No Feeling Inside My Vagina

Dear Betty,

I am 23 and enjoying experimenting with my great new (& first) boyfriend. I do reach orgasm by myself (clit) and as well when he is stimulating it (finger/dick), but I don't feel anything "good" inside my vagina while having sex. Well, I feel there is "something" inside me, but it doesn't feel any good or special at all. Though I don't get into the "mood" too easily, most of the time it's him who starts and both of us would be loving it if it was me as well, who really wants to do it. I really think he's hot and I love being sexual with him but I don't seem to get as crazy as him about it all!?

Thanks for an answer and the really really great job you're doing here!!
C

Dear C,

Always nice to have a great new boyfriend. While a handful of women do have orgasms from penetration alone, most of us want some kind of direct clitoral stimulation as you have discovered. Since guys are usually assured of coming, they can't get pregnant, testosterone drives their desire for sex more urgently and it's all taking place inside OUR bodies, so yes, sex is easier for them. The way women more often "get in the mood" is from smooching, erotic touch, and a sweet contact on our clits with a nice massage oil for at least 10 minutes OR MORE! Too bad men and women can't experience each others bodies to better understand our differences.

Dr. Betty