Want to Orgasm WITHOUT Ejaculating

Hi Betty,

I've been having orgasms for about 6 years now. The first time I had one was with someone else - we both had a "what the heck just happened?!" reaction, since I absolutely soaked the sleeping bag. My orgasms have been like that since - I am definitely a gusher. However, ejaculating is not always an option. I'm spending the next few months away from home - staying with friends, camping, and sleeping in places where excessive use of towels would either be noticed, or not available at all. Can I somehow teach myself to have orgasms without ejaculating? I'm ready to burst, and masturbation to just before orgasm isn't cutting it! Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks so much!!

Dear EG,

Since your first orgasm was with someone else, my question is what kind of stimulation was taking place? I would hope that you have since learned how to give yourself an orgasm. If not, then that's where you need to start, with your own clitoral stimulation. Check out my info under "First Orgasm". Also you can read "The G-spot Revisited", an essay I wrote expressing my opinion.

Throughout the 80's everyone wanted to know how to squirt and now my questioners ask how to stop squirting. You'll need to observe how you are using the pelvic floor muscles. If you are bearing down as you get close to coming, that will empty your urethral sponge that houses all those tiny prostate-like glands. Depending on how toned your PC muscle is, pushing out vigorously can also empty your bladder if the muscle is weak. You can tell by putting a finger inside your vagina and squeezing the muscle on it. (Stop the flow of urine to locate the muscle.) If you feel very little you'll need to read the info under Betty's Vaginal Barbell and start doing your Kegel exercises regularly. Otherwise, you'll be packing a big bag of Huggies on all of your camping trips.

Dr. Betty