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Dear Betty,

Since me and my boyfriend have been dating I've just not been sexually motivated to want to have sex with him. I have endometriosis which causes sex to be really painful at times and its difficult for me to want intercourse. Sometimes I won't even get sexually aroused at all... It's really frustrating. I’ve tried to talk to my doctors about this but they seem not to be interested in talking about it. Is there any natural way to help me with this problem? It says in the book to take ginseng... is there anything else that might help?

Hi Dr. Betty,

Firstly, I'd like to say that I really admire your work; I've learnt a great deal from your website and the TV show you did in GB recently! Where to start? My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over five years now. I am 22 and he is nearly 25 years old. For the last 18 months or so, our sex life has slowly dwindled and has now reached the stage where we don't have sex for well over a month at a time. I have quite a high sex drive and always have had a higher sex drive than my partner, but he seems to have lost his libido almost completely. We have a wonderful relationship in other respects; both of us talk about our plans for the future and I have no doubt that he loves me and wants us to stay together.

Hi Betty:

I'm concerned because I've been with my husband for 5 years (married for 1) and I'm no longer sexually attracted to him. However, I am very excited about flirting with other men and possibly making out with them. I know my husband is monogamous and I've told him that I like to flirt and he's ok with that and ok about me getting male attention if it's innocent. But I wonder if having these desires will continue until I act on them (and then escalate if I do).

Hey Dr. Betty-

Oh I wish it were that simple as not coordinating & giving orgasms. To start with, I work from and stay at home and manage the family. Second orgasms used to be plenty when we were having a lot of/a reasonable amount of sex- the waterfalls never ended, we needed plastic beneath. She was a bang, in the shower and raring to go.

Dear Dr Betty,

My wife seems to never want to have sex. We started out 6 years ago strong and now I can't remember the last time she touched me on her own, without my prompting. This has gone on for two years or so. I have tried romantic approaches in all shapes and forms and not that it doesn't occasionally work, it just seems like she has no need for sex and has stated this too. On average we may have intercourse once a week if I am lucky. Dr Betty I have loved sex since as early as I can remember. To me the thrill and pleasure is limitless, especially the intimacy sharing part. On the other hand, my wife always has an excuse either it's the wrong time of day, the kids, etc. I have heard it all.