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Should I Invest in a Vibrator?

Published September 12th by Betty Dodson
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Hey Betty,

Well I'm 19 have had sex a couple of times and can't orgasm. I have been masturbating ever since I was a little girl but haven't orgasmed. Am I doing something wrong? I used to think that I masturbated for a couple of minutes and that lengthening the session would help. This didn't though. Should I invest in a vibrator? I've looked at your 1st time orgasm page and have tried it but it wasn't successful for me. I've asked my friends about it and most of them orgasm really easily. Where am I going
wrong?

Dear E,

I suggest you ask yourself what you think an orgasm is like? If you weren't having small comes at least, why would you continue to masturbate throughout your childhood? I suspect your expectations of what an orgasm is like are not allowing you to tune into what's actually happening to your body. A couple of minutes will net you nothing. More like an hour would make sense. Go back and read my suggested steps. Get a battery vibe. Don't expect a grand mal seizure. Instead of being so focused on orgasm, just enjoy everything that feels good and keep going.

Dr. Betty

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Every Woman Should Own A Vibey

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Submitted by Miss Moonlight on Sat, 09/19/2009 - 05:14.

In my humble opinion ever woman should own a vibey.  I have 3 including a waterproof one for the bath and I have recently invested in a small one for my travels.  A more liberated friend of mine even bought her daughter one for her birthday!  If you can, go somewhere where you can switch on before you buy and look for near silence.  A noisy one can be very off putting and akin to a cement mixer in the bedroom.

Good luck, I'm sure you'll get there!  x

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