Why Is It So Hard to Get Wet?

Betty Dodson's picture
Mon, 01/26/2009 - 10:20
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I've been married for almost 4 years and I don't understand why it is so difficult for me to get wet. My husband tells me that before I used to get wet very quick and now he has to touch me and kiss for almost an hour before I get wet. I don't understand because I really want to do it and I like it when he touches me I really enjoy it, but no matter what he does I don't get wet. Is there something wrong with me?

Dear SJ,

Ah yes, the mystery of a woman's vaginal lubrication. We are either too wet or not wet enough or dry as a desert. Maybe we'll discover some day that our polluted environment, the food we eat, all the meds we consume or the stress of modern day living takes a toll on our vulvas. In the past, I've been doing the dishes and felt wetness in my panties and I wasn't thinking about sex. But right before making love I could be dry as a bone. Finally I learned to use some additional lubrication when my brain wanted sex but my body was not responding. Once the action began, I was fine and it all felt good. Get a good lubricant like Sliquid Organics Natural Lube. Keep it next to yur bed and use it freely. A personal lubricant is the number one sex toy. Never mind your experiences of before, for whatever reason your body is telling you to moisturizer your entire body. Go for it.

Dr. Betty

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Mon, 01/26/2009 - 16:09

If I might add to this discussion, from my own experience, I too have noticed that once the exciting newness of a relationship ends, I have trouble getting wet too.  It seems like at first, just looking at my man would cause instant wetness, but it would fade.  Of course, a drop in hormone levels due to menopause didn't help the situation and since I refuse to take HRT, I've found my own solution.

Absolutely on the lubrication, that is a so important but even more so is realizing that my body is not reacting on it's own, so I had to learn to involve my mind more.  If I want to plan an evening of hot sex, I get myself ready before he even arrives.  I love porn!  And with the internet it's very easy and secure to watch in private.  I will take extra time to prepare my body (long bath, shave, primp, etc.) and by the time he walks in the door I'm all over him, no foreplay needed.  I love it, he loves it and after a while, just thinking about planning an evening together gets me wet!