Last weekend’s fall Bodysex retreat began with Patti and I greeting each of the women naked as they arrived, and asking them to undress. Having been a Bodysex participant myself – before becoming a facilitator – I understood very well the look of fear and nervousness on most of their faces. Arms crossed, eyes down and some holding back tears, the women made their way to the circle and sat down.
When I get ready for a workshop, I spend about an hour setting up the space so that we sit in a perfect circle. Each corner of the room is softly lit, the back jacks are evenly spaced apart, and all the trays have the necessary implements. As Betty says, we're sitting "in the temple".
For me, the week leading into the workshop was over-the-top crazy. I was definitely suffering from Mommy brain but felt a bit more at ease since we were holding a certification workshop. We already know each woman and it has a more celebratory feel.
Most of my life I have felt more comfortable with men than women. I made friends with the 'dudes' and always had a few around to hang with, talk to and make me feel beautiful and valued.
When it came to connecting with women, I walked the tight rope of both desiring to belong and fearing I wouldn't be accepted. I felt sure they would see my flaws and expose me as anything but 'normal.'
I remember my first Bodysex workshop and how excited I was to join the group of women, to see all the unique bodies naked and the beautiful variety of vulvas. Despite my excitement though, the morning of Bodysex all my insecurities rose to the surface.
As a 36 year old mother of 5, I haven’t always been in a place where I embraced pleasure. For years I felt shame in my body and enjoyed sex but thought it was more for the other than it was for me.
No one had ever told me that sex could be just as much about me and my pleasure as it was about my partner’s. Even though it felt good, I was ashamed of that and held back parts of myself so as to not go too far with it. I didn’t think that I deserved it.
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