My Clitoris Is Too Small

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Mon, 06/29/2009 - 12:14
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I have been looking at your gallery and at other sites, and then have looked at my own vulva, and have found out that I have a very small clitoris. I never gave this any thought before, but now I am pretty much obsessed about it. I barely have a hood, my labia beginning almost right at the point my outer labia meet. You can barely feel my clit with a finger, less alone see it. It seems to be situated rather deeply too. When stimulated though, I can feel the shaft. My partner recently commented on the size of my clit as well, saying how small it was. Since then I have a hard time cumming, taking me a long time, and sometimes I cant even cum at all.

This worries me since before I could make myself cum very fast if I wanted, and now, even if all I want is release, I cant. I have even bought the hitachi magic wand after reading your site, and not even that has helped me achieve orgasm. The only way I can achieve orgasm now is through penetration. I miss my clit orgasms so much though! How can I get them back and enjoy myself once more without thinking that I am less of a woman because I have a small clitoris?

Thank you,


Dear L,

I suggest you take a photograph of your vulva, exposing your clitoris and if you don't want to post it on the site send it to me directly. Let me be the judge as to the size of your clitoris. In all my many years of experience, even the smallest still has 8,000 nerve endings.

Dr. Betty


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Your small Clit

Sat, 03/14/2015 - 19:43
PrinceMo (not verified)

Ok I want a ClitPic too.
My guess is it is all in your head because you said it worked fine til you started thinking/overthinking it.
I have a friend going thru the same thing.
Take my advice just stop thinking about it and enjoy!
Your man is still getting the same pussy even wit dat little clit of yours.
You are the only one missing out because of the bull shit in your head.!

Re "my clitoris is too small"

Mon, 09/21/2015 - 16:21
QC (not verified)

I can empathize, because mine is also small and hidden.  I never had orgasms until probably my mid-20's.  Boyfriends never found it, and when discussing orgasms with other women I would hear things like "I can just rub a little against the sheets - that's how I discovered orgasm.."  I had no idea what they were talking about.
I think that since your orgasms were just fine before this "discovery" that the issue is mostly a mental one.  But it's a good discussion, for sure.  :)

Yeah the guy I'm with said my

Tue, 03/08/2016 - 11:00
Jellybeans (not verified)

Yeah the guy I'm with said my clitoris is small to. I'm gonna b 38 in a few days. I can honestly say I never ever had a orgasm. I get soaked but that's it. What can I do?

Small clitoris

Mon, 03/21/2016 - 11:55
Hmk77 (not verified)

I am the same way, I am extremely small and find myself being fustrated during Intercourse because I don't have orgasims without having a stimulate myself and it takes forever to reach the goal. Find myself being embarrassed and having to fake it to please my partner so he doesn't think it's something wrong with him  however when I started taking clomid and would be ontop BOOM 1st time ever! But only while on clomid and let's not forget he was also 9in which helped reach the gspot and me having a naturally high positioned cervix. Without the clomid I can not hit climax without self stimulation. Giving clomid greatly increase's chances of pregnancy, I have pcos and my hormones are also unbalanced,  gives me that hormone that I need. So try clomid it work's for me

Can this be of use Hmk77?

Mon, 03/21/2016 - 20:37

I don't think your problem is physical, it's probably psychological. The first thing is "never fake it" - do you realise how your partner may feel if he doubts you are "for real" - never do it, it's fraudent. Second, "Let go" - don't strive to orgasm, just enjoy. Third and most important, stimulate yourself, vaginal sex is probably nice, but it won't give you an orgasm if you or your partner doesn't stimulate your clitoris.

My partner says

Mon, 03/21/2016 - 21:09

She saw this after I posted, and she thinks it's OK, but she thinks I should have put masturbation first - she does it often and all it does is it turns her on. She likes it, I like her liking it, it's all good. She says "Practice". But she also wants to know about Clomid, is it marketed in Australia under another name? She wants to know the chemical name, she says it sounds good. She says Clomifeme is prescribed for infertility but is this the same? If so, there is no known sexual effect, so you may break new ground! Viagra get back!