Betty sketched these vulvas for the release of her international best seller Sex for One.
Back in the 70's, during the Genital Show & Tell ritual in her Bodysex workshops, Betty started identifying the "style" of each vulva using architectural styles as a reference. Here they are: Classical, Gothic, Modern, Renaissance, Baroque, and the Heart.
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Betty took it one step further and had women talk about their sex lives. It's how she learned that most women had genital shame and didn't know how to stimulate themselves to orgasm.
I just love this piece. Who knew that women get erections just like men:
I love the sentiment of this Valentine Betty drew in 1987.
First, she dedicates it to herself (I think she should be credited with the selflove movement) and then the love she has for "all my friends, lovers and strangers all over planet earth".
I’ve been designing my end game as anyone who has followed my blog knows. You would be surprised how many respond with an image of eternal life and I’m being rather morbid to speak of it ending. Yet it does. As I’ve designed how I have sex how could I not design my death? I consider the true measure of a person’s success is how they end up in old age.
I remember Mother did not want to end up in a nursing home where her oldest sister was. For the last 12 years of Aunt Mae’s life she was in a wheelchair with cancer slowly eating away her upper lip. All she wanted to eat was the desserts they served as she craved sugar to feed her cancer. It was a slow boring death with just my Mother visiting her once a month.
Here I am, sitting at my computer feeling numb. What just happened to America, the land that I love? We were so close to having our first woman president and poof!
We included this picture in the new edition of Betty's memoir. Here she is vamping it up in black lace back in the 80's.
Would be amazing to go back in time and have a drink with this woman.
I love Betty's baby picture. Whenever we travel internationally and I fill out her passport forms, it's amazing to fill in "1929" as her date of birth.
Who would have thought that an iconic sex revolutionary would be born in Kansas almost 90 years ago. <3
This past weekend we had our last workshop of the season. We were overbooked, had some last minute cancellations, and filled the slots from our wait list. The most amazing women sit in our circles - somehow the "right" women find their way to the "right" workshop.
We had women from Australia, Canada, Hawaii, the Northeast and the West Coast....sex workers, probation officers, students and a former nun. Betty and I were struck by the gifts and the strength of these women, how fortunate we are to call them sisters. I feel like I'm ruined for ordinary friendships because of the deep connections we create through Bodysex. The women who move forward with certification cross over into family.
When the NY Times ran a story on Betty's sex parties, they had a photographer come by and take several photos for the piece.
I believe this was taken on her roof...it never ran...
Without a doubt you know more about my past than any other person alive. So allow me to correct a minor detail here.
As we all know, the NYTimes has become the newspaper of the 1% but even in the 70's it was stll very conservative.
The photo was taken by Grant Taylor at miy friends house in the country to escape the phone after the article about group sex came oot. Sheila is behind me to represent the many armed goddess. Thanks for a quick trip in our time machine. And thanks for being my biographer.
Dear Dr. Betty,
Hope I'm not being too nosey. I would like to know what your sex life with men is like these days?
Hi W, Since I'm about as far "out" sexually as you can get, I loved your question. As you might suspect, not many men (young or old) are interested in having sex with an "older" woman, especially one as knowledgeable as I am. They want youth with no comparisons which keeps alive the "virginity myth."
Since I did the same thing when I was in my seventies (The youth of old age.) I understand this. During that decade I was living with a man who was some forty years younger. Our sexlife was spectacular! I was also teaching him all that I'd learned as a sexually active woman.
I wasn’t looking for what I found when I found Betty, my teacher and mentor. I was looking for something but what I found was different than what I thought I was going to find. Even when I found her it took about a year for me to know what that something was. I don’t mean her. She is as real as they come and a national treasure in my book. “The feminist of all feminists,” to quote Carlin her business partner.
Since we just passed our ten year mark working together as equal partners, I took a moment to reflect. Looking back, I realized I’d spent more time looking for a business partner than looking for Mr. Right. The man I married was Mr. Wrong so I couldn’t even trust my own judgment. After the divorce, I was dedicated to art, enjoying working alone in my studio. Standing in front of a canvas, I was the Queen who answered to no one.
Betty and I have released 367 videos on youtube. When we started almost a decade ago, we didn't think we'd have enough content - enough to say - to produce more than several clips. There's always some new wrinkle, some new question to answer. Human sexuality is so vast especially when your focus is female orgasm.
People write in and say that they let our clips run one after the other and listen at work or at home. That 4-7 weekly clip has done more to grow our brand and it costs us nothing but our time. We chat about a topic, sit down in front of the camera, talk for several minutes then I edit the clip, we watch it together, and post to youtube. It's not produced. There's no script or flashly intro. The point was to make it easy so we'd do one every week and we have.
This past holiday was the best one of all. I made a decision not to go anywhere or have any celebration that was in any way related to Xmas or New Years Eve. It’s been my experience that most people are really stressed out over family and close friends with all kinds of expectations that it’s best to wait until it’s all over.
The day before the first of the year, Veronica Vera called and asked what I was doing on the last evening of 2015 and I answered “Absolutely nothing. Want to join me?” She’s on her way over now while I have a bottle of champagne chilling in the fridge. A new little place just opened two blocks away that specializes in Ramen. I just ordered several items on their menu to check out their food for our Japanese feast this evening of mostly appetizers.