex drives in both men and women. Whats a better choice? Do you think there should be more sex surrogates for people like us?
Have you ever wondered why so many people are taking antidepressant medications? Most depressed people are deficient in the "happy" chemical serotonin (it should be noted that there are many other brain chemicals that have also been linked to depression). In this video, Julia Ross, the Executive Director of Recovery Systems, explains how the food we eat affects our brain chemistry and can contribute to low amounts of serotonin and feelings of depression:
Thanks goes to Dr. David Hersh for sending this along. I get questions about lack of sexual interest from far too many people taking anti-depressants. Personally I'd rather see people take advantage of the cannabis plant either smoked or made into a tea. But of course, the big pharmaceutical companies would lose a lot of money. Boo Hoo!
The front page of this morning's *Boston Globe* includes an article: "Antidepressants may damage more sex lives" by Carey Goldberg. Here are some excerpts:
Sexual "numbness." Lack of libido. Arousal that stalls.