Is Suction F*cking Real?

Betty,

I am currently reading up, in bits and pieces, on the famous and inquisitive 19th century soldier, explorer, ethnographer, liguist and diplomat Captain Sir Richard Francis Burton, of Arabian Nights, Kama Sutraand Perfumed Garden fame. Sexology was his life-long passion. He claimed to have participated during his travels in numerous sex acts with the native poeple of India, the Middle East and East Africa, as he describes it. Can that be true???

He claimed in a letter to a friend that the "Orientals" (Indians) fuck foremost by the woman straddling the man and just sitting on his cock, without any thrusting. The woman brings the man to orgasm solely by rythmically contracting her vagina (with her PC muscles) while he is inside her.

Since you are a great expert on this topic, could you please let me know whether that is possible? I enjoyed in my life sex with several partners who were well versed in Kegel exercises and, therefore, could practicesuction fucking, but only in combination with thrusting, not just by itself.

I look forward to your kind answer.

K

Dear K,

It's a marvelous image: a woman creating an orgasm in her partner by squeezing her PC muscles. The few times I experimented with this was with a partner who had actually been to an ashram in India where they taught Tantra practices.

To my best knowledge, this is more like a meditation that is aimed at teaching a man come control rather than a "hot fuck" that leads to mutual orgasms. Tantra folks call this "Yab Yum" and it seems to be more about "running energy" than end pleasure.

As for the woman with the strong PC muscles, she is simply his vessel or teacher who is not expected to get off. When I did Yab Yum with a partner, we both used our PC muscles and he ended up using small thrusts to stay hard. Since there was no clitoral contact for me, I didn't even try to orgasm but rather enjoyed the genital contact and co-ordinated breathing.

For me, the "suction fuck" as I called in my book includes both partners using their PC muscles with slow rhythmic movements that are the opposite of fast friction in and out thrusting we see in so many movies and porn. Slower movements allows both parties to feel more. But everyone seems to be in a big hurry these days. Americans seem to be more interested in sex scandals than actually learning sex skills to improve their sexlives. Pity!

Dr. Betty