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Great Sex But He's Married :(

Published 3 weeks ago by Betty Dodson
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I'm a 65 year old woman with "earthquake" orgasms but I'm very unhappy.  I met this man more than 1½ years ago. It was wonderful, just wonderful and I'm still in love with him BUT he's married and has been married for years and years. At first, it was OK for me because he told me his wife has depression, she can't stand sex with him, and it's ok if he has sex with somebody else.

I AM THE SOMEBODY ELSE!

Is it wrong to want a mistress?

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Submitted by DigiRomp on Thu, 01/15/2009 - 03:03.

Lately I've been struggling with monogomy.  Is it wrong to want a mistress?  In an ideal world, I'd have my cake and eat it, too.  I'd love to have a wife AND a mistress.  Am I the only lesbian in the world that feels this way?  Would it be cheatng, or can people ever *really* have open relationships?

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Cheating is *NOT* okay.

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Submitted by Nobilis on Tue, 12/02/2008 - 01:17.

"Cheating" isn't okay because lying isn't okay.

Having sexual relationships outside of marriage is fine.  Go for it.  But do it in the context of an honest marriage.  If your marriage can't handle the honesty then you either need to live with the restrictions you agreed to live under or get out of it.  Anything else is a betrayal. Negotiate for polyamory, negotiate for an open marriage, negotiate for "don't ask don't tell" but if you're not talking about it, then you're at the very least lying by omission.

I got a little angry when I heard Betty say that cheating is fine, and I have to voice my disagreement.

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How Would You Define a Slut?

Published November 22nd, 2008 by Betty Dodson
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Dear Betty,

I am new to your site and learning to properly masturbate. I have been trying to masturbate more because I am married and just feel so promiscuous. I love my husband dearly but he just does not satisfy me in bed. I have a friend I have known for over 12 years and we have sex. Of course my husband doesn't know but it's the best sex I have ever had. I just feel so dirty and hate lying but can't control my urges. Do I need help?

Is It Selfish to Want Partner Sex?

Published August 1st, 2008 by Betty Dodson
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Betty:

I have read and enjoyed your website for years and purchased many products over time. I appreciate your candor and straight forward advice, with which I agree most of the time. As a 57 year old male in a 35 year monogamous marriage, I think you missed something in your advice posted on line referenced above. WHAT ABOUT THE HUSBAND? I readily agree that from my perspective it is a selfish question, and one you have answered several times in the past. I think women should be advised of the pain from physical and emotional withdrawal her husband is going through, and given some advice on how she can ease that pain if she wants him to stick around to assist with her illnesses.

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